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Blogs > spiderj72 > Going to Hell for sure

Here we go again.  

spiderj72 51M
5951 posts
10/8/2011 9:47 am
Here we go again.

Your Uncle spider has a friend (yes i have friends damnit) and we were talking the other day. She is just realizing that she has submissive tendancies and after a long period of<b> celibacy </font></b>she is now exploring those tendancies with a passion.

I have to admit that i admire her fearlessness somewhat. She has dove in headfirst and is gathering all kinds of info and knowledge. I asked her how her quest was going and she admitted that her cyber domme is kinda bust. He is frustrated because he is a sadist and she is not into pain at all.

So the conversation went round and round and it got round to owning her sexuality. She is one of those rare women who really gets off on fellatio. She is happiest with a mouth full of cock and as she has said her enthusiasm for it is evident to her partners. However she had problem owning the fact that she is a cocksucker.

She has a problem with being a "slut". She still has the negative conotation to the word. I tried to convince her that name is just that. The negative or positive spin is put on it by others. She views slut as negative and cant admit that her sluttines of being happy with a face full of dick is a good thing.

I tried it a different way. I asked her if she would honestly tell her daughters that she loves sucking. She blushed and stammered and i confessed my love of the ladies backside and told her that i just own that about myself. It is a part of me like being tall, or right handed, or just goddamn awesome. I tried to tell her that until you can tell people easily about her love of cocksucking then it would be problematic for her.

I also told her that she has been carrying this negative stigma about "slut" for a long time and more than likely someone she looked up to (older sister, cousin, teacher) had put that into her brain and she hasnt shaken it because it had the air of authority to it.

What do you think? Do you still carry some deep seated bias because of something someone said once upon a time? Or have you burst through that box and now own your own sexuality?

spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
10/8/2011 3:16 pm
    Quoting  :
linds you are like the onion. just when i get comfy with the notion of you are horned up haus frau your let slip the little goodies of doms. just a gift that keeps giving i think.


bbcjay8in_isback 46M

10/8/2011 7:27 pm

 Your friend needs to know that there is nothing sexier than owning up to her 'slutiness'!
Adventures of a Reformed Midwestern Player

Go 'head. You know you wanna.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
10/8/2011 8:23 pm
    Quoting bbcjay8in_isback:
    Your friend needs to know that there is nothing sexier than owning up to her 'slutiness'!
testify


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
10/9/2011 10:51 am
    Quoting  :
oh linds you deserve it all


avani1968 56F

10/10/2011 4:34 pm

 A woman who is a slut has taken ownership of her own sexuality. Empowerment to take what we want and why not men have been doing it for hundreds of years. Welcome to the human race...


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
10/10/2011 10:40 pm
    Quoting avani1968:
    A woman who is a slut has taken ownership of her own sexuality. Empowerment to take what we want and why not men have been doing it for hundreds of years. Welcome to the human race...
hear hear. i think she is still living with that guilt of being told it was "bad" once. i will check in with her again and see if she is any better.


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