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Glad this week is OVER!
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Glad this week is OVER! Testing is finished! Of course...I think that was about the only good thing this week in my life.  Mini me and I are on the "outs" I guess you can say. She is 14 going on 4 or 40...depending on the day. She has things that she is responsible for here at the apt...load, unload/dishwasher, take care of the trash in the bathrooms, feed/water her cat, as well as taking care of his litter-box. Well she has a tendency to "forget". Then she gets upset when she faces the consequences. Getting her phone taken away...losing privileges...getting yelled at. I always end up in the wrong. So this week I told her I couldn't do this. I couldn't live like this. Her not wanting to do her things she is responsible for. So what does she do? She throws out "Are you kicking me out?" NO! That is NOT what I said! "Well, dad has offered several times for me to come live with him!" Oh? Really? This the same dad you have never stayed with since the split? The same one you gripe about not wanting to spend any time with? So at this point I have spend most of my time crying. Crying myself to sleep. Crying while driving. Crying at work. Of course, it is my fault. I do nothing for her. I make her life horrible. I get her up every morning. I take her to work with me. Use my morning break (ok, so my only break of the day) to take her to school. I pick her up in the afternoon. I take her wherever she needs to be...dr's appts, youth functions, friends...etc. I do whatever I can to make up for everything her dad won't/doesn't do. I don't gripe or make excuses that I don't have the gas or money for her not to do something....I find a way. So that is a major issue in my house. Next thing is work again. Earlier in the week my principal called me to her office....I explained I was the only one in the library because my boss was on lunch/recess duty. SO the principal came to me. Then she proceeds to ask me why a note came to be on her desk about the copy machine/laminator that I am responsible for. I looked the note over (it is one that I have written and given to all teachers at the beginning of each school year) and told her I had no idea. This particular note was at least a year to two years old. And then showed her this years note that is more "GE" friendly. The note had been anonymously left on her desk stating it should be more "friendly".....BITE ME! Over...done... Then I had to work the long day on Thursday. We have a night (Thurs. nights) where we keep the school library open until 6 p.m. As I am leaving, I say good bye to the Principal. She states that she REALLY needs to get with me to do my evaluation....YAY! NOT! So we agree to do it first thing in the morning.... What a way to start a Friday, huh? Anyway, we do it. Wasn't as bad as I thought....Alot of good marks... Then she comes to the "good stuff". She lets me know that my position is more than likely gonna get cut. But, she really wants to keep me in the building. She offers me to go to a Pre-K assistant position. Which is a major pay cut....uh....NO. Or....I can take my chances and end up being a traveling assistant. Which would mean that I keep my Library Assistant position and would just travel to two schools. But either way...."Sorry, can't do the crossing guard position anymore. That is extra money that is a little nice to have...kinda helps a bit around the house since I am just rolling in money!  So it's been a fun week. This is really fun. I actually had the chance to see a friend when I dropped off mini at her youth function Thurs. night....was sitting in my car (crying) trying to build myself up to go to her car, when they waved out their good byes. I know their are two sides to every story...but mine always seems to be the wrong one. So, I will do my best to keep a smile...and a happy heart. Hell, even the masturbation is against me. And sex? Well who knows on that front....that's a whole nother blog. I am pretty sure that is a lost cause anymore.  |
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Teenagers cut quick and deep when they are upset and want to strike back at the 'oppressor'. Thus goes the battle between parents and teens. They do want to show they are responsible, but their world is full of many things calling for their attention. So they 'forget' / let slide chores and resposibilities and the parent has to bring them back on track. Soon when emotions cool, the both of you will spend the night crying together expressing eternal love. You know that she really does not want to go live with a dad (in name only). Weather the storm and things will be better. It's hard, but it's parenthood.
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Teenagers cut quick and deep when they are upset and want to strike back at the 'oppressor'. Thus goes the battle between parents and teens. They do want to show they are responsible, but their world is full of many things calling for their attention. So they 'forget' / let slide chores and resposibilities and the parent has to bring them back on track. Soon when emotions cool, the both of you will spend the night crying together expressing eternal love. You know that she really does not want to go live with a dad (in name only). Weather the storm and things will be better. It's hard, but it's parenthood.
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Maybe it is time for Mini Me to realize you are it. There is nobody else to raise her, so she needs to suck it up and be responsible for her chores. And have a good attitude while doing it. Put your foot down and tell her how it is. Demand respect. It may be the only way you will get it. You should have texted me the other night. We got there and you weren't in your car. We took off to go shopping, saw you and didn't think you were going to notice us waving insanely. It looked like you were engrossed reading a book. I'm sorry you were upset. A simple text would have brought us back  Love you!!
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Maybe it is time for Mini Me to realize you are it. There is nobody else to raise her, so she needs to suck it up and be responsible for her chores. And have a good attitude while doing it. Put your foot down and tell her how it is. Demand respect. It may be the only way you will get it. You should have texted me the other night. We got there and you weren't in your car. We took off to go shopping, saw you and didn't think you were going to notice us waving insanely. It looked like you were engrossed reading a book. I'm sorry you were upset. A simple text would have brought us back Love you!! Now her dad is the perfect parent...."Well dad got me tickets to go to see Batman....Dad took me and dropped me off at my friends to go see Hunger Games....." As for the other night...it's ok. I was trying to compose myself. Yes, I could have texted...but you also need time alone with your Cowboy! Love you...And I am strong...you have helped me to see that and find my inner strength. 
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Very true AO....thanks for being my friend.
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