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Once An Asshole...
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Once An Asshole...  ...Always an asshole. My daughters(1) father. He calles maybe six times a year and that's being generous! Most every conversation he has with her he gets his little snide remarks in about me. She usually just brushes it off and takes what he says with a grain of salt. Just a lil history... We moved here November 99 from Ohio. Her father has not seen her since. He bought a ticket the first year we were here (summer of '00), but he failed to show up at the airport. Sure he sent his wife, but their departing flight didn't leave till the next day and she was going to stay with a relative. The story goes like this. They created a channel on some family site, and they discovered a long lost relative that she may not recognize because she has not seen her for over 20 years. She was not even sure if she'd recognize long lost relative. Anyway the relative was supposed to pick them up at the airport and let them stay the night. The relative didn't show. I was uncomfortable with them staying with a relative they didn't know. She had no back up plan. For all I knew my may have had to sleep in the airport terminal. Anyway I left the airport with my . I didn't go back for their departing flight. She didn't want to go anyway. (For weeks before she was scheduled to go, she was in a daze. I know she was not wanting to go see him. She remembers the abuse her put her through). I was where I was supposed to be when I was supposed to be. Nothing in the visitations say that I had to keep returning because they fucked up. Asshole could not come to pick her up but he sure could muster up enough energy to email me and tell me what a miserable irresponsible person he thought I was. For the next year, I got an email from him about once a week, telling me what a horrible person he thinks I am. I never responded to his letters. Well this pissed him off. So he sends me a threatening letter saying that if I didn't respond to his letters he was going to have his lawyer come after me. He got his wish, I wrote him back simply replying, "I don't have to dignify emails such as this with a comment. If you have a lawyer have him contact me, I have a few things he would be interested in." His lawyer contacted me ONCE. Lawyer stated that asshole said I have moved around and he didn't have my address or anyway of getting ahold of me. Funny how lawyer had addy to send me letter. I told lawyer, check the court records I have been here since I moved here, Phone number and address is still the same. Then I offered to his lawyer other things that discredited asshole. His lawyer never contacted me again. I have talked to asshole maybe three times since then. Anyway... Last night he called and started in again. This time he was really<b> dogging </font></b>me and brought up the molestation she has tried 12 years to forget. The bastard. That wonderful young woman I brought up told him off. She told him the fuck off. She has never ever been disrespectful to her father. I have always encouraged respect towards him. This time he went too far. She told him that she remembers everything about our home in Ohio. She told him that she remembers the horrible physical and mental abuse he did to do to her. She told him that she remembers when he made her stand in the corner with a bar of soap in her mouth until she told him what he wanted to hear, whether it was true or not, he wanted to hear that I talked bad about him. I didn't, but he wanted her to tell him I did. She finally realized that if she lied to him she could play. She told him that she knows what type of a mother I am and that what he was saying was pure lies. She reminded him that he said he would never lie to her and then she proceeded to call him a liar. The poor girl was in tears when she got off the phone. (like many times before) I told her, "Now he knows the strong minded young woman I raised." We were soon laughing. He's an ASSHOLE who needs to stop blaming me for his troubles. Perhaps if he took responsibility for his actions, life might be a bit brighter! ASSHOLE! DustStormDiva  |
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He'll get sick of it and stand up to him. DustStormDiva
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I was wondering how much she would tolerate before she took action. I wanted to call him after her conversation with him, but she asked me not to. She said she wanted to prove to him that she didn't need to hide behind me when she was pissed at him. I promised her I would not call him then, but the next hurtful conversation, he was MINE. He better be grateful that I abided by her wish and didn't call him and rip him to shreds. He's a fuck quack. DustStormDiva
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I am so proud of her ... and of you for being there for her. *much love* /  This is my blog - [blog _Safira]. There are many like it, but this one is mine. RECOMMENDED READING: A F F The Only Site For Me
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She is a strong and beautiful woman. I am very proud of her for standing up to him. He's an ASS. DustStormDiva
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I am so proud of her ... and of you for being there for her. *much love* / DustStormDiva
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