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Last Man Standing
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Last Man Standing I met Lex in early 2004. My ex and I had just broke up due to her drug abuse and my impatience to deal with it any longer. Lex was just what I needed at the time. When my fiance left, she did so leaving me the two bedroom apartment and all bills. I found, however, that I just didn't want to go back. After work, when most are extremely happy to leave and go home, I had a feeling of not knowing what to do. My fear was mixed. I didn't want to get home and her suddenly be there, but even if she weren't, I didn't want to go and still see her shit there. As it stood, she wouldn't come to collect her shit till the day before I was scheduled to move out and into another unit. I didn't know how to preoccupy my time. I ended up doing what every other "smart" person does. I went to the bar. This bar is no ordinary bar. You know how they have bars for yuppies, bars for people in their 20's, bars for older middle aged folks, bars for bikers, bars for Corporate America types just getting off work? This bar was all of that. You see, this bar offers up pool tournaments, dart tournaments, backgammon tournaments, very loud music and bartenders not afraid to give out free shots now and again. It was THE perfect place to people watch. It didn't take long. Every time I came in, Lex was there with her big smile and funny demeanor. Let me preface that she is NOT my type, but her personality just pulls you in. She really is that sunshine that you need to see everyday. I'm guessing w/in a couple of weeks, she knew me by name and always made me feel very welcome. Within about a month, she invited me to some shindigs she would throw on the weekends. I really needed this. At these shindigs were other bar regulars and it was a great bunch of people to get to know when I really had no other friends to hang with. Long term relationships kind of does that, I'm afraid. You tend to just focus on it rather than keeping your regular friends, but alas I digress. Within about a year, there really wasn't a day that I didn't see Lex. If she worked, I went to see her. If she had a party, I went to it. We really did turn into best friends. I've never met a person more driven to accomplish things in life. Although she was just a bartender, Lex had come from a massive dance background. Her specialty was<b> ballet </font></b>and had even been traveling with cruise lines as her full time dance job. There were two things that she really, really wanted. She wanted to one day buy a house and then to move on to opening her own dance studio. Two years after meeting her, she got into this "Let's go look at houses." type of thing. No, it was not to move in together, it was to move into the same neighborhood together. There was, of course, a list of requirements that needed to be met. We needed a pool, a pool and a pool. We liked to lay out (I was skinny then) and drink. After a couple of months, she found her house. There weren't any in the hood that were new, so I built mine on a lot 5 houses down from her. I haven't really seen her since. I'm exaggerating, but isn't that the way it really goes? Now that she'd got her house, it was time for her to focus on boys... I say boys, because she seems to date guys younger than her. It always started off great. They date for a month, the boy moves in, she becomes too strong personality-wise for the boy, he would move out and then I'd get a phone call again. I never liked the boys she dated. Whenever asked to join for Sunday dinner (lots of grilling), I would always feel a tension between the boy and I. It could be that she still has a picture of us up in her kitchen, or it could be that they were scared to really say anything in front of me that could be reported back to her. In either case, it's just silly. I've never asked the boys anything to incriminate themselves as Lex does an amazing job of weeding them out on her own. Secondly, I've always told her of whom I just don't like and why. We have a really open line of communication. As of a year and a half ago, Lex left the bar and went out on a ledge. She'd found a venture capitalist that would back her in starting a studio. Within a year, "her" girls placed at regionals. It seems like she's really going to eventually succeed at her dream. I've left out the fact that during this time, she'd found a new boy toy. I say this, again, because he's younger. This time, however, I just might finally agree with her decision. This guy is in the Air Force Reserves. He's a full-time reservist, however, and not just a weekend warrior like I was. I agree with him, because he is the first guy that can keep her in check. She's very head-strong and he just doesn't put up with her attitude which can get rough. As of 6 months ago, they are engaged. I'm thrilled... for her. This guy and I just don't really sync either. It's not for a lack of trying on my part either. He's either really quite or he just doesn't really like me, which is fine as well. The wedding will be July of next year. I, for whatever reason, am expected to go... as well as my parents. They are on a mid-level budget. I offered to tap out (throwing up the anxiety excuse that used to plague me) to no avail. I guess this leaves me as the last man standing. After getting married, I know that I won't ever really see her. I haven't really seen her at all until about 1.5 months ago when her boy toy was going through a rough time. He was stationed over-seas when she got the call from his sister that his father had just committed suicide. At 11PM, she was pounding on my front door and blowing up my phone. I was about to take her head off until I saw the tears... It lasted about three hours on my driveway. Me trying to be there for her with her on the phone with the Red Cross and his sister. They flew him out immediately. Now, life seems to be back to normal. She can't answer the phone or text back when I'm just saying hello. You can't beat normal!! Again, I'm the last man standing. My best male friend was married a couple - or more - years ago. We see each other only during football season on Sundays. Lex will soon be married and living her dream... and here I sit. For whatever reason, I'm okay with this. As bitter as I may sound, I'm really not. Life just has a funny way of changing shit up on you. The question that really stands is... who is going to be my next Lex??  ~AAS |
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Very true.  ~AAS
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You'd think mine would be open year round, but nope!! You with the old jokes. Haha. Payback is a bitch. I'm thinking he is as well. That's sad. ~AAS
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You will find someone again. It won't be another Lex..but it might be someone better suited to you...Think of it in this way..she helped you out of that dark time in your life. She moved on and got her dream, no go find yours!! Life has a funny way about it, when you least expect it , you will find what you are looking for! ~AAS
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10/24/2012 10:04 am |
Sounds like it is time to find AAS!!!! Find out what you want in life and what will make you happy!!! Nobody can do that for you. It is tough to do, however, it is time my friend! It is time!!! Maybe even a change of scenery for you! HUGS!
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10/24/2012 7:56 pm |
Aww, I just want to give you a big hug and kiss! Muah!
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Sounds like it is time to find AAS!!!! Find out what you want in life and what will make you happy!!! Nobody can do that for you. It is tough to do, however, it is time my friend! It is time!!! Maybe even a change of scenery for you! HUGS! ~AAS
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Aww, I just want to give you a big hug and kiss! Muah! Why thank you. ~AAS
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