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Sexual Cotton Candy!
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Sexual Cotton Candy! Cotton Candy....that sticky, sweet, melt in your mouth stuff that none of us needs....but most of us can't resist. In our lives, there is alot of sexual "cotton candy" offered to us. We have to choose to eat it and lick our fingers afterwards or not. I was thinking how innocent I was when I got married....as far as sex goes I mean. Oh...I thought I knew it all. I knew how to turn a guy on....I loved to kiss...and I did so with my whole heart, mind, body and soul. And I liked sex....and sleeping in the same bed with my husband and not having to go home to my own bed was wonderful. But we were truly innocents. I'm reading some of your tales of sexual prowess here...and I'm remembering things. Things that happened long, long ago...and if we had taken advantage of them....we wouldn't be such sexual "virgins" now. And maybe we wouldn't be wondering what sex with someone other than our spouse would be like. My husband was career Navy. There were many times that his fellow sailors would make a pass at me.....and I turned it down. There was a young girl in Key West Florida that was in our apartment full of friends all stretched out on the floor begging to be taken....and no one did. There was the neighbor in Naples Italy that thought she and my husband would make great babies together....and we laughed. There was the "old" (to me) Italian man who was our landlord that tried to seduce me every time he came to collect our rent.....I never even considered it! Then there were the gorgeous Italian men....who tried to seduce you all the time! Yea...they even laid by the pool side in their speedos and stroked themselves until their hard cocks would be peeking out of the speedo. I looked....didn't ever touch. Then there was the "spiritual" connections that could have easily developed into something else....didn't go there. How about you? Is there something you let pass by that you wish you had taken advantage of? I'd love to hear about it. WHAT "COTTON CANDY" WAS OFFERED TO YOU THAT YOU DIDN'T EAT????  |
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6/5/2006 7:43 am |
I have never had the opportunity present itself for me to turn it down. There are those flirtatious moments that make you think that it might be an opportunity, but not being sure of the situation makes it difficult to know if I did let something pass me by.
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It's never really been offered in a fashion like you describe. Kinda makes me sad. Very vanilla experiences back when I was having sex. I know so much more now and am just looking for the chance to explore and learn even more. When I was younger I think I would have passed things up as well. Now is another story. Something to do with being starving but also a little more bold and confident. Now as far as turning it down. I would not go to bed with a woman for the first time if she was very drunk. I really wouldn't want her to regret things in the morning. I would rather be the gentleman. And maybe some women wouldn't respect that and might get the wrong impression that I didn't want them. But I wouldn't want to feel that I took advantage. Revenge sex? I don't know if I would have sex with a woman who was looking for that. comfort sex when emotionally drained, etc? Probably. SR
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My radar I think is pretty bad. I don't think I really notice when a woman is looking at me in that way. I'm sure I missed lots of opportunities to strike up a conversation that might have lead to somewhere. Although, in my younger days if I had the nerve to pursue it I probably wouldn't have done very well. Not the smoothest guy in the world. Still need to work on it. Ain't self confidence a bitch? I did notice this gay guy eying me when I was out Saturday though. OK, a nice complement but not for me. I tend to be very focused. The direct approach works for me. And when I'm taking to a woman my mind is on the conversation and not what my next move should be or what I should be doing to send the right signals. SR
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6/5/2006 11:06 am |
I was wild when I was young and sampled just about everything 'sweet' before I was married that showed up on my radar screen. When 'SHE' blipped on the screen and I sampled that...why have unsalted, unbuttered, stale popcorn when you can have freshly spun sweet cotton candy that you can never get licked off your fingers? We're talking about tooth decay sweet here! lol Other blips on the radar were just that...blips. The radar was in operation, the airport just became privately controlled. H. 
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6/5/2006 11:43 am |
We're talking about the "if only I knew then what I know now" kind of thing...I would have been even worse when I was younger. I was bad enough as it was in my college days...I do know better now and show much better restraint. Hugs, Cozy
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6/5/2006 12:25 pm |
Had an interesting experience when I was younger...was actually kind of famous in a local context, and had "fans"...but I ended up probably feeling like what a lot of women do when they're hit on just because they present some kind of trophy. The most important thing to me is trust...and that does not come easy. So I've passed on many opportunities, and still do that. There's a lot more to good sex than naked bodies.
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6/5/2006 12:29 pm |
I've always eaten I'm afraid,slut that I am,lol... K
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6/5/2006 2:08 pm |
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6/5/2006 2:44 pm |
I NEVER have passed up on "cotton candy..!!!" I always brush my teeth. 
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6/5/2006 3:54 pm |
Angel, I think that you and I may be very similar in our sexual history. I don't know if my "fidelity" was because I didn't recognize the possibilities that I now can see pretty clearly were all around me when I was young. Maybe it was because of some code of moral values that was instilled in me, maybe it was because I was afraid of rejection... or failure, maybe it was because I was just plain scared, or... maybe it was because I was dumber than a box of rocks. Whatever the reason, I was still a virgin at age 23 when I was married and what's more, I don't regret that for a moment. I have admitted this before and I'll say it again, I had what I would say was a "spiritual connection" with another woman this year. I don't know why it didn't go anywhere... maybe it was the same things that held me back when I was younger. I know that I regret the hurt I caused my wife, I know that she lost a great deal of faith in me and I know that I certainly lost the level of trust she had in me previously. What's done is done, I am only looking forward now. Jeez, I answered a simple question with a biography, I didn't mean to try to take over your blog but I tend to get carried away sometimes. I don't regret the missed opportunities, I just am thankful that I still have my wife and family.
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6/5/2006 4:28 pm |
I ate a Junebug once, does that count  
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6/5/2006 5:06 pm |
I've always said I never regret anything I've done in life angel,all part of the journey. The truth though is,yes I do... K
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6/5/2006 6:42 pm |
Two times I passed on the cotton candy: The first time was when I was in the service and my best friend in the service wanted me to do his wife while he was away. We were all good friends the three of us and there had always been a certain electricity. I told him I couldn't go there that they were too good of friends. With my understanding of the lifestyle now, I sometimes say I should have done it but in retrospect I am glad I didn't it could have damaged a very close friendship. The second was just wrong, still in the service but two years later, I was married she was married. We were nextdoor neighbors and all played cards together almost every night. I took leave for a week and just stayed around the apartment, she came on to me, I was just about to go for it and my now ex-wife showed up early from work. I was glad then, and am glad now but sometimes think back to my hot neighbor. Ouch she was hot and I wanted her bad but it was wrong.
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6/5/2006 7:41 pm |
Dear, I must admit we lived in an opposite universe. I wanted given a total ride to a private all girls college when I was 17. {On a NURSING scholarship!} Total admission was less than 800 so everyone knew you and you knew them. I heard about a job that was in a strip club about 30 miles away. It was in a strip club but I would not be stripping. I would just serve food and drinks to the clients. (innocent enough) The owner turned me down until I was 18 and then I applied again. When I started working there I learned so much about the sexual side of life. I almost took the job as a study of human behavior and the money was great! Soon I learned about the VIP room.....OMG, did I find out a lot of things that a small town girl never thought of!!! I was making $100 an hour minimum (great wages for the early 70"s} and getting all the pleasure! I only worked week-ends and no one in my school or family ever knew exactly what I was doing. (They just could not figure out why I was driving a Corvette) As far as they knew, I was going home or to see an old friend. I learned more there than I could ever imagine. Then....I thought I found the love of my life. Dated 3 years and married 15 years and the sex life was dead. (It is very demoralizing to have to beg for sex!!!} Divorced for 9 years. Then my true mate appeared. {Jon C it will happen - you just never know when) Now I am the innocent! A question was asked on one of these sites if anyone knew what a "fluffer" was...I didn't know. However, my husband advised me that it was a girl that gave BJs to guys to get them ready for porn movies. I did this in the 70's and didn't even know the name of what I was doing!!! I am just trying to get caught up with times and having a great time doing it! Gee, I guess I just spilled my guts. Time to go........ Love, Cheri
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Missed Opportunities... yeah several. I "never" took advantage of anyone who had drank too much... even when it was offered. Couldn't, and won't do it still. I always joked with them by saying, that I wanted them to be able to remember what all happened. Got the opportunity a couple of times later in a more sober momemt, got laughed at, which was cool, and even got yelled at a couple of times. 143, me
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6/6/2006 1:45 am |
in a don't look back mood at the moment....wondering what might be in the future...after all ...they're not finished making candy floss are they?
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