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Anal sex 50 women share the joy of anal sex: 1. Gets Me Off I enjoy anal sex to a large degree. The first time I did it was to please my boyfriend but I ended up enjoying it myself. I personally like to be held face down and have it forced on me. It’s very erotic and I really get off on it. - Debby, US 2. Wish I’d Known Sooner I just had anal sex and it was the greatest feeling in my life. Yes, at first it hurt a little. However, it was well worth it. If I would have known it felt like that I would have done it years ago. - Anonymous, Vancouver, BC 3. Happy Bunny Anal, I love it. It has to be my favorite sex act. We usually do it 3-4 times weekly. My preference is to finger my cunt a little and let my cum trickle down between my ass crack, and then I’m ready for some deep ass pounding. As long as it’s deep and hard, I’m a happy bunny! 4. Loving Bond My husband and I have been having anal sex for about 15 years now. We both like this kinky exercise. We have the strongest orgasms then. Our naughty sex practices are a firm bond to our relationship. - BB, UK 5. I’d Never Do Without Anal Anal sex is a regular part of our sex life and I would never do without it. My preference is anal sex with me in the doggy position. No matter how he's stretched me with his fingers there's still some resistance and I admit to loving it. Once his head is in he pauses and gives me time to adjust. The feeling is exquisite and I have to keep my hand off my clit because I could cum right then. It's all so damn wicked and I love giving myself to him this way. I love the times he gets balls deep and slams away while I play with my clit, teasing myself, almost cumming. When I have to cum I let him know and tell him to cum up my ass. I rub my clit wildly while he slides in and out and explodes magnificently. I love anal sex! ‒ Karen, US 6. Best Feeling Ever One night while he was licking my ass he asked if he could fuck it, so I said yes. He literally ran to the bathroom and grabbed the lube. After a few minutes of massaging my asshole he lubed up and slowly pushed it inside and it was one of the best sexual feelings I’ve ever experienced. I could tell he liked it even though he won't admit it, and when we do have anal sex now he makes it seem like it's just for me but he is never as hard as he is when we have anal sex and he never makes the noises he makes with anal any other time either. We both secretly know that he loves it whether he'll admit it or not. ‒ Anonymous, US 7. Mind-blowing First Time LUBE LUBE LUBE!!! The size of my guy’s cock frightened me when we first thought about anal. But with plenty of lube, and patience, and it was a mind-blowing first time. Just relax and he will slide right in. Like they say, too much lube is almost enough. Just remember to relax, and again I stress the lube! - Anonymous, Michigan 8. Better Than Vaginal Six months ago I finally got around to trying anal sex. Fantastic! The best sex in my life. My husband was not patient, but I took it all the way in. I love the feeling of him cumming in my ass - it turns me on...better than vaginal. ‒ Mimi, Dominican Republic 9. Anal Fantasies I LOVE anal sex. It's better than vaginal once you get used to it. It gives the best orgasms ever, and guys...if you're patient, go slowly and get her really worked up first, she'll end up asking you for it. My husband and I have been having anal sex for nearly 7 years now, and I find myself having fantasies about getting fucked anally because I love it so much now. Just take your time, and she'll reward you! - Anonymous, WA 10. Harder Is Better Use a lot of lube. Start on your side, then when it is feeling really good, start doing it in doggy style - it increases the pleasure. And the harder he pounds it the better it feels (harder is always better). It only hurts for a minute, then the pleasure is overwhelming. ‒ Angela, Detroit 11. My Special Treat I am in a recent committed relationship with a man (much older than myself) who has taken me to new heights of sexual pleasure I could only have imagined! He has been so caring and careful in venturing into anal sex that I have literally become addicted to him fucking my ass! It is my special treat and now he often waits for me to beg for it...which I usually do, because it just drives me wild. I never in a million years thought I would enjoy getting fucked in the ass so much! - Anonymous, MD 12. I Look Forward to It Definitely get a butt plug - they are great for getting your asshole ready for his cock. Lube up your hole and the butt plug and either insert it yourself at your own pace or have him do it with your guidance. I used to hate anal sex before we got a butt plug. Now I look forward to it and actually ASK my husband if he wants to do me in the ass. He has never refused! A few times, we have also used a dildo up my pussy while he did my butt - and THAT is one hell of a full and sexy feeling! Try it! - Jenny, Chicago 13. Fantastic Orgasms When I first had anal sex it hurt a lot and I cried a little, but it never stopped me from trying it again and I am glad that I didn’t stop. I have had the most fantastic orgasms in my life though my ass, but I have had to teach my husband to be gentle at first because the shock is too much. But after a few minutes he can be as hard and rough as he likes and I love it. - Moyia, England 14. I Ask Him for Anal I never liked the idea of anal before, but my husband always says he loves my ass and is so turned on by it. I let him tongue my anus all the time, but finally I gave in and let him do my ass. We used lots of KY and he started off with fingers, then a butt plug he bought. I have to say that once his cock was in my ass, I loved it. I told him to slap my ass and play with my clit and holy jeez - I had the best orgasm ever. Now I ask HIM when he wants to do me in the ass again, and he always says, "How about now?!" So we do it once or twice a week. - Anonymous, Illinois 15. Want to Try It Again I tried anal sex last night. It was the first time, and we used a lot of lube. It was very uncomfortable at first, but then it got really fun. I am excited to feel what the second time is like. - Jennifer, US 16. Dirty and Fun I absolutely love anal sex. Yes, it does seem a little dirty and that makes it even more fun. I am blessed with a husband who is rather large so I have to take some extra precautions for myself. There are<b> numbing </font></b>agents out there that work great, like Anal EZ with a little benzocaine in it. It even prolongs him sometimes. One time in total desperation we used our normal lube and some 20% strength Oragel. Worked wonders! - Mia, TN 17. Ready to Enjoy I love having anal sex with my boyfriend and I love when he goes inside me bareback. I always take at least two enemas prior to anal sex, and I feel very clean inside. Actually getting the enema is part of our foreplay and we both get very aroused when doing it. Then when he comes to enter me, I‘m relaxed and ready to enjoy anal sex. - Donna, Canada 18. You’ll Love the Feeling If I'm really turned on, I will let my husband slip a finger in my ass and this really gets me going. He will then use a small vibrator just inside the anal opening. Once you feel relaxed, use lots of your favorite lube, be sure your guy is rock hard and you’re ready for his cock to penetrate you. If you take it slow and easy, you will love the way anal sex feels. - Anonymous, CA 19. She’ll Thank You I started having anal sex with an ex-boyfriend when I was 16 and have never looked back since. Lube is essential and so is the position. I like it doggy style with a very pronounced arch in my back, but spooning is also cool. Take it easy, start slow and she'll thank you for it. She might even let you try DP. - Faith, Canada 20. Best Sex Ever My first time was with a guy I had been fooling around with for a few months and we wanted to try something new. One day while I was taking a shower he came in and we started to have sex in the shower, a few minutes into it he stopped and started to put it into my ass. He knew it was my first time so he was really gentle and took his time putting it in. The water from the shower and his patience made it the best sex I have had. - Emerald, CA 21. Start Slow The first time my husband and I tried anal was about 2 years ago, and I told him it was just too painful for me. This time he used petroleum jelly, and let me tell you that does wonders as lube. It still hurts at first, but after a few thrusts, man, it feels amazing. It’s about starting out slow and working your way up. - Anonymous, Florida 22. Just Do It I was the girl who told herself she would never attempt anything like anal sex. You would not know that now. I was scared at first to have anal but once I tried it I was hooked. It’s all I want now! It’s the best way to have a Kitchen Quickie and my fiancé has no complaints either. To any woman who is a little scared but deep down would like to try it, do it. - J., Canada 23. Two-fer I just tried anal sex and loved it ‒ it’s not as painful as I thought. First you must be very relaxed. I didn’t use KY because this was not planned, so I told my man to use a lot of spit and ease his head in slow, then I backed my booty up. It felt so good we did it twice in one night. - Ebony, New Jersey 24. Natural Juices For me, liking anal sex was a matter of deciding for myself. Personally, I got tired of someone else having all the fun. Really great sex that gets me real wet is the best way to start. After that my own juices are exactly the lube I need to have really great anal sex. ‒ Anonymous, OR 25. Heavenly, Erotic, Intimate I very much enjoy anal sex, and have for years. However, my first experience was like many women; unprepared, no lube and no patience, and it's amazing that I was ever willing to try again. But with a man who was clearly going to be tuned to my sensations and stop if there was any pain, and willing to play with me with foreplay, it has become heavenly. It's an incredibly erotic and intimate experience! Enjoy. ‒ Dee, CT 26. Weird but Good My first experience was SO weird, but it actually felt very, very good. I had the best orgasm that I have ever had in my life! Don’t be afraid to try it. Use lots of lube and enjoy it. ‒ Danielle, US 27. It’s all I Crave The first time I had anal sex I was a little intimidated. The guy was much more experienced and drop dead gorgeous. He was gentle at first. I encouraged him to fuck me harder. The harder he fucked my ass the more I enjoyed it. Now it seems like all I crave is to be eaten out then have my ass fucked. - Sylvia, New England 28. More Than 50% Anal We usually start in a 69 position. While his tongue works my clit, he lubes my ass and uses a vibrator in my ass to warm me up, then I turn around and get on top of him. The best way for us is for me to lean back, supporting myself with my arms and having my knees up. This way, he can see his penis penetrating my ass, see my pussy and stimulate my clit with a vibrator. Anal sex makes up more than 50% of our sex life. I've always loved it, right from the very first time, and my husband, as with all men, loves it too. - Chantal, Canada 29. Close Connection The first minute usually hurts like hell, but once I pass the minute mark--I'm all in. I just can't stand if he goes too deep ‘cause it HURTS! Otherwise I love it. I think it’s more of a turn-on than vaginal sex. I feel a lot closer to him. ‒ Anonymous, CA 30. Total Control I had my first sexual experience through anal sex, and I had the greatest orgasm of my life. Something about my man being totally in control just got me off. The first time you have anal sex it hurts like heck, but just like sex, the more you do it, the easier it gets. ‒ Rachel, US 31. Don’t Miss Out! At first it hurt tremendously but my partner was very gentle and patient. This was so incredibly good. I liked it so much and still do. Now with my boyfriend, we do anal once in a while and it hurts only on insertion, but he uses lots and lots of lube and he is very gentle. To me this is really great sex and once he's in my ass the feeling is so great. I just move my ass rhythmically to his thrusts until we both cum. My advice to you ladies: please don't be afraid to try anal sex because you are missing out on something great. - Anonymous, US 32. All I Need I have the most intense orgasms you can imagine, even better than vaginal. I don't care if he ever fucks my pussy ever again. ‒Jane, TN 33. Eternal Thanks My current boyfriend was constantly messing with my asshole, and I loved it. When he first started to penetrate me (using KY liquid), it was painful, but once he got a couple of inches inside, my muscles relaxed and IT WAS GREAT. My advice to first-timers: Bear with the pain - it only lasts about 30 seconds. Relax - it is a great sensation. Guide your partner - let him know if he is going too fast or too slow. Practice - it only gets better. Because so few women are willing to try or are unable to make it through the penetration, your partner will appreciate you forever! Trust me - M., SC 34. Practice Makes Perfect I had anal sex for the first time last week, and we didn’t even use lube. The reason it worked so well was because I had lots of practice time by myself for months. I loved it and I was asking for it days later. He also came in me from behind and I loved the feeling. ‒ Anonymous, CA 35. Highly Erotic Last night was actually the first time I had successful anal sex -- and I had it twice. The "key" for me was lots and lots of practice alone beforehand. I recommend fooling around, fucking, fucking with your finger in your ass, then fucking with his finger in your ass before you try to let his cock in there. During the "transition time" when he's lubing up and getting ready, don't stop stimulating yourself, be that playing with your nipples or rubbing your clit or fucking yourself with a vibrator -- or all of the above. Take it slow, breathe deeply, take as many pauses as you need to. If you can't handle the thrusting, try masturbating and cumming while his cock is in your ass. The contractions will feel good for him and you will get more used to the whole idea and more willing to accept it as something highly, highly erotic. Mmm...I can't wait to do it again! - Jane, Kansas 36. The Deeper the Better I enjoy it deep, very deep, with his balls banging against me. I cum and cum and cum! Enjoy anal - it’s the best! ‒ Anonymous, UK 37. Nothing Like a Good Reaming I love anal sex. I mean - I Love Anal Sex - there is nothing in the world like a cock reaming your asshole. An old boyfriend of mine would lick my asshole for an hour. God, that made me cum so hard, then he would lube my hole and his cock with K-Y Jelly and slowly insert it into my ass. Once fully in, he would start banging away and grabbing and pulling on my breasts like I like them to be treated. ‒ Christine, OH 38. Slow and Steady My husband and I do anal every month (at least) and we both really enjoy the act. Usually I lay on my side and we have a mirror positioned so we both can watch the proceedings. Once he has popped his knob in we pause (and gaze at the mirror). Once he is fully in he waits for me to cum before he shoots his load deep in my ass. The intimacy of these escapades make us closer and I love the full feeling it brings me. Slow and steady wins the race. ‒ Tania, Canberra 39. Total Trust We have never used any form of lubrication other than natural. We talk about everything and even start foreplay just through talking so we are both very wet when it is time for penetration. I have never trusted a man as I trust him, which allows me to completely relax with him. Anal orgasms are intense beyond belief. ‒ Anonymous, IA 40. New and Wonderful My man was constantly talking about anal sex but I thought of that as an exit only area. After a couple glasses of wine one night, he touched me there and it felt good so I let him go further. Since I naturally over-lubricate, he put the head in slow and it did not feel wrong. I orgasmed the very first time we had anal sex. I definitely recommend this to any couple who like to experiment and are open to new and wonderful things. - Kat, MI 41. Take the Plunge I decided to try it when our sex life was getting a little too predictable. It took several times with just a small amount of penetration before we could finally go fully in the ass. It was incredible. I never would have dreamed it would have been so powerful. I am glad I kept reading about it and finally took the plunge. It is now a part of our sex life. ‒ Brooke, GA 42. Twice the Fun I am a female who LOVES anal sex. I enjoy anal sex so much that now I sit on my husband backwards with his dick in either my ass or pussy and a dildo in whatever hole he's not in. It’s HOT and my husband and I love it....just take it slow, you will love it too! ‒ Marie, AZ 43. Wet at the Thought I absolutely love anal sex. I've met only a few guys who like it and want to try it. I would recommend lube, but I never really used it because I get wet at just of the thought of anal, so I lube myself, but I relax my muscles as well. Just give it a try, you'll enjoy it. - Crystal, LA 44. Get Inspired I can't handle the pleasure. His tool is lubricated from my vaginal juices and he spends time pushing it in; at this moment I am usually crying in ecstasy (forget the drug this is real fun). I get very demanding and tell him to put it in all the way, but no thrusting. I just love it up there. I hope you ladies are inspired. ‒ Kay, NY 45. We Know You Love It Let him know how you like it and most men will be happy to do whatever you want to get some anal. YOU’RE GONNA LOVE IT. Just lose all inhibitions and let go. It’s different, but wasn’t vaginal sex at first? It wasn’t comfortable at all, you had to develop a feel for it. Same goes here. ENJOY! (You men enjoy, too! We know you love it!) - Anonymous, TN 46. I Like a Reach Around I personally enjoy getting rammed up my ass real hard and fast (with lots of lube of course), but this is not for everyone. I like to be spontaneously taken from behind, like maybe when I’m doing the dishes he comes over and yanks my shorts down and does me. Also, a reach around doesn't hurt along with being held really close and tight while he's inside my ass. 47. Enter Here It is indeed a wonderful sensation once you get past the thought of it being an exit only. Use plenty of lubrication and be sure you are in control of the situation. Yes, it is uncomfortable at first and it may take a few times to get to that point, but you will enjoy the sensation you receive from the stimulation. - Anonymous, CT 48. Fill ‘Er Up I love anal sex! Now I want it more that he does. I love having his cock in my ass and a dildo in my pussy. I start with the dildo on low and before we cum I turn it on high. I feel so full. And the orgasm is soooo intense. Try it, you will like it! ‒ Lauren, CT 49. Words Cannot Describe It What a sensation. I have no words for it. I felt my asshole being stretched and his hot cock inside me made me orgasm instantly. I enjoyed it extremely and now we do it often. Let me tell you - a cock in your ass makes you feel close to your man. - Kamla, Mauritius 50. He Made Me Love It I tried anal with my ex and hated it. My new guy makes me love it. I can't get enough. he uses lots of lube and inserts slowly letting me direct him to when I am "ready for more". I have multiple orgasms every time. I highly suggest you try it. - Anonymous, FL  |
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Top 5 Anal Sex Tips Tip #1: Play Safe There are some serious safety issues regarding anal sex that you need to be aware of at all times. First and foremost, whatever touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never never never take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly. Of course, STDs are also a major concern with anal sex. This isn't just limited to AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. can all be transmitted through anal sex. You shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner. Tip #2: Lube, lube, lube One of the most important thing to remember when thinking about anal sex is that, unlike the vagina, the anus isn't self-lubricating: you gotta bring your own grease. And, the more lube you use, the better. It will make the initial penetration much more easy and less painful for the woman and make the whole experience, for both of you, much more pleasant. The most common suggestion we get from our readers is to use LOTS of lube; we just can't emphasize this point enough. All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes. We'd strongly recommend spending a little money to get a high quality water-based lubricant; remember, an oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will degrade the latex in a condom, destroying its usefulness. We'd recommend products like AstroGlide or KY Jelly, available in any drug store. Note, though a condom may be "lubricated", they typically don't offer as much lube as we'd recommend for anal sex. There are some specialty lubes designed for anal sex that include an anesthetic to numb the woman's sensation and make anal sex less painful. We'd advise against these products. The simple fact is, pain is a way of your body telling you that something's wrong. If you're in pain during anal sex, you need to focus on solving the root problems, not anesthetizing yourself so it's easier to endure. Tip #3: Start Small Simply put, a penis is awfully big to be the first thing you stick up someone's butt. Better to start with something smaller and work your way up. Fingers are an excellent beginning point. Use one finger, then two, to initiate your partner into the mysteries of anal penetration. Try it while performing oral sex for an extra thrill. Be sure your fingernails are trimmed, not to forget the lube, and you might even want to wear latex gloves. As your partner gets used to your fingers, you might graduate to a butt plug or a small dildo. Dildos are available in all shapes and sizes. Go shopping together to get one she thinks she can handle. Remember, though, don't put the dildo into the vagina after putting it into the anus. The safest way is to put a condom on the dildo before using it, and to wash it thoroughly immediately after. Tip #4: Turnabout is Fair Play Whether you're trying to convince someone to have anal sex or trying to figure out how to do it in a gentle, pain free manner, there's no better preparation that exploring anal play with yourself. A partner is much more likely to consent to anal sex if she's seen that you're open to being on the receiving end as well. Encourage her to use her fingers inside of you, or even purchase a butt plug or small dildo and let her use that. Once she's seen you're willing to do it, it'll be hard for her to resist exploring it as well. Of course, anal play on yourself is a great way to learn how anal sex feels and to learn how to make it more comfortable for your partner. You might also be surprised just how much you like it... Tip #5: Clear the Way Before having anal sex, the woman should have a good, complete bowel movement. If she doesn't, the man may find himself encountering far more fecal matter than he might have liked (i.e. packing the fudge). Now, for some people doing this on-command might not be the easiest thing, and straining to defecate is not healthy. A high fiber diet may help things along and is good for your health in any case. Of course, if you really want to clean things out in a hurry, you can purchase an enema from any drug store. There's some controversy about this; some people feel having an enema first can actually increase the irritation during anal sex. If you're going to go the enema route, we'd recommend doing it several hours before you plan to have anal sex, rather than right before the act.
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Hints from women: Start with cunnilingus...and a finger The very very best way to go about anal is to begin orally: for me at least, a finger in the ass makes cunnilingus about a million percent more enjoyable. a few orgasms into the session, another finger can be added. a few minutes of this, and you'll be practically begging for anal sex... and you'll be both physically prepped and mentally ready for it. Intensely intimate act - Anne, Age 35, Nova Scotia, Canada I tried anal sex seven years ago with a former boyfriend. It was a spur of the moment decision, no lube, no nothing. He got inside me gradually, uncomfortably... and then I asked him to get out. There was nothing pleasurable about it. After that, I had two more boyfriends who were very interested in anal penetration and stimulation. I let one boyfriend stimulate my rosebud, but found nothing pleasurable from it, in fact, all I could think of was "there's a finger up my ass!" And again, this was with no lube. I refused to engage in any anal stimulation with these other two partners, giving or receiving. That all has changed with my current lover and partner. I feel a deep connection with him, which has allowed me to let go of my inhibitions and trust him and the situation. Most importantly, before we ever tried anal sex, my partner communicated his desires to me, desires he'd had for a long time but had told nobody. He felt safe enough to talk to me about them because I had been so open in talking with him about sex, sexuality, and sexual desire. He told me about all the research he had done on the topic- for example, use tons of lube (if you think you have enough, use even more!) and that the woman needed to be in total control of the situation. His understanding of the most safe and pleasurable way to do it, and his respectful and thoughtful communication of that (rather than in a laviscious, crude way) gave me the courage and motivation to try it again. When we finally did do it, he emphasized that I was in total control, and he was absolutely respectful and sensual in his actions and communication. Although I couldn't handle his being inside of me for too long (I'm anticipating and hoping that this will change in the future!), it felt very pleasurable (and rimming- yum- oh, that felt gorgeous too), and it also gave me *intense* pleasure to know that I was fulfilling a long-time desire of his. Most importantly, engaging in anal sex with him was an intensely personal and intimate act, and made me feel much closer to him, perhaps because I had opened myself up to him in a such a vulnerable way and had trusted him. Likewise, he is beginning to trust me also. I engaged in anal penetration with him (with my finger)- something he also had desired. We hope some day to engage in much more anal play in the future, and to "up the ante" so to speak! My partner has gotten me more in touch with my ass than any man ever has, and I am both grateful for that and excited by it! The second time we did it, we used mirrors so that I could see him behind me-- views I'd never had before. This was *totally* arousing. I wish we had taken pictures. Now, I'm scanning the internet on a regular basis for pictures and stories of anal sex, and longing for the next time when we can touch one another in that manner again! Explore each other - Sharon, Age 38 What tips can I offer on the subject of anal sex? First: I think that we as women need to discuss anal sex beyond and outside of the context of women being penetrated by men. This context is too narrow. Second: To enjoy it you need: lube, patience, the right lube, to feel safe, self-awareness, more lube, a willing partner, a patient partner, communication, knowledge of your partner, curiosity, and trust. Lube: Lubrication is essential when you first experiment! If you are starting to explore this aspect of love making it is essential that both partners become familiar with the sensations of both giving and receiving this form of loving touch. By the way: not all lubricants are the same. I like sesame oil and Astro-Glide. Relax: My second boy friend introduced me to anal play when I was 20. The first time I invited him in to my bed he rather gently put the pad of his thumb over my anus when he was eating me out. I was quite startled and momentarily fearful by the sensation at first. But he did not try to penetrate me and within a few of minutes it felt normal. He varied the thumb pressure a bit from time to time and he moved his thumb around a bit. I felt good. Then we changed position and his hands went elsewhere. Looking back this was the turning point for me. I felt safe when he touched me back there and everywhere else. Explore yourself: Later that evening I tried touching him in a similar manner and he responded favorably. My curiosity about exploring anal sensation further was activated. Soon I experimented with anal penetration when I masturbated. Point of advice: Start small and use lots lube. Explore each other: The next step in my discovery process was reading about prostate massage in some book. That night in the middle of a restaurant I asked my boyfriend if he wanted a prostate massage when we got back to the apartment. I then had the dubious honor of explaining what I had in mind. He said that it sounded "interesting" and that he would like to "give it a try some time." But he was obviously a bit nervous about the idea. That night my boy friend explored my anus with his fingers for the first time. The next morning I woke up EARLY, my boyfriend was sound asleep (he was not a morning-person). I lubed up my hands and I woke him up orally and proceeded to give him his first prostate massage. Patience: Eventually I found the courage to have my boyfriend penetrate me anally. That experience was the most joyous loss of virginity of my life. We were relaxed, trusting, prepared, and ready. Warming up with lube - Carrie, Age 43 Guys, pay attention to the girls on here--they have it right for the most part. My husband and I have been enjoying anal sex for more than 5 years now, and it's great but only if both partners are considerate. The man, especially, needs to be patient. Rob's cock feels great in me, but only after 10 or 20 minutes of foreplay and LOTS of lubricating. Here's a tip we learned: Before we begin, he takes two syringes from an old Delfen foam birth control kit and fills them with KY jelly (from a tube). These syringes are clear plastic, they come apart for cleaning and they are very smooth. Then I let him start by massaging my anus with the really slippery KY that comes in the bottle (not the tube stuff). He uses a latex glove because no matter how clean I feel, it still grosses me out for him to put his bare fingers on (much less IN!) my anus. Once I'm relaxed (and usually moaning a little) he starts putting his fingers into me. When I tell him I'm ready, he slides each syringe into my butt and "fills me up" with KY jelly. By this time I'm ready, and he can put on his rubber and lube up his cock with some of the KY from the bottle. He also puts some more of the bottle KY around my anus. I can't emphasize enough that you have to use a LOT of lube. Once he's done all of this, his cock usually slips right into me with no resistance or pain. Maybe some couples need to work it in and out some, but it goes right into me. If I feel any pain at all, Rob senses it and stops immediately. Anal is a lovely, very intimate way to have sex. I wish you much enjoyment if you decide to try this with your lover. Start with fingers and vibrators - Age 23, England Let's be honest, it's a bit naughty, anal sex. That's a turn on in itself. Men also appreciate that it's quite rare for a girl to like it, so they tend to get quite excited at the prospect (bless them). Don't let them rush in. Warm up properly and for God's sake, LUBE. I can't stress that enough. I lost my anal virginity to a bloke who was pretty selfish and probably not that experienced in the area (with hindsight). It hurt. Lots. Why? We had no lube and he didn't take his time. Consequently I wasn't relaxed and it almost put me off. Almost. Still with burning curiosity and the belief that it would be amazing with the right person, I tried it again. The second time was with a different bloke who knew what he was doing and it was an incredibly intense, full feeling that I enjoyed immensely. He played around with the area for ages first, then lubed, then slowly eased his cock in. It took about 5-10 minutes for him to fully penetrate because he would insert it an inch or so and wait, then pull out and push a bit further and wait etc. etc. until I was fully relaxed (and very turned on!). After that, full penetration was easy and intensely pleasureable! Prior to trying anal sex with a bloke I'd experimented with toys and my own fair hands. I recommend fingers and anal vibrators to start with, and for a really amazing orgasm, use a vaginal vibrator at the same time and, if you can manage it, stimulate your clit with yet another vibrator. Sounds complicated but it's worth it. It also get you used to having something up your arse because it is quite a weird feeling at first and psychologically, it takes a bit of getting used to. Stick with it, is my last piece of advice. It's a unique feeling that is completely different to vaginal sex and worth experimenting with. Just don't forget to lube.. Listen to your lady - Nebraska All I can say is that you guys need to listen to your women. I have had more than one experience with men that don't listen when I am giving them directions on positions and speed. I happen to enjoy anal sex alot, but not if I am in pain. The biggest tip that I can give you men is to let her lead you, even if it's not the masculine thing to do. She will only be leading you for a short time before you can take up the reigns and take the wild ride if you do it right. Clearing the Way - Age 27, South Carolina I use an enema early that morning when I know we are going to do it that night. Or I'll take a gentle laxative the night before. That way in the morning I'm all cleaned out. Trust me it helps to know that nothing is in there while he is going in. And like these other women said, get more lube. Makes everything feel so good! Girls Love the Lube - Jude, Age 30, UK A simple rule to remember before having anal sex: "Too much lube is almost enough." Always put more lube on/around your partner's anus than you'd expect to use. Unvarnished Truth - Los Angeles, Age 35 Lube of course is very important. I did notice a few who forgot that all important thing. Spit does not work fellas; sorry, wrong answer. There is no lube in my asshole and all though I really enjoy anal I do make sure all is lubed and very clean first. As far as watching pornos is concerned not a good idea. Pornos are made for men not women and they edit out the parts where, like one of the more tactful gentlemen put it, patience is a virtue. Girls in pornos are simply pretending to like it most of the time. After all they are being paid to be good actresses. There are many things going on behind the scenes you are unaware of. After all it is just a movie and not real life. Now for the good stuff. Personally, I love to be licked all over and this includes my asshole especially when a man fucks it with his tongue. Fingers are nice if used gently and not rammed up me without proper lube. Toys can also work well with me if used properly. Thing is you need to ask questions especially if it is your first time having anal with a lady. Also, please make sure you are very hard before you try or else you will hurt the lady. To Enema or Not to Enema - San Francisco, Age 52 One woman advised to use the bathroom before anal sex. I have found it is cleaner if I have not had to use the bathroom for at least an hour before having anal sex. Also, having an enema before anal sex may make the woman more susceptible to bacteria introduced into her colon if she participates in unprotected anal sex, so one should consider if this is the best way to proceed. If a condom is used, an enema is unnecessary anyway, isn't it? When the man is entering me, I push out, as if I am trying to void. Doing this relaxes my sphincter muscle and opens my anus. If we have used enough of my lube plus KY to make me nice and juicy, he will slide right in. I have some of my most astounding orgasms during anal sex. There are so many nerve endings in the anus, the stimulation is extraordinary. Also, it seems that men get extremely excited by women who love anal sex, so the emotional atmosphere is super-charged. Takes practice - New York The first time I did it, I remember my boyfriend just sticking it in and I had the worst pain. Sex was a dead issue after that! But a few months later, I opened my eyes. I started with lots of lube and a small vibrator. Eventually my boyfriend worked me up and I had anal sex for the first time. It's not something we do all the time, but if we are drunk or loose ourselves a little, we will do it. Sometimes I am in the mood for it. I also have begun penetrating him a little. He has the best orgasms when I do it. Don't be afraid, just go slow and relax. LUBE LUBE LUBE On my stomach - Age 20, Riverside, CA Lying flat on my stomach is better for me when my husband inserts himself. After a couple minutes of going slowly he can fully thrust himself at any pace he wishes. On his knees - Age 18, North Carolina I always like to start out with a deep session of getting eaten out... just to get hot and wet. The best position I've came to love is me laying on my back, with my future husband on his knees between my legs. It doesn't hurt at all, it only feels great. He plays with my clit while he's making love to me anally, this makes the orgasm more intense and hard. Oh, and don't forget, lube, lube, lube, lube!!! Practice by yourself - Age 30, North Carolina I recommend, first and foremost, patience and lots of lube. Experiment with different lubricants, K-Y is not the only lubricant out there. My personal favorite is I-D Glide. Experiment by yourself in the shower using a small dildo and lots of lubricant. Do not be afraid to enjoy the sensation or be shy about asking your partner. It turns out when my husband and I saw anal sex in an adult movie, we both ended up admitting we had been thinking about it for weeks (think of all the fun time wasted). Go slow at first. I personally like to enema first and shower. That way there are no inhibitions about the "gross out" factor. That way you BOTH are free to enjoy the experience. On your side - Anna, Canada 1) You need and want to use lube. It may be painful the first time but ahhhh.. once you try it and if it's done right you will love it! 2) Always stimulate the anus before, be it with a finger or whatever. 3) Lying on your side is much easier for you and for the guy. Since it is very tight and new this is easier and better for both make the experience more fun. As you get used to anal sex then you can work your way to sitting on top of your man. 4) ENJOY!!!!!!! It is an incredible feeling to cum while you're having anal sex!!!! YUMMY! PS: If you fear that anal will be messy and you're very nervous about it, get an enema kit!!! Cheap @ Wal-Mart and no need to be ashamed. First poop - Nicole, Florida, Age 22 Make sure you poop first or else his cock will compress all your poop and it's gonna be really hard to shit. Try on your own first - Annabel, Chicago, Age 19 The first time my ex and I did it, it hurt. I asked him to stop and we didn't try again. Now that I am single, I think about it a lot. I read up on the subject and I learned a lot of things I wish I knew the first time I tried it. After some research I decided to get myself a small dildo and try it on my own. I got lots of lube and I masturbated for a while, and when I got really turned on I went for it. I was really relaxed and I went very slowly at first. It wasn't long before I was inserting the dildo as far and as fast as I could. All it took was some getting used to. I recommend trying it with small toys and your finger before you go in with the penis. It's just too large. If your lady is shy about trying it with you, ask her if she'd like to do it alone, see if she likes the sensation, she might be at ease when she realizes it is really pleasant and relaxing. Another thing I recommend, talk about your concerns. I bet most women might be shy to try it because they are afraid you might get grossed out. Explain to them that no matter what happens, it wont turn you off, and you're understanding of the fact that the anus isn't the cleanest area of the body, even after you're showered. Make her trust you, show her that you care for her and no matter what you will stay just as attracted to her as before. Insecurities for women ruin a lot of good sex. Get wet - Poplar Bluff, MO I always find that anal sex is a lot less painful the more turned on I am. I never let my husband hit the back door until the front door is sloppy wet. Hop on top - Australia, Age 20 As a woman who really likes anal sex, my best bit of advice to first time girls is sit on top of your guy so you are in full control. It can be a teeny bit awkward but it means you're in full control of how far/hard/fast things go. Plus, he can play with your clit and pussy while you fuck him. It drives guys wild. Don't ignore the clit - Dallas Be sure she uses the restroom beforehand! You don't want anything on yourself when you pull out, do you? Ugh. Anyway, I absolutely can't do it unless I'm getting some sort of clitoral stimulation at the same time. As long as that's going on, it's fun. Get her to use a vibrator, or even a dildo while you're busy back there, and it should be pleasant for her. Listen up! - Karen, Michigan, Age 22 Patience! and Plenty of KY! Start slow with something small. Make sure she knows that she/he is in charge and if they say "No," or "Stop" then you immediately stop. It may not work the first time but if she trusts you, and you've listened to her in the past, she'll be willing to try again! Hello fans! Stimulate the clit - "A chick who likes it," New York, Age 29 My boyfriend and I have been doing it for a while. First step is to start small. For instance, use your lubed up pinkie finger during oral sex or any other clitoral stimulation. It's also really good to use a small vibrator/dildo or something like that. The most important is clitoral stimulation, I think if you play withher clit during any kind of anal play (including anal sex) she WILL COME REALLY REALLY HARD -- like fireworks will go off an violins will play. This will make her want it again. There's my two cents. Dos and Don'ts - mjcat, Ohio What you need to get started: Patience, lots of lube (I recommend K-Y, it's what the doc uses lol), and intimate knowledge of your partner! Dos: Do talk about it a lot! Do be gentle in manner and action. Let her tell you how she would like it. Do experiment slowly with fingers and small toys, and remember lots and lots of lube!!! Don'ts: Don't be pushy. Don't be disappointed if the first few times it doesn't end up in the end the way you wanted it. Don't give up. If she is willing be persistent and always gentle and supportive. Try, try again. Believe me it will work and both will have the greatest pleasure either could have ever imagined!!! Wash up first and lots of lube - Anonymous woman, NY I never gave it a second thought. Me and my guy never even talked about. We were fooling around one time, and it slipped in. We didn't pursue it, but because I was so wet at the time, it didn't hurt. I was interested in trying it fully, so I suggested getting some anal-specific lube, and it *really* worked well. It slipped right in with no pain. Never try it without lubrication, that's the biggest key. He did it very slowly, because the pressure inside can be uncomfortable if it goes too fast on first entrance, as well as any normal discomfort of having something a couple times the size of your asshole plowing in. This is something that takes a lot of relaxation and trust for a female who is an anal virgin. If your girl shows in other ways that she is into new ideas, this might be easier. If she feels gross about it (it is after all her ass) prepare her by showering together so she feels *clean*. I read on a gay website somewhere that the person on the receiving end should make sure they shit before they try it, so you might want to gently suggest that as well. All in all it wasn't a bad experience for me and it certainly wasn't painful. Happy hunting, hunters!
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2/18/2009 6:08 am |
I am a hunter.. not yet happy tho and still trying. thanks for the marvelous vote of confidence. I am surely going to take it all in (pun intended) when the time is right. kisses to all the happy hunters out there..there is an anal virgin waiting for the right moment and will enthusiatically grab it (pun intented too!). bee
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4/18/2009 3:20 am |
Puff, sometimes u just shine.. U are an absolute rock star! With this post you nailed this for me. I keep reading it and its has been really instrumental in getting to a certain place... Merci beaucoup mon ami!
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Intimate, I aim to please... in more ways than one!
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4/27/2009 8:39 am |
As I continue 'up' my anal journey... i am still standing apprehensively at the door. I dont know why I am apprehensive, the journey so far has been exquisite but I know deep down, that once I take the final plunge I will be lost in deep carnal pleasure. Can I handle it??? The addiction has already started to manifest itself in my desire for sexual satisfaction...anal stimulation is now a necessity! kisses bee
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"Tereng' tereng'..."
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6/10/2009 9:44 pm |
As my journey continues, the vagaries of life keep interfering with my mortal plans so I pause to reflect on the trail so far. Suffice to say, I am still not fully initiated but an apt and aroused pupil. kisses
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6/12/2009 8:21 pm |
I am still in the biz..
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7/16/2009 6:14 am |
Take a minute to breathe.. deeply..freely. The trail of destruction and mayhem reveals the magnitude of the plunder within..the little death...
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What you talking about, Intimate?
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