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Me? Addicted? Noooo...
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Me? Addicted? Noooo... I've been accused of being a sex addict. Given the nature of where this blog is and what i get up to in my life, one can present a valid argument. And, its not that big a deal anyways, right? But, given my stand on it (i've always thought it was a poor excuse for gettin caught  ), lemme present my argument.It all started a few weeks back when we decided we'd take our relationship up a notch, and the girlfriend came clean with her side of the story (her yet-to-be ex-husband, etc etc). So, part of that required me to explain mine too. I guess its always gonna be challenging trying to explain already being in two loose relationships (one who is my employer, which she initially had trouble dealing with, and the other a married couple) and having a few more...fwbs. She was a lil appalled at first, so i gave her the long story about how it all began years ago, and how its, aside from some issues that pop up here and there, working for me now. So this topic dominated our conversation for a few days and she then came to the conclusion that i am a sex addict. It has made me wonder. Now, i don't just have random sex with strangers, i keep it to the few that i feel comfortable with. I've also brought it up with the few that i'm involved with and they agreed that it was a possibility, but not conclusive. I mean, its not like i fuck up (woo...pun detected!) my life due to my wanting to have sex...okay, forget i said that. I DID have to leave two jobs cos of it...hmm..moving on! With some digging, over the last few years, the longest i've gone without sex is about a week (9 days, to be exact). I've tried holding out for longer but was never able to At this point, i can't help but be very grateful, but also gasp at my inability to do so. Does that mean i'm a sex addict? I don't think so. Will i try to hold out again just to see if i can? I sincerely doubt i will  So where does this leave me? I'm not really sure. There was a point to this earlier but i can't seem to recall it now...anyways. Its been 2 and a half weeks since it got brought up. The girlfriend thinks i should try<b> celibacy </font></b>for a few weeks, just to see if i can manage. Physically, and practically, we fail at that everytime we meet.  That, and not to mention me and my 'employer' when the office is empty. Don't get me wrong..i'm definitely not complaining. Now how do i tell her that i've been asked if i want to spend 3weeks in bali with the married couple i'm involved with? Ah well...
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Honesty is most important for a relationship... As long as both of you are sincere and honest to each other, then this relationship will lasts.. All the best to your relationship... i wish you all the best. Take care Jack
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bring her along to bali with you? definitely more fun
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the longest i've gone without sex is about a week (9 days, to be exact) I think the notion of "sex addiction" only makes sense to discuss in the sense of some unusual psychological wiring . . . someone who was abandoned or abused (or at least felt unloved) as a child, say . . . someone who was obese before and treated cruelly who has slimmed down and has something to prove . . . and so on. Just having a lot of sex . . . with multiple partners . . . nah, that's maybe not "usual or customary" (even if most people would be jealous . . . laughing). But come on - addiction is a pathology. Just how exactly is fucking frequently hurting you ? See, I didn't think so. My theory about abstinence (from sex) is that it gets easier, the longer you go without. I mean think about priests or nuns who take life-long vows of celibacy. Do you think they could manage if "the longer you go without, the harder it becomes" ? Libido or sex-drive is a bit like the muscles in your body. If you exercise them regularly, they become stronger, fitter and more capable. If you ignore them, eventually they diminish to the point of atrophy. Another way to say that is that "the more I fuck . . . the more I WANT to fuck". It isn't like eating, where once I get full, I lose interest. Hmmm . . . I'm sure your girlfriend is lovely, since you seem to have a strong interest in her. But her theories about your sex-addiction and the need for you to practice celibacy seem misguided. Sometimes you simply need to agree to disagree, Heidi.
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Of course you are not a sex addict. It is really the blokes who are to blame, they obviously cant keep their hands off you (or should I rather say, they cant keep their dicks out of you?) When I was your age I may have considered myself an addict but for a bloke in those days when there was no internet, sex was just so much harder to cum by. Even 9 weeks between each shag was considered a bloody luxury. But there was no ways I could go 9 days without wanking, no, not even 9 bloody hours. Sir Teezalot WAR IS ABSURD
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I don't see anything to suggest that you are a sex addict. Your sex life may be a bit unconventional and you may be getting sex in more of a variety of ways than most people do but that does not make you a sex addict. Here is my take on it: you went without sex for nine days; if you were a sex addict, you would have been looking to have sex everyone of those nine days. If you weren't looking to do so, then you are not a sex addict.  AKA The Clit Whisperer. 
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