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The art of the Deep!
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The art of the Deep! Hello folks, Well a day or so back folks were asking how to Deep Throat in a thread that was more geared to planning a party. Rather than cluttering up that thread I offered to start a separate one. So here it is. -------------- The Moshpet's Guide to the Deep Throat. -------------- I am sure many of you have heard of or seen the movie Deep Throat and wondered how the heck does she do that? Perhaps many of you have tried to do it only to either gag or choke horribly. Or in the worst of events, actually may have vomited on your partner. First up let me say, you did nothing wrong. You body has the gag reflex for a reason, it is there to keep you from choking or eating things that are bad for you. The main culprit in this is that tiny sack of flesh hanging in the back of your throat: The Uvula. The Uvula is one of those odd and only slightly handy evolutionary bits we all got stuck with. Much like the appendix and tonsils. Yes we can all live with out them, and many people have, though they are 'useful'. The problem is these bits tend to over act at the wrong times. But aside from medical emergencies, Doctors leave them be. ---------- Medical diversion aside: How does a person get past the gag reflex and on to the 'fun bits?' Answer: Practice. Yes it is a bit more complex than that but it will take a bit of time to teach yourself to ignore that reflex. The easiest tool to lay your hands on, is literally your hand or index finger. EXERCISE #1 Finger Fun! (You may want to try this looking in a mirror.) With clean hand/finger open you mouth and look in the mirror, your 'target' for your finger is both the Uvula and the far back part of your tongue as it dips back into your throat. The goal of this exercise is to reach back, and 'gently' touch both the uvula and the back of your tongue. More than likely you will gag, it is expected, take a breath, repeat a few times and go do something else for a bit. But no more than 5 times. Huh? Not keep practicing? No, what you want is to teach your sub-conscious and conscious mind is that this is a -normal- activity. Which means you want to be relaxed when you do it. Doing it 30-40 times in a session is not a relaxing experience. You will likely want to do this a few times a day, each time you go into the batch room you end up near a mirror, so you will have a few times a day where the opportunity is there to practice with a mirror. You may be asking why am I touching my tongue back there too? Its a two part reason, first up, is that the back of the tongue is slightly 'ticklish' too. The second part is that it helps to provide a 'distraction' two different sensations. ---------- Ok you have gone a few days with the first exercise and are ready for something new. Exercise #2 : Spoon soon. By now hopefully you are noticing a lesser sensitivity to the gag reflex. But rather than diving onto you partners pole and hoping for the best, it's time for more practice. Go into your kitchen and select a spoon, no you do not want a large one. (One that is -not- pointed or squared in the handle is best, or a tea spoon with small spooned end and a long handle. Spoon in hand place the larger end in your palm and go to the mirror. The point of this exercise is to learn how to feel with your tongue and your mouth. Also we are eliminating the feedback your finger provides. After all you will only be able to tell where your partners penis is by feeling it with your mouth and tongue. Now open your mouth and place the small end of the spoon on your tongue and -slowly- slide it along your tongue to touch the Uvula. Do not be surprised if your gag reflex is present, relax, back the spoon out of your mouth, take a calming breath, and repeat. This too you will want to do only about five times a session. Remember, you are -teaching- your body to be calm and relax, also to not gag. Set the spoon some place safe and smile. ---------- Excursive #3: Other objects. By the time you have reached this point your road to having a firm control of your gag reflex is in sight. First a bit of anatomy: (What again? Yes again.) You have all likely have seen sword swallowers on tv or the movies. You will see that they tilt their heads back lick the blade or other object and it glides down their throat. Ok, why do they tilt their heads back? It's the angle of the throat, secondly a sword is long... rigid and sharp. If you look in the mirror with your mouth open, you will see that the back of your throat takes a definite 45-80 degree tilt back and downwards. So you have to be aware of that angle. Nothing going into your mouth and throat will do so if you do not adjust your position. Since you most likely can slip under your Uvula and touch the back of your throat by now. Place your finger in the back of your throat and curl it slowly downwards. If you slide it down into your throat, you may notice a slightly tough flap of skin that moves slightly. This is the place where your lungs and stomach take a different path. The back section where your nail is, goes down into your stomach. The front where the pad of your finger is, leads to the lungs. Now relax and don't panic, the angle of the two paths will never cross during sex. But, remember that the Sword Swallowers licks their blades? It is to make sure there is no friction when the insert the blade. What does that mean to you? Lots. Should you reach the point where you want to feel your lover in your throat, lubrication will make all the world of difference. Especially if you are nervous. (Cotton mouth is a sign you are not relaxing.) Most oils, lubes or even spit will work here, also your body will help some as well, with extra mucus. The choice of what to use largely is a matter of taste. If it tastes bad you won't want it in your mouth. Also some lube provide a bit of desensitizing or<b> numbing </font></b>effect also handy in suppressing the gag reflex. Numbing can work both ways though, so if you want to keep your lover hard for a time, it may work to both of your advantages. -- Ok You've got your object or your lover in hand, its oiled up etc, now what. Position, rather angle comes into play. You may want to be laying or reclining for your first few endeavors, simple because it will take some stress off of your body and neck. If you are doing this with your partner, remind them you are the one in -charge- first. Yes it may look hot to see that sexy person held deeply in place on someone’s penis, it is another to be held there and panicking. (If need be cup their balls with your free hand. Claw or jerk them as needed.) (Conversely you may play with them to increase their pleasure.) Ideally, for whatever object you are intending to slide down on; you want to add an additional 30-40 degrees or more to angle in the back of your throat. Bluntly speaking, looking 'chin to chest' downward on it, or coming at it with out having your head tilted up, won't get it in. With them lubed up, slide them back to the back of your throat, or slide the object there. The initial goal is to get comfortable with having them (or the object) resting at the back of your mouth without gagging. Do this as many times as you feel like. I am sure your partner will not mind. What, not all the way in? Well, it's more to get used to the fact that you have a large object there. Remember you are teaching your body to relax and not gag. If you are forcing the issue, you are not relaxing. ---------- Lesson 4: OMG! It's in. Well almost. Hopefully you have worked your gag reflex into submission and are unstressed by feeling any object in the back of your throat. if you are still having a small bit of it, don't fret, this isn't a race. Just take your time and repeat the other exercises. Ok, back to biology. (What again? Yes.) Penises come in many sizes and lengths, however your throat only comes in one size. (Though with -gentle- practice it will become more accommodating.) A good rule of thumb is that if you can't rest it easily in your mouth it won't go into your throat. Sorry guys being -overly- thick here isn't going to help. But, and it is a big but. The crown or head of a penis if you will, will shrink under pressure. Eg. If you pinch it or put pressure on it will deform. So if the person pushing into the back of their throat can ease it in you are in luck, if not, just enjoy the ride and don't force them. Folks the hard and fairly safe rule for swallowing any object is, that if it won't fit, don't force it! If you want a rough guide for size wise: Pinch your thumb and forefinger together around the object in question. If you have a gap of more than a quarter inch to half inch under the crown of the penis or other object, consider not doing it. (Remember the crown will shrink to fit with pressure.) -- Ok let us say size wise everything is 'just right'. Lube and Angle are your best friends. Make sure your object or partner is well lubed up, next get comfortable and find a position that will let you side it into your throat as deeply as -you- want. (Remind your partner -you are the one in charge-.) Once the head of the penis is once more in the back of your throat, slowly slide downwards on it allowing it to ease into your throat. Once in, you may feel as if you are choking. Relax, do -not- clench your teeth together. Slide up and off of the object and take a breath. Remember you are in control relax and repeat.  ---------- Some additional notes of importance. The male penis will expand slightly during orgasm or even during periods of heightened excitement. It's -normal-, if the penis is in your throat during his orgasm and he is lost in the thrall of his orgasm, relax and try to remain with it there as long as you can. Why you might ask? Well it is a matter of reflex, once you slide it out of your throat, you will want to breath. If you inhale while he is going off, you will end up coughing badly, I am sure you have inhaled water while swimming, it’s like that. Annoying. The next day you may feel like you are slightly chafed in the throat. Essentially this is a reminder to use more lube. Also you may feel like you have a sore throat as if from a cold. This is due to the fact you have stretched things somewhat. Take a day or so off of the exercises to recover and then pick it up gain. Breathing. How much, when etc. are a matter of practice. If you exhale before allowing it into your throat, you may find you have to get it out faster. (Need to breath reflex.) If you excessively inhale then slide the object down, you lungs will force air out while it is in. (Not comfortable.) Like anything breath control is a matter of practice. One bit you may try, once you have learned your partners signals that he is close to orgasm, is to briefly take a few quick breaths and keep your partner deep in your throat, working to make him orgasm. Deliberately if you will, surrendering your control to his orgasm. ---------- One key thing to remember in all of this. You are in control. Not your partner. You. Yes you may willingly surrender control to your partner in -play-, but when it all comes down to it: Whose teeth are around whose penis? =========================== Now a note from me your host: On a side note, if you are practicing breath control in your 'play,' you would be wise to have a phone handy for your partner. It would be even better if the -both- of you knew first aid and CPR. Safe*, Sane and Consensual Sex is the best way after all. (*Safe isn’t about condoms, it is about not permanently damaging you partner or killing them by accident. Condoms are between you and your partner, literally.) ================================================= The Moshpet, just this guy, you know? |
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