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Is this REALLY me? So I am on another "vanilla" dating site and of course there are always "quizzes" to see things about you.....here is my latest. Some of this I agree with while other parts not so much. ****This is what I do when bored and home alone......and I wonder why I need a man around? lol..... Passion Preludes: The Big Picture of Me 80sbaby71 is not necessarily promiscuous or lacks standards, but the overall answer patterns suggest that 80sbaby71 is exceedingly sensitive to the psychological and physical elements of romance and passion, even to the point they, at times, may lack impulse control. People like this tend to love life with zeal, often living in the moment and trying not to let experiences pass them by. Someone like this is bound to be gregarious and flirtatious in public, becoming extremely sensual and wildly uninhibited behind closed doors. In fact, these individuals are amongst the most passionate of people when the timing is right. What Makes This Type So Attractive? Those of high seducability can be absolute elixirs in and of themselves, with many drawn to this sort for their. . Uninhibited nature. Fun, fun-loving, and provocative, this type is very adventurous and erotophilic, open to trying new things, with many "closeted kinks" when it comes to sexual experimentation. . Lust for the sensual and the act of seduction. Not to be stigmatized as players necessarily, this sort loves anything that entertains their intellect, including the sexual, and that involves pleasure, including the potential for even greater pleasure. . Ability to be fabulous, hopeless flirts. Whether coy, up for tit for tat discourse, or clever in dishing out the flattery, this sort is alluring in their ability to be suggestive and fearless in expressing interest. . Their sensitivity and moodiness. A bit theatrical at times, and not afraid to express themselves in many ways, this sort will always keep you entertained, amusing woo'ers who know how to handle it. Tips for Tempting This Type: Do choose your words and actions wisely. Do what you say and say what you mean. Do show tolerance and maintain a healthy sense of adventure. Playing a little "hard to get" and pacing your interactions can actually heighten arousal and desire. Many long for monogamous, long-term relationships. Don't assume that 80sbaby71 just cares about physical pleasure or living in the moment. Furthermore, don't assume that many have wracked up a high number of sex partners, if that's your concern. Plenty of people in this category have been involved in long-term, often monogamous, relationships where they have established a safe, trusting space for sexual exploration and sharing. Do talk about each other's expectations, needs and wants. Bottom Line: While this type can be into all sorts of high stimuli, becoming easily aroused, don't assume that their ability to realize their highest sexual self on a physical level translates into being able to do that on an emotional or spiritual level in the boudoir, If this is what you're after you may be disappointed. Rather allow yourself to be allured, recognizing that much of what they do is based on their need to be pleased, their desire to be liked and loved, their need to impress, and a deep-seated vulnerability when it comes to being intimate with another. Step 1: How to Approach Me! A person's "approach" to 80sbaby71 lays the foundation for Steps 2 and 3 of seduction. Three elements help define an overall "approach  quot;. What kind of flirt you are (Flirting Style) . How you pace your interactions (Pace) . Your dating attitude (Creativity and Sense of Humor) Let's explore the elements of an "approach" that are likely to get 80sbaby71 to notice you. Know My Favorite Flirting Styles Online dating involves a wide range of possible online flirting behaviors. Men and women prefer many of the same flirting strategies, but those strategies are often weighted slightly differently between the sexes. Let the game of seduction begin. Women's Top Ten Favorite Ways to Have Someone Flirt with Them 1.Talks about things she likes or dislikes, making comments and showing interest 2.Displays concern for her, her feelings and well-being 3.Shares jokes or amusing anecdotes with her 4.Compliments her on her screen name, attitude, personality and appearance 5.Sends her special/cute email messages 6.Makes an effort to contact her in some form most every day 7.Sends instant messages when she and you are online at the same time 8.Discusses seriously the traits she desires in a partner 9.Shows her your daring or mischievous side 10.Emails her greeting cards, gifts, pictures songs or fun attachments Flirting Styles that TURN ME ON 1. Playful and natural (someone who lets the inner shine through). 2. Confident (people who are direct and zero in what they want and go for it). 3. Sexy (in-your-face with exuding sexuality and in being flirtatious with words and touches). When it comes to talking to 80sbaby71 about an offline meeting or date, 80sbaby71 prefers to have someone communicate with them via: instant messaging in person at an event organized by a dating service Generally speaking, 80sbaby71 prefers communicating with people online at least two or three weeks before even considering meeting them offline. Therefore, 80sbaby71 may well want to talk to friends about you and get their feedback. Or, 80sbaby71 may well be trying not to get too caught up in the moment. This can reflect a healthy level of restraint or caution due to past experiences, so respect that. Know How to Talk to Me Communication is important both to men and women - and it is an underrated aspect of seduction. Knowing what not to talk about with a particular person can be just as important as knowing what is fine to talk about. These will be useful when communicating with 80sbaby71. Women's Top Ten Favorite Conversation Topics 1.Hopes and aspirations 2.Hobbies/interests in general 3.Music 4.Dreams 5.Romance 6.Friends 7.Travel 8.Vacations 9.Movies 10.Entertainment Women's Top Ten Least Favorite Conversation Topics 1.Politics 2.Other dates 3.Past relationships 4.Science fiction 5.Religion 6.Celebrities 7.Science 8.Antiques 9.Money 10.History My favorite conversation topics - in 80sbaby71's own words! 1. hobbies 2. family 3. interests My least favorite conversation topics - in 80sbaby71's own words! 1. ex 2. politics 3. Money Know My Preferred Dating Attitude 80sbaby71's answer patterns suggest there should be a good response to someone whose attitude or temperament is downright effervescent. Bottom Line: Show off - even exude - the side of you that is high energy and even a little wild. 80sbaby71 wants to see your sense of humor, creativity and intelligence as well as a positive attitude throughout your words and actions. Step 2: How to Date Me! Building on the "approach" is the way you handle actual dates. Dates should be fun for both individuals and allow the couple to begin knowing each other on deeper level than what is possible with casual online dating. Dating is where you truly explore and assess the chemistry, friendship and overall compatibility between you. However, people's dating preferences can vary widely. So, below are preferences to keep in mind for 80sbaby71! Know How I Like to Pace a Date To 80sbaby71, a first date should last at least one to two hours, and the date would ideally be somewhat planned - I like to have a general idea of what we'll be doing. Know My Favorite Dating Activities Dinner is the classic date - and for good reason. It allows two people to focus on each other in a romantic environment, while satiating their palate and providing the opportunity to suggest ways two people can be mutually pleasured later. But, men and women both agree that some spots are more appropriate than others. The list below shows the top ten choices. Restaurants at the top part of the list are rated the most favorable, whereas those at the bottom are rated less favorable. Notice how those that are least preferred may reflect lower levels of romance to some people. Keep that in mind if you take 80sbaby71 to dinner! Top Ten Restaurant Types for a Date 1.Casual dinner 2.Pub 3.Retro bar with live music 4.French cuisine 5.Ethnic 6.Pizza place 7.Western 8.Salad bar 9.Sushi bar 10.Family dinner Of course, there are a host of dating activities besides the classic dinner and a movie. Women's Top Ten Date Picks 1.Restaurant 2.Taking a romantic walk 3.Park 4.Coffee shop 5.Live music 6.Comedy Club 7.Zoo 8.Bowling or Playing Pool 9.Amusement Park 10.Movies Women's Top Ten Least Favorite Date Picks 1.High School Reunion, Work party or Wedding 2.Antique show 3.Shopping 4.Mixer 5.House Party 6.Cultural Event (opera, ballet, etc) 7.Dance Club 8.Sports activity 9.Sports event 10.Stay in and rent a movie Favorite dating activities - in 80sbaby71's own words! 1. leisure walk 2. movie 3. dinner Least favorite dating activities - in 80sbaby71's own words! 1. club 2. party 3. bar Know My Expectations for Ending a Date Assuming the first date goes well, 80sbaby71 may take it as far as going with the flow. However, this doesn't mean that you should have great expectations, so remain classy, respectful and let the mood develop naturally and gradually. Dating Dos and Don'ts! In figuring out how to best woo a lady, consider avoiding the following turn-off's, as well as incorporating the following turn-on's. Furthermore, consider ways to maintain behaviors well beyond the preliminary stages of dating, as these factors will also help to maintain passion and intrigue in each other. Women's Top Ten Turn-Offs 1.Poor hygiene 2.Bad breath 3.Rude to staff 4.Poor manners 5.Complains a lot 6.Boring 7.Poor listener 8.Puts others down 9.Cheap skate 10.Someone who's self-absorbed Women's Top Ten Turn-Ons 1.Passionate 2.Romantic 3.Good listener 4.Good manners 5.Shows good eye contact 6.Easy going 7.Smiles a lot 8.Attentive to her needs 9.Well-groomed 10.Confident Major TURN ONs - in 80sbaby71's own words! 1. sense of humor 2. eyes 3. love of life Major TURN OFFs - in 80sbaby71's own words! 1. rude 2. stuck up Step 3: How to Sexually Seduce Me! Know My Sexual Personality One's overall sexual personality reflects two core meta-traits that experts traditionally refer to as Alpha and Beta. With respect to sexual motivations, Alpha concerns intimacy and affiliation, and Beta concerns power or dominance. This means that those scoring high on Alpha typically approach sex as a means to an end - such as strengthening an attachment or deepening intimacy with a lover. Those scoring high on Beta tend to regard sex as its own reward. 80sbaby71 scored lower on Alpha and higher on Beta, so we call this profile a "Tiger." Tigers tend to push sexual boundaries - theirs and others. For them, sex is more an outlet for adult play and physical pleasure than it is merely a way to express love and admiration for a partner. Tigers do not necessarily use sex as a means to get closer to a lover or to solidify the relationship, Their focus is more that of enjoying pursuit and capture, and taking the lead on how to passionately play with their "victim," helpless to their invigorating sexual energy and wiles. In getting to know a "Tiger" better: . "How would you describe your boundaries when it comes to sexual activities?" . "What do you think of the saying 'sex is a joining of bodies and souls'?" . "What sexual pleasure pursuit, if any, has caught you off guard as far as what ultimately became of it - for better or for worse?" . "Describe what it would be like for you to let your partner take charge in the sack." . "How have you attempted to tap into your spiritual energy during sexual activity, if ever?" Know My Romantic Fantasies Both sexes enjoy fantasies involving threesomes (whatever the combination), using a video camera, current partners, reliving past experiences and oral sex. Naturally, however, research has also found gender differences when it comes to fantasy. Women's fantasies are heavier on new lovemaking positions, sex in exotic places, being "forced "to have sex, bondage, being found absolutely irresistible, sex with a new lover and doing something "wicked." Male fantasies tend to focus on sensual, nongenital (no penis or vagina) lovemaking, having sex in general, group sex, voyeurism and being aggressive or dominant during sex. ...On to the details An important part of seducing many women is playing upon their senses and imagination in a way that sets the right emotional mood for physical intimacy and releasing inhibitions. The "right" mood varies, in general, between men and women, as well as amongst individuals. Generally speaking, most women like scripts - a sexy story line, with a good setting, context, and feelings, to get carried away with. Romantic fantasies in which they surrender themselves in a tender way to a mysterious lover or authority figure (firefighter/victim; doctor/nurse or passionate strangers who meet through destiny) are quite popular. On top of that, a number of women also like passionate fantasies that deal with risk-taking and/or impulsive behaviors, such as being with some sort of "bad boy" (think rock star, corrupt police officer, Robin Hood or Julius Caesar). Finally, on top of these two previous groups of themes, there are some women who really go for themes of dominance, forbidden relationships, or force (though this is not to say that they desire actually being violated in real life). Examples of this include principal/student, rich bitch/hired help, being a porn star, or being abducted or kidnapped. They love fantasies that involve their own attractiveness to a partner, the emotional context for such lust, and her role as her lover's "toy." Bottom line: Overall, women's romantic fantasies are more contextual, emotional, intimate and passive in nature, involving a great degree of emotional arousal, This is a reflection of the degree of emotional connection that she needs with a lover. So in wooing women who identify with these fantasy descriptors, men should make efforts to stimulate her beyond the physical, wooing her by setting the stage, creating a sensual space and taking the lead on co-creating a storyline that she will be replaying in her head and private moments for weeks to come. Furthermore, men need to realize the importance of patience in realizing her fantasies. For some women, romance and passion build gradually with time and trust. So don't try to force or artificially accelerate the process to a pace that you may prefer. Explore romantic fantasies with 80sbaby71: . "Should a person ever reveal all of their sexual fantasies? Why or why not?" . "Have you ever acted out a romantic fantasy. and was it all that you expected?" . "What stimulates the fantasies that run through your head? Books? Movies?..." . "How do you know when it's safe to confess your romantic fantasies with a partner?" . "What are some of the benefits of fantasy for an individual and a relationship?" . "What are your thoughts around the claimed differences between males and females when it comes to sexual and romantic fantasies?" Food for Thought! Romantic fantasies I find especially appealing Stranger sex e.g., pretend that you just met, even picking each other up on the train, at a bar, while shopping Affair sex e.g., the next door neighbor, a waiter at a restaurant, a boss and secretary, or Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky. Teacher & student Romantic fantasies I might discover I like with the right person Cruel brothel boss & sex worker Rich bitch & poor hired help Military Know My Fantasy Locations Another critical part of seduction is the physical setting. The "right" fantasy location can really help set the mood and make for an incredible and memorable intimate experience. The "right" fantasy setting varies between men and women, as well as among individuals. Generally speaking, most women like fantasy locations that are private, idealistic and exotic. These settings show a remarkable range, such as under a moonlit sky, near or in waterfalls, secluded picnics, hot tubs, bed & breakfasts, castles, forests, lighthouses, and famous historical landmarks (e.g., Eiffel Tower). On that top of this, a number of women also like fantasy locations that really kick adrenaline into high gear. These are locations that speak to the sensation-seeking side of women - camping, fields, amusement parks, backstage at concerts or Hollywood movie sets, and even images of space and the heavens. Finally, on top of these two previous groups of themes, there are some women who really go for themes of forbidden locations that tap into the idea of lost innocence. Examples of this include parked cars, office romances, childhood playgrounds, haunted houses or high schools. Bottom line: When it comes to fantasy settings, women tend to be most concerned with privacy and discretion with a lover - the sharing of intimate or exhilarating experiences that make for great secrets and memories. Men should therefore remember that a woman appreciates settings that help show her and make her feel that she's the sole object of his attention and desire and that acts of intimacy are special. . "Should couples take photographs (intimate or not) when they're living out a romantic fantasy in an exotic place. or should they forego cameras, only taking away memories of the experience so that the details remain forever private between the two lovers?" . "Do you think a couple can effectively recreate an exotic, fantasy setting in the privacy of their own home, or do you think it's just not the same as going to that actual setting? Can some be done more easily than others?" . "You're sharing a moment of passion in a secluded, romantic spot when all of a sudden a stranger appears! Would you tend to find that situation horrifying, hilarious, embarrassing or a complete turn-on?" Food for Thought! Fantasy locations I find especially appealing Beach Soft light Candles Fantasy locations I might discover I like with the right person Concert Scented candles Fountain Know My Sexual Fantasies Ultimately, seduction leads to physical intimacy. And just as people prefer certain moods and settings, men and women also prefer particular types of sex play. The new research sponsored by Generally speaking, most women like sensual activities that allow them to play with their partners. This includes a strip tease, role play, tickling and light biting, and exhibitionism (getting intimate in public settings). On that top of this, a number of women also like sex play that gets a little on the wild side - things like getting or playing with body piercings, bondage with some spanking or<b> hot wax </font></b>for added stimulation, wearing stockings and hosiery, and posing for nude photographs or videotaping intimate encounters. Finally, on top of these two previous groups of activities, there are some women who really go for more uninhibited or hardcore types of play. Examples of this include exotic shoes or boots, using rubber or latex, pinching, harder spankings and other types of general B&D/S&M play. Bottom line: When it comes to sexual preferences, women tend to like sex play that fosters intimacy and a sense of "surrender" to a partner. They also like to know that they are deeply desired. Therefore, a man should give his undivided attention to his partner and ensure an atmosphere of mutual trust so his partner feels free and safe to be uninhibited sexually. He should also explore different types of touch with her, tapping into all of her senses, and respectfully testing her boundaries as far as sexual enhancements and expression go. . "What are your most favorite types of foreplay.and why?" . "Have most of your sexual preferences come from your own imagination, from sex play with a previous partner, or have they been inspired from what you've seen in books, TV, or the movies?" . "Where are your top three hot spots and how do you like them stimulated?" Food for Thought! Sex play I find especially unappealing Hierophilia (fixation on sacred objects like crosses) Sex play I find especially Appealing Tickling Voyeurism - self (watching me and my partner having sex) Strip teasing Sex play I might discover I like with the right person Corset fetishism Voyeurism - others (watching others having sex) Spanking/ paddling  |
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