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About this site II
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About this site II This is the second blog entry about my experiences in this site, and also my 3rd blog ever, what means I will get the month free! Anyway in this second part I would like to talk about the people I have met here, but more than them from the people I have been in contact with. One of the errors I guess most men do about this site is to believe the Adult Dating zone ads, the idea of many women awating here in this site, just for to have sex with you!! The fact is that for every<b> woman looking </font></b>for men in Adult Dating zone there is 10 men that wanted to believe the Adult Dating zone talk and expecting to find women here, this proportion is basically based on a biological fact: the testosterone levels in men are ten times higher than in women. Easy right? Just basic physiology but this single fact makes to find Adult Dating zone heterosexual (bi or whatever) women extremely difficult. So after believe it for a while, face the financial friends replies (see About this site part  , finally I discovered I had to send hundreds of emails to get few replies (this is true does not matter if I send one liners or epic novels, I guess most of my emails are never read) and to go from email comunication to chat / phone calls and finally met somebody is quite improbable.But even to be "in contact" with some people here was interesting: One of the most amazing things that happened to me, was when I saw an quite exciting ad, a girl from Peru, just the pictures and text had porn movie look and feel, it was simply irresistible and I just tried to tell her the much I liked what I saw there. To my surprise she replied and we satrted a conversation that lasted 3 or 4 emails (a kind of record). The most interesting thing she told me was she had received about 5000+ repplies from all over the world (five thousand and she replied to me, maybe I sent her the best email I have ever written) but most of the replies were one liners and/or agresive/insulting. Gave me an example and how she got angry returned the agression and blocked the guy. At this point again five thousand replies and she takes her time to reply to a jerk that insulted her, amazing...Now I believe this is a prototypical Adult Dating zone comunication, the too agresive man, who believe can dominate everybody with insults and everybody will be glad to be insulted by him (this is one explanation the other is the poor desesperated guy who just stop being "friendly" trying to get replies) and the low self esteem, thin skined woman who expect to be adored (that's why they put so impressive ads) and obviously gets very angry when the replies aren't exactly what she expects (I will try to get deeper into the psychology of the Adult Dating zone members in the part II .The second interesting thing that happened, was after a while I just stopped reading the ads (to be honest most are boring non sense besides is useless when no reply is the expected event) and just started to send emails to any ad which had interesting pictures. So I got a quite unexpected reply from a girl who told me that in spite she put an ad looking for women obviously for a lesbian experience but also maybe for a threesome with her husband, she received a lot of messages from men (ok just check the ads that say: "NOOOO MEN!!!"). Thus I explained her the reasons why men don't read ads and respond to pictures (by the way she removed her picture, like one month later). But again if she was looking for women why did she reply to me? Well maybe because in reality she was more interested in men, but cannot tell her husband who believes that only he can have sex with other women as long as they want have sex with his wife first. Adult Dating zone sexist drama does not seem to be so different than the real life, does it? and maybe the reasons because a woman (or even a man) put an ad in Adult Dating zone aren't so clear (I am starting to believe the "lost boys" aren't so lost after all, see part , not for her and even less for her husband specially if he believes women don't have the same "sexual rights" than him. I guess is easy to guess we could not go beyond few emails, she was simply too affraid of her husband.The next strange event, well they were two similar but... well. One night I saw an ad girl in her 40's put a typical list requeriments that as usual she was not able to match or comply, but this was an extreme case: she wanted somebody much taller than her (surprise, surprise), a single man when she was married that has an ad with a facial picture when hers did not have one, and like this the list went on and on. At this point I think I was somewhat frustrated with the no replies, no results situation, and decided I wanted to get a reply and maybe see her face. Thus I put the theory in practice, I sent her a message mocking her not so smart requeriments and saying at the end I wanted a reply with a picture of her face and I was sure she was going to reply that...and of course she did with something like this: "IT'S JUST MY PREFERENCE!". With quite dramatic tone and by the way as ridiculous as her ad; but she did something else, she sent me a face picture and blocked me. So it worked, mission acomplished, but at the end I didn't feel good about it. And suddenly two years later it happened again or sort of...Again I found an ad written with exactly the same psychological characteristics a ton of rules not even a demanding lady can really comply, kind of the same do it as I say not like I do. But it was time to redeem myself, I wrote something different, something kind and funny that I thought was going to be safely ignored, and I was right not to get a reply was the best it could happen but it didn't and I got a reply a positive one and in a week we were chatting for first time. Then she had a fear attack because she was in contact somebody she didn't know: me. She expressed this unconscious fear as anger and the session ended badly, I was frustrated I sent her an not so friendly email explaining her the whole thing, why in fact I did contacted her, the result was even more anger. Anyway two diffrent approches to the same kind of mental issues and almost the same result. Thus my recomendation could be be careful who you send emails to, better try something safer, unidirectional (where there is no risk to really contact anybody unless you want to enter into a "chat championship fight" to win over her attention) like the webcams. To watch jumping sometimes naked and even talking women in their webcams I have to accept is simply irresistible, I guess is this way for most men. Some times I have tried to contact them with no results, usually at the begining when I really don't know anything about them, because if they talk I end up observing online their emotional/psychological issues, this is depressing at times but I will talk about this in the part III. For completness I think I have to talk about the people I have met in person, two just once from few minutes to a couple of hours and one which I was able to have a kind of relationship for about a month. It's hard to say something bad about people who has the guts to face reality whatever the consequences maybe be, they deserve all the credit for this, but clearly they had issues too. Finally I would like to end this with a positve note, I would like to believe that for a few good and very lucky men there is very attractive and smart women awaiting them in this site (I also believe I have seen them, in fact I can't stop watching their pictures, maybe they are but I am not sure, I could be sure if it could get a reply) to have the best experiences of their lives, the problem is just to know who is who, difficult but maybe no impossible. |
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