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Hot Lists, Not Lists, Love at First Fright
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Hot Lists, Not Lists, Love at First Fright What's on my hot list? SOOTHING, LAUGHING VOICE As you can tell from my handle I consider voice more important than looks. Whether it's a beautiful accent or authoritative and decisive (for role-playing dominant), or soothing and flattering to ease away the stresses of the day, or easy-going and laughing. I like to find our whether we like each other's voices before spending weeks on emailing somebody who answers the phone with yeah, dunno, somethin' and nothin'. EASY TO PHONE What had you in mind? Erotic chat? Can you use the phone easily and give me a day and evening number? If I give you my number can you phone me daytime and evenings? WILLING TO TRAVEL Or are you expecting to find out whether you like the sound of me and then invite me out to a platonic flirtatious, romantic dinner? If so, let's see if I'm within your driving range. I'm in NW London. Do you have a car and satnav? IDEAL MAN PHOTO I'd love to see a face photo, though I must admit I've had long-term relationships with people who were completely off my wishlist, having all the things on my taboo list: grey or white hair and missing middle section or completely bald. The man who didn't have enough hair, and stood next a crappy little house, had the most wonderful soothing phone voice. After a year of lovely phone chats, I agreed to meet. He was Mr Perfect. If only he'd lived nearer. NOT LISTS What else is on my not list? A man who was a vegetarian without a car. But I'd really like to see him again. And another who had a and owned a gun. He's deceased. Not the gun. Not the dog. He died because he was too old. So I'd prefer somebody who isn't about to die. When I say a long-term relationship, I man I don't want to<b> meet a man </font></b>who is terminally ill. Yes, Anna Nicole Smith did. Maybe I'm wrong about this. Okay, if you are a ninety-year old millionaire, you can try to persuade me. Guns. Yes, I know Americans all have guns. But a Brit with a gun is a bit suspicious. A normally steer clear of a man who mentions guns or killing people. Even in a joke. Suggests underlying hostility. Yet I had a long-term relationship with a man who had a locked cabinet of guns and was really kind. MR RIGHT - WHAT COULD GO WRONG? I married a man who had the right things on my hot list. But I wasn't on his hit hot list so that didn't last. We were complementary. Mr Efficient and Miss Creative. He got more efficient and minimalist. I got more creative, more scatty, more of a hoarder. I was a traveller. He'd hardly ever left the country. I made him travel the world. He went to the tropics. He never came back. EVERYBODY'S ON THE LIST So just for a date, who knows, I'd be easy-going and flexible. I'll have a platonic lunch with almost anybody who's willing to come and meet me. You never know. LOVE AT SECOND SIGHT Sometimes it's not love at first sight. Just a dull person who has all the right qualities. He tries to persuade you that he is worthy, Mr Right. Or the perfect friend. I have a perfect friend. But he's got everything on my not list. He's gay. He doesn't drive. He tells me I'm wonderful. I tell him he's wonderful. Sometimes the person you love has all the wrong qualities. It's lust at first sight. Love at first fright. I know I shouldn't but ... He tries to persuade you, although you both know it's hopeless. It's a real challenge to keep the relationship going. Nobody else would understand. You just send electric currents. 'Elizabeth'[   |
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