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Etiquette question
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Etiquette question I know most people are here looking for some type of physical connection. I respect that. I am just here to pass some time. I've been here forever and I've made some friends along the way, I like to keep in touch with them. I enjoy the blogs. I'm here solely for online connections. My physical life is too full to add anything to it. I'm quite content. My question is, when responding to a casual message, like "hi, how are you today?" Is it best to just respond with polite small talk or should I immediately let it be known that I'm not meeting anyone? It seems some people get offended that I've "wasted" their time by having a 6-10 message thread only to tell them I'm not interested in meeting. Not interested in meeting, and not interested in them are two totally different things. I can hear about your day, your dog, your crazy ex, I care about your life, I just don't want you in my bed. Honestly, I don't care if I offend people. I'm just curious what the best practice would be. Engage in small talk until an invitation to meet comes up, or immediately lay down the law? |
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Wow . . . this is a tough one! You really can't know how to respond, because some folks are ONLY here for the 'physical' . . . friendship be damned, y'know? . . . & too many have a tendency to respond with hostile replies. Of course, there's things thing called "reading a profile" (what a concept, right?) . . . should be pretty clear by the 1st line in yours [laughing]. I can only speak from my point of view . . . I always appreciate a response to a message (and THAT happens VERY infrequently, unfortunately). To me, it's pretty unrealistic to expect to actually meet someone 200+ (or more) miles away . . . so an 'online friendship' is all that can be reasonably expected. It could be that I'm 'old school' (or just old) . . . but I always appreciate a response . . . whether it's "thanks for writing, but I'm not interested" . . . "thanks for writing, let's be friends & chat about life" . . . or "thanks for writing, how soon can you get here (with appropriate drooling & heavy breathing)  btw . . . always love your posts . . . glad I decided to follow
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If you told me that you didn't want to meet, but would be glad to chat, I'd be glad to chat with you
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This is why I don't reply to many messages. I don't want to tell someone no before they even ask the question, but I don't want to "lead them on".
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When I first read your profile I thought it humorous, an attempt to solicit conversation through reverse psychology. I'm sure many of these clowns considered it a challenge. Shame on them for not doing their research and reading further. When the "question" arises simply reiterate your position, If they still persist or get nasty its a simple thing to block them, that's what its there for
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3/13/2019 10:59 am |
I am just a guest here. I'm not paying to use this to talk. I send out lots of messages nut very rarely ever get a response, even from you. I actually don't even know if my messages ever get to anyone. Or if they are being ignored. I just come in here to talk and unplug from my life. It's fun to talk to complete strangers. Also have enjoyed trading pics on one occasion. But it would be fine with me to tell me your intentions right up front. If they don't like it to bad. I am enjoying reading your blog. Thank you
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