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Rude broadcasters, viewers, and a solution!
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Rude broadcasters, viewers, and a solution! Hello Everyone! Before I get started, I want you all to know that I aim to offend no one, yet people will be offended. Get over yourselves. I have something to cover and I'm going to do it bluntly, but very honestly. I am also going to speak from my own experiences and in no way does this reflect on EVERYONE, but the people who I will discuss here know who they are and HOW they are. Shame on you! I'm talking about rude people that broadcast and rude people that are viewers and some of the relations between the two. I'll also offer a solution, an easy one, although most people will either poo-poo it or otherwise ignore it, likely because they are heartless. I've been and still am on both sides of this fence. I am a Cross-dresser who broadcasts on two wonderful sites with over 1300 people in my fan base, mostly men. In my brief experience camming, I have run into demanding,, ill mannered, rude and insensitive people, more than what I usually run into. It really irritates me. Can you tell??? Hahahaha! They seem to think that everyone here gets naked at the drop of a hat, at anytime that someone demands or tries to weasel it out of you. I'm always having to remind people that I'm a Cross-dresser, not a Stripper, and that I will behave provocatively at my discretion, not at your whim or command or demand. I don't get paid for this. I do it because it's good for me and plenty of my fans and viewers seem to like it. I pay for my own accounts, clothes and everything else without any help from any viewer and cam for my benefit (therapy! I love my therapy!!!) as well as other peoples' pleasures, at my expense and on the sites I subscribe to. If I have to ask one more person to read my intro or bio, (because they ask the same stupid questions) that I have answered in my bio, I'll go nuts! Trust me, THAT will be a short trip! And men, a little tip for you and your bios. Not everyone wants the first thing that they see in your bio, to be a picture of your cock! You complain nobody wants you, so what, so you put your cock out there? Women aren't as shallow as men would like to believe. Some are of course, but you'll find most are not. When someone joins me in a chat, the first thing I do is visit their page. If there is no photo or just a photo of your cock, and then nothing in your bio, well, I won't even finish! Ladies, the floor is yours on this one. Indulge yourselves. So, anyway, being at the "viewed" end of this, I now understand part of the next thing I cover, and that's the cammers! I am a viewer as much as I am a cammer, and I understand why a lot of the cammers, including women, cross dressers and trans genders who cam are the way THEY are(not all of course, but in my experience, 75% or worse are). It seems they are so into themselves that they cannot and are not able to be courteous enough to say hello, send an emoticon, tell us(rude viewers) to piss off or acknowledge someone who has taken the time and effort (some times very bashfully) to say hello or deliver a compliment. I don't mean anyone but the cammers I'VE dealt with on the sites I'm broadcasting, or "camming" on. Am I losing it or is that too much to ask? I know by experience that if you're not talking, but typing, it can get pretty busy! But what, you can't smile? Acting or being stuck up? Doesn't look good on you! I get so many people thanking me for taking a minute to say hello and telling me how different I am for doing so. There are a few tranny's out there that are absolutely wonderful that way. They respond. They take the time to answer a question, and they're polite, funny and perfectly clear(unless they're a little tipsy, then they're funny as ever!). They do NOT mince words! Two come to mind, one I haven't seen in a while, but was very approachable. Love those ladies! Did I mention only TWO come to mind? That's a pretty sad accounting if you ask me! It paints these people, myself included, as unapproachable, rude and insensitive to the people who view them. Most of these guys just want someone to acknowledge them! Of course, there are a lot of real pigs out there too! Vulgar, crude, arrogant, eeewww! But you'll get that anywhere if you put yourself out there the way we do, camming and/or viewing. Listen geniuses, you don't have to discuss quantum physics, but a hello or thank you goes a long way for the guys who aren't pigs. I believe the good guys out number the idiots. I'm a Cross-dresser, as I have mentioned before, but am not gay in the strict sense of the concept. Seems that the consensus is that if you crossdress, you suck cock. I'm into women and Transgenders, not men, yet they (men) are probably 90% of my fan base and it is largely for them that I got into the crossdressing and camming end of it. To offer that sensitivity and acknowledgement the way a good woman might, or the way I would want a woman to treat me. To do so while looking as attractive and more-so, alluring as I can is also a plus and I try very hard to do so not just for the guys, but for the women as well. Alluring means that I can make you cum without taking off a stitch of clothes. Now, I DO have an occasional "indigoink moment". Those of you who know me, know that I'm not one to "strip" at the drop of a hat, on demand or command. When camming and cross-dressing, I try to emulate women, who I have a great respect and admiration for, and who've had an undeserved, bad rep for centuries for, respectfully. My experience with a number of the men is that if this is the way women get treated by men, for me to misrepresent them, would do a bigger disservice to what appeals to me most, that's the Ladies, so I don't dress like a (no disrespect intended, but most women don't dress like tramps, again, no offence, but we're all adults here and I'm sure you all know what I mean). Besides, Tramps need love, too! Instead, I use the opportunity to educate those same men so they look at their women or the women in their lives more respectfully. They don't even have to BE respectful as we have to earn THAT, but to not be DISRESPECTFUL. BTW, when I use the term "Trans-genders", I do so to cover the different varieties easier, no offence to anyone, but I mean Shemales, Transsexuals, Transvestites, Hermaphrodites, Drag Queens, Traps, Cross-dressers and everyone and anyone in between. We're all in this! Sorry, I digress... I always knew I was a little different than others but it was so natural to me it was the only thing I knew, so to me, it was normal. Never thought different. Lou Reed's Transformer LP opened my eyes to another side of Lou and the rest was history Thanks Lou! RIP. May you be walking on your wild side up there! Don't get me wrong. I'm still very much all male, to the bone. But just like Lou, I definitively have a female, or as Lou so eloquently put it, a "wild side". From that point on, I knew that it was in me as well, I just didn't know how to release it. I eventually did. I'm here!!! It's for a couple of selfish reasons also I'm not ashamed to admit, but as a viewer, almost all the Transgenders I sought to make some contact with by way of a hello or a compliment,(never any demands), I would get ignored, or they would stop camming, or ban me! OVER A HELLO AND A COMPLIMENT, NOT EVEN ANYTHING RUDE!!! This occurred to me just this evening which is what prompted me to write this Post. I ran into fat men in their ex's old lingerie, hairy, bad wigs, nylons, and worse make-up, looking like that Wookie, Chewbaca in drag. Imagine THAT!!!! All thinking that THAT's Cross dressing or that makes them trans something! Ask any<b> transsexual </font></b>how serious a transition is, she'll be certain to put you in your place and if you're lucky, give you a REAL education, but you better get your terminology correct. Ok, to each their own I guess. Someone for everyone! Who am I to judge, so I won't! But I felt I could do better(cross dressing) than what I was seeing when viewing, I felt they (the viewers) also deserved better. A simple hello! A response to a question, even if the answer would be "no", it would be a polite "no". An acknowledgement. Hey, I can appreciate AND understand why some cammers are the way they are when all this rude behavior is going on. Yet I've found a way to be firm, and polite. Keep all my fans and get more. Remember, I'm a cross dresser who cams, and I view other transsexuals, cds, women etc., in the hopes that one day I find my own match! Someone who loves me unconditionally for my quirks, for lack of a better term. I've been called "weird" so much in my life, it's alarming, yet I didn't let it stop me, it just made me and my resolve a little stronger. I should have a huge complex of one sort or another! Life's too short for that! I try to always look as good as possible, and I almost ALWAYS respond to EVERYONE who has taken time from their schedule to stop and say hello, deliver a compliment (and I get a lot of them) and I chat with anyone who asks! Ask any of my fans. Ask the ones I've banned. I've had people that I've banned approach me online under a different name to apologize for their behavior. THAT speaks volumes! While the conversations don't ALWAYS go well, most of them do go very well! Downright entertaining!. Even the stupid ones get enough rope to hang themselves, at which point I politely hang them. When in a chatroom setting, it can sometimes be very funny handing out the rope and watching them take it! Lot of goofballs out there! All comes down to educating and touching an emotion. So,try this simple trick, all you cammers and viewers. Ready? It's a little thing called "The Golden Rule". Anyone ever hear of it? Doesn't require any belief in any god or God. Doesn't require any level of spirituality. It's really quite simple, yet everyone seems to have overlooked this remarkably simple solution to enjoying life and living to the fullest and it can be infectious. Treat other people the way you would like others to treat you. If only 50% of the planet followed this simple suggestion, world peace would be just around the corner! I know we'll never get rid of rude, stupid and insensitive people, but I truly believe treating each other the same way we like to be treated is a great first step toward that. May I suggest trying it with the next person who is rude to you. We have to start somewhere, so why not here, with all the supposed dregs of society, as some (or a lot)of us are referred as. If as cammers and viewers, as misunderstood as a lot of us who are the way we are, are, can't do this simple thing, than we are as much a part of the problem as the solution and we deserve what we get. I'm not up for that! Someone has to step up! As the happy flat little cross dresser that I am, I'm starting here!!! Finally and in closing, before you all get your panties in a snit, I have to say that in my 16 extremely enjoyable months of Cross-dressing as a proud member of the Trannydate website as "indigoink", I have learned a great deal about life, my life, your lives, and met 1000s that are warm, funny, intelligent, curious, bashful people, from all walks of life around this world, the camming side and the viewer side of the spectrum and THAT restores a little of my faith in humanity! I further look forward to meeting so many more. This is a wonderful venue for us all, at a wonderful time in our world, and I thank Trannydate for giving us the opportunities to BE who we are and to be able to share it in a way we couldn't as recently as 25 years ago. A big MUAH to Trannydate, all my fans, all the girls, gurls, trans-everythings, women, men, and everything in between. We all share this planet together! Let's make the best of it AND have some fun in the process! I love you all dearly! May you all cum in puddles! Indie!    {=}indie |
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