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Manifesto of sorts.
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Manifesto of sorts. This came to me while i was driving and it has something to do with the zen tradition and it is a long story that led to this but bear with me and here goes. I have been on this site for a while now. I have blogged almost from day one and i have read blogs from day one as well. There seems to be a prevailing trend that i see in peoples writing and their interactions with others. It is two part and i will try to break it down because i think it really deals with only one issue at the root of it. There are people who flirt and charm you and then when it is time to meet in person they bail and no show the dates. Prevalent amongst males i believe, tell me if I am wrong. The other is the overwhelming notion that you are not "whatever" enough for people or intolerant to "whatever" group or fetish may be out there. Now i have said that i believe these both stem from the same root cause. That cause being our own insecurities. People who no show on a date are insecure about how they come off in public. It is very easy to be a keyboard lothario and charm the pants off of ladies (sometimes literally). You can stare at the words on the screen to find the rhythm and flow that will seduce a lady with your words. It is relatively easy to do. Why then do you balk at the meeting in real life? Is the picture false, are you heavier than you said, is it possible that you find her not attractive enough for you. What ever your reason it is horseshit. You are not confident to go sit across from some woman you have gotten to know and be comfortable for that date, or coffee, or whatever. Likewise when i hear and read people on the site getting their hackles up about looks, or attitude, or perceived misconceptions about race or creed or color I firmly believe it comes from their own insecurities with their own looks or attitude or race or creed or color. Why else do you feel the need to point out the fact that that lady has a fat ass, or her pussy looks funny, or that tattoo you got at 18 looks horrible now. Be honest and self evaluate folks. I know i don't have a huge dick, hell it is serviceable but sure not worth posting to folks. I don't do it. I know that i am a fat fuck but again i am totally up front with that as well. I cant throw stones at the fat fuck glass house because i am in that glass house. What i can tell you is that no one is perfect. Every model, or porn star, or whoever you think is, is not. Every single one of them has been an asshole, or cheated, or been less than nice to someone somewhere. What i do know is this. I am supremely confident that i am a good fucking guy. That inside of me beats a one of a dude and that everyone should be supremely at peace with that. So when you are insecure about whatever borrow my security. Think to yourselves and borrow from my confidence in my own good guyness. It will get your through that first date, or crazy fetish or whatever insecurity you have that is making you throw stones at others. My confidence is a never endings supply because no matter what goes on you cant shake my belief that i am great. Not really a manifesto so much as a rant or rambling of sorts. |
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I have 'borrowed' your confidence more times than you know. I've hesitated to post photos and then thought to myself, 'Spidey will like this one, even if no one else does'. I've been scared to meet people and said to myself, 'Who cares if this guy doesn't like me? I can go home and text Spidey instead, and have a much better time!'. Yeah- it's true. The confidence you pass on to others is the reassurance that, in YOUR eyes, we are all okay. And we love you, so that MEANS SOMETHING. I don't open up to just anyone, and you've seen me at my absolute worst and loved me anyway. And I thank you for that, more than you know. Why wouldn't I be confident, with you by my side?  .When it comes to sex, I need a STRONG connection. Otherwise, the page just keeps buffering and takes FOREVER to load...
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8/25/2012 7:21 pm |
I certainly can't add much more then Lady Gottaring here but Spidey, I may not have the perfect ass, I may be a bit thick around the middle but you see past all that and see the real person... be it me or anyone else on here. You are a true gentleman and there is no other one who could ever take your place. There will never be another Spidey! You have shown us your vulnerabilities, your strengths, your kinks, and you have accepted all of ours as well. So today, I stand with my hand over my heart and say, Damn it - I care about you Spidey always have and our fellow bloggers. {=} PS. I have always shown up for a meeting with someone. If I say I'm going to do something I always follow through. It has been the men with cold feet, in my experience.
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I have 'borrowed' your confidence more times than you know. I've hesitated to post photos and then thought to myself, 'Spidey will like this one, even if no one else does'. I've been scared to meet people and said to myself, 'Who cares if this guy doesn't like me? I can go home and text Spidey instead, and have a much better time!'. Yeah- it's true. The confidence you pass on to others is the reassurance that, in YOUR eyes, we are all okay. And we love you, so that MEANS SOMETHING. I don't open up to just anyone, and you've seen me at my absolute worst and loved me anyway. And I thank you for that, more than you know. Why wouldn't I be confident, with you by my side? .
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I certainly can't add much more then Lady Gottaring here but Spidey, I may not have the perfect ass, I may be a bit thick around the middle but you see past all that and see the real person... be it me or anyone else on here. You are a true gentleman and there is no other one who could ever take your place. There will never be another Spidey! You have shown us your vulnerabilities, your strengths, your kinks, and you have accepted all of ours as well. So today, I stand with my hand over my heart and say, Damn it - I care about you Spidey always have and our fellow bloggers. {=} PS. I have always shown up for a meeting with someone. If I say I'm going to do something I always follow through. It has been the men with cold feet, in my experience.
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that is the sort of stuff that would drive me crazy too. after all the work and flirting and getting excited for a meet and then a no show. at least sit down have the drink and tell me you thought i was only joking when i described my flaws to you.
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