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A genuine question...
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A genuine question... Now please forgive me if this comes across as a slightly obtuse post but it is nonetheless implied sincerely. I so often notice people on this site who boast a proclivity for ‘Kinkiness’. However, I myself find the term to be somewhat equivocal. After all, at what point does an act cease to be of a sensual persuasion and enter into the realms of being ‘Kinky’? By way of extension, one could also conceivably and indeed, logically pose the additional question of at what point does a propensity for kinkiness transmogrify into perversion? Certainly, a not inconsiderable constituent in the differentiation of imputed terminology lay in the statistical commonality of a given sexual act/s for instance but it would seem injudicious and not to mention inequitable to rely solely upon said criteria. So, your thoughts? Indeed, would you term yourself as kinky? |
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Isn't it really a matter of the person with whom you interact? I mean, I would find someone who wanted to wear a diaper while being flogged and insulted with infantile phrases perverse - while someone who was used to dealing with people who wished that sort of thing rather vanilla... Although- it is said that kinky is a feather - perverse is the whole chicken...  ~ [blog kelidgh]~ I am, indeed 
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Isn't it really a matter of the person with whom you interact? I mean, I would find someone who wanted to wear a diaper while being flogged and insulted with infantile phrases perverse - while someone who was used to dealing with people who wished that sort of thing rather vanilla... Although- it is said that kinky is a feather - perverse is the whole chicken... 
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You raise a particularly interesting point here, namely that whilst we are within our own comfortable limits (whatever they may be) we often attribute and define that which we consider 'kinky' to be outside of said zone. If we then however subsequently push forward somewhat in our sexual pursuits, that which we previously would have denoted as kinky subsequently becomes the norm and we simultaneously 'reset' the term once more as pertaining to something more extreme in our perception
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I would certainly also describe myself as more sensually grounded yet there have been certain things I have done which might be deemed by some to be somewhat on the kinky side
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An excellent point. I to have observed a curious predilection by a great many members on here who seem to go out of their way to highlight their more, shall we say 'Ambitious exploits'. Certainly, this in itself is not a bad thing and their candour is to be highly commended (if said exploits are indeed non fallacious) yet I can't but help to remain sceptical that the inherent motivation behind a great many of these haughty accounts employed is in actual fact to swagger and stand out from the crowd as it were in an attempt to 'fish' for potential partners
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Absolutely true; I must confess that my perceptions have changed somewhat since joining this site in fact. Certainly, it's not a case that I was in any way naive prior to being a member, rather that conversing over time with such a wonderfully open and welcoming group of people from so many walks of life has allowed me a privileged sexual overview of the lives of so many. One thing which stands out in this is how, as individuals within a society, we express and experience sexuality so differently. It's an absolutely fascinating subject matter that is so rarely touched upon so frankly elsewhere
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for me... kinky is having an open mind to try new things... not just a term used to describe a man in a latex gimp suit or a woman dressed like a dominatrix... but kinky... well i like 3 sums does that make me kinky... i like being a dominant female.. does that make me kinky... i also love cuddles and gentle love making... not kinky any more am i? like i said... kinky for me... means just an open mind As individuals, our sexual desires and indeed, the application of said desires may straddle both ends of an artificially perceived sexual spectrum i.e. sensual vs 'kinky'. As such, the intrinsic veracity of the term is negated somewhat and we are left with, exactly as you stated, those who are more willing to experiment i.e. those with more open minds, and those who are not
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lol Damn! My kink is exposed   '....And I would have climaxed if it wasn't for these meddling kids!'
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lol Historically, the term has most certainly changed in relation to denotations; For instance, it was more than likely considered highly kinky to have sex naked during more prudish eras
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I always thought that I was pretty vanilla. But then I got to talking to some other people and found that some of the things I think are just fun (pulling boyfriend into alley off a busy street to give him a bj; making love in the middle of a field visible to a major highway) were deemed "kinky" by others. So I guess kinky is about perception. And for me it's about my partner and how into him I am. Although I do admit to loving those "you could be caught at any moment" encounters
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lol  Armed with this information, I will never again reply to any lady who boasts to me of her kinky streak; The coprophilliac perverts!
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Definitely. I'm very open minded and the more I explore the more fun I have. Thing is, its only kinky the first time 
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I always thought that I was pretty vanilla. But then I got to talking to some other people and found that some of the things I think are just fun (pulling boyfriend into alley off a busy street to give him a bj; making love in the middle of a field visible to a major highway) were deemed "kinky" by others. So I guess kinky is about perception. And for me it's about my partner and how into him I am. Although I do admit to loving those "you could be caught at any moment" encounters Essentially, that which is kinky for some may well be the norm for others
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Definitely. I'm very open minded and the more I explore the more fun I have. Thing is, its only kinky the first time
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I take the vanilla view of what kinky is: It's not explicitly sexual and still gets you off. That means I wouldn't describe myself as kinky, because I'm not, despite a prediliction for group sex and a certain amount of rough play. Writing for the literate perv: [blog MauiJaneDoe]
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It does certainly appear to be held much akin to a badge of honour in many ways. lol Are all Politicians perverse then?
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lol And all the more lovely for it 
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I take the vanilla view of what kinky is: It's not explicitly sexual and still gets you off. That means I wouldn't describe myself as kinky, because I'm not, despite a prediliction for group sex and a certain amount of rough play. Certainly this was not implied as an insult to those who partake and derive enjoyment as such, rather a commentators observation
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There's another good point of discussion (and certainly fuel for another post ): What is the difference between freaky and kinky?
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lol That's a great way of looking at it
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lol Even your hair is kinky eh?  But seriously, there does seem to be a consensus here that 'kinky' inherently denotes an open minded attitude towards sexual gratification. Certainly a positive trait to hold me thinks
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lol Well, I was once told that I would look great as a lady - although I'm not quite sure whether that was an insult or not lol
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