49 posts 10/11/2012 10:04 pm
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Polyamory or Swinging or BOTH
So we’ve been enjoying the swinging lifestyle for a few years, and are having a blast. But then one of our play partners started to become more than just a sex partner. I (she) started developing feelings for him…..Dare we call it polyamory?
"Polyamory is the practice of having more than one loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. The relationships are long-term, intimate, and usually (but not necessarily) sexual. Persons who consider themselves emotionally suited to such relationships may define themselves as polyamorous, often abbreviated to poly."
-- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
" Swinging, sometimes referred to in North America as the swinging lifestyle, is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. Swinging has been called wife swapping in the past, but this term is archaic and does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may take part."-- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging
You get together, you play, and then you go home. That’s kind of what it’s about right? But Polyamory takes it to a new level and, what I would consider, a much more enlightened level where you are actually in love relationships with multiple partners. It’s a true and total sharing of one another and not many couples (or individuals) are able to do that. We are trying, we are working our way through all the kinks. It all comes down to communication. We are learning that we all must communicate. I with my husband & with my lover. My husband with my lover. It’s a very intricate, very carefully balanced set of relationships.
The biggest reason why many people feel uncomfortable in a Swinging or Polyamorous relationship is "jealousy". It’s one of the biggest emotional issues that all couples face. So we have tried to find ways to make each other feel really special and absolutely certain about where you stand in your own relationship. I have learned to be much more vocal, telling my husband as much as possible how happy he makes me, how important he is to me, etc…instead of taking for granted that he knows. He needs to hear it from me NOW especially. It’s a balancing act all the time…..but it is worth it.
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