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Love Me Three Times: The Before, During and After of Logos and Eros, Word and Act
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Love Me Three Times: The Before, During and After of Logos and Eros, Word and Act Researchers of love, sex, relationships and marriage say that the most significant key to whether couples have a satisfying sex life together is the degree to which they feel open and free and honest to talk about it. One advantage of a long distance relationships is that a couple spends a lot of time sharing about sex in a reflective way. The writing about sex helps spur the anticipation of it and sear the memory of it more deeply after finally experiencing it. Words lubricate and moisten the mind: We all know how visualization and verbalization of sex before lovemaking can act as the most potent foreplay, enhancing our longing and anticipation of it. Here I want to stress the significance of sharing words about sex in afterplay: Yes, take me in words before, talk to me during, but also love me three times by writing about it afterwards A writer, they say, always lives an experience twice: the first time in action and the second time through words. Or indeed, as any blogger on Adult Dating zone knows, it's fun to experience sex not just in action but through sharing memories of past sex and sharing fantasies about future sex. I'm fascinated by the relationship between word and act both inside and outside the bedroom. Indeed, as something of a historian by training and profession, I love considering the significance of talking about the past and trying to learn from it. This concern has been heightened for me recently by my desire to reflect on the end of my second marriage. In my first marriage, we seldom talked sex....before or afterwards or during. We just did it. In the best years of my second marriage, we talked about sex a lot, before, during, and afterwards. We lived apart from each other (an hour apart) during the first nine months of the relationship. The sex during this time thrived on new relationship energy, but it also thrived on us sharing about sex in the afterplay as well as in the foreplay of it. We'd sex it up when we could be together, and then I'd write about in prose and she would write about in a poem, and it was like being taken two or three times As a historian of my own past relationship, I definitely conclude that developing and sharing a richer, more complex, more beautiful and shared language for talking about<b> eros </font></b>heightened our experience of lovemaking and helped us milk the energy from each act of sex (something like a woman continuing to squeeze and play with a cock after its cum). I must also add: As a lover of creative writing and acts of the imagination conveyed through logos, I love engaging in new love sonnet virtual sex: the sharing of words--and even the creation of something of a private language--before the act. So love me three times: Imagine it before as a poet or novelist, talk to me during it, and write to be afterwards as a historian of it. |
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love... the title... Love me three times 
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5/20/2010 12:46 pm |
Words lubricate and moisten the mind. Fuck that is hot!! You just made my panties wet~~ You are on a roll!! ~I never want you to think that you are anything less than amazing~
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