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Another ban,, what was the reason? Moderator 7/22/2011 9:22 am ,banned ***** Came in without cam .. announced he was hard and watching the room .. announced he was watching a specific person (that he was not in conversation with) and was stroking ... announced he was still stroking I would consider unbanning b/c he did not have cam but it just seemed real creepy and I did not think it fit into the room, especially where he was not engaged in a conversation
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An interesting observation in Best of the Best (which is a public chatroom, feel free to visit and review the bans from DG). In the RECENT VISITORS section. It shows 25 recent member visits. Of those, 10 are FORMER MODERATORS. In fairness, some have left voluntarily for various reasons. But that number does disclose at least 3 that were “fired”, banned or otherwise removed. A pretty high turnover rate for a “friendly” room?
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An interesting observation in Best of the Best (which is a public chatroom, feel free to visit and review the bans from DG). In the RECENT VISITORS section. It shows 25 recent member visits. Of those, 10 are FORMER MODERATORS. In fairness, some have left voluntarily for various reasons. But that number does disclose at least 3 that were “fired”, banned or otherwise removed. A pretty high turnover rate for a “friendly” room? No current bans will be on that site. DG Has decided to "hide" them recently .
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This is very curious, isn't the room called Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly)? It is fairly common for a "Daddy and baby " references during play. Senior Moderator,,,1/6/2013 1:57 pm,,,, Banned ******: talk kept referencing to himself as dad in a scene with #######doesn't belong in either room. (my note: wonder what made this ual in nature? ) Continues to interpret and ban as he wishes
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This is very curious, isn't the room called Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly)? It is fairly common for a "Daddy and baby " references during play. Senior Moderator,,,1/6/2013 1:57 pm,,,, Banned ******: talk kept referencing to himself as dad in a scene with #######doesn't belong in either room. (my note: wonder what made this ual in nature? ) Continues to interpret and ban as he wishes
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Weeding out of Moderators continues. Another moderator is gone,, was a fairly long standing member and moderator. Wishing that person good luck in the future. Guess the "Weeding out " of moderators continues. No reason known, as usual, these things are done silently to avoid publicity. A check disclosed that this person is no long a Group Member either.mmmm?
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Congrats Pal..Keep up the good job
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Congrats Pal..Keep up the good job  Hope all is well
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THank you,,,{=}
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The decline is accelerating. Look at the activity, or lack of same in the Discussion Threads on Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly). There seems to be very little effort put in by the moderators to keep the Discussion Threads alive. Senior Moderators,,There are 6 of them listed. Three have not posted on the Discussion Threads in 20 Plus days, One has no record of ever posting. Two have more posts in competitors rooms than in DG. Eight Associate Moderators. Five have not posted in DG in over 30 days, One have no record of any post and two have not posted in over one year . When you look on the Top Interest Group Chat Rooms listing,, Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly) seldom appears now. Which is a dramatic change from the past,, indicating a frequently empty or under used chatroom.
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Jason,, your a worthless piece of shit.
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As the readers may gather, there was a post earlier today that apparently upset some people. In Fact I was contacted via email by someone , not the author of that comment and was asked to delete the comment. My response to that email was I do not ,like other venues , specifically Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly) rewrite or alter what is posted in this blog. There was a flood of Moderators, Senior Moderators and a Co Room Owner from Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly) ( a total of seven) that came to visit this blog and it would appear that somehow the comment was deleted. And the conversation in their chat room about this post was blanked out, their version of revising history. I will attempt to contact the site and the author the comment in question and see if they deleted the post. If it was neither of them , I will repost the comment here (yes I am not silly I copy the blog over daily).
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The mere concept that MrNov thinks anyone's a "piece of shit" is ludicrous. Nov? Pot ...meet kettle....you are as "black" as anyone on Adult Dating zone. Tell me Nov.....how many women have deleted profiles...because you can't take 'NO...NO FUCKING WAY" for an answer? How many couples have split from your unwanted attention....how many "assets" have you gra.....Say hello to Heels for me.....and tell your wife I feel sorry for her. bbed? I'd suggest you concentrate on luvin.....she's your sub right?
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This blog has gone over 45,000 Views!!!To me is proof positive that this is a message that people are interested in. The comments above seem to show there continue to be issues in that group / room. If you have any suggestions or comments, feel free to post them, or if you are more comfortable email me here on site. I do not delete nor do I edit comments (unless you request it),,,,,,,,,,,
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OK,, will leave it as is then,, thanks. Hope the delete of profile was just a mistake.
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Congrats Mr Pal
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Congrats Mr Pal It is the viewers that make it all worth while
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Tsk, Tsk, ,, Shows what I have always contended,, in a hard ball game they don't like being the "receiver" . And are always trying to "bend" things to hide their behaviors from their group members
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At the request of the poster of the post referenced in my entry above (9/9/2013 9:55 pm) has been deleted. This is in accordance with my blog policy that I will not delete or alter any posts without being requested by the author. I want it to be clear , I honor my commitments, in this case even though the author of this particular post has had some unkind even belligerent words toward me in this blog in the past. In an adult world, this is referred to as integrity (on my part)and the management of Daddy's Girls! (AGE Friendly) be served well to note this. Other than my INTEGRITY (which I have shown you in DG do not possess) I had no obligation to honor this request The posts I am referring to about this author can be found on Page 2 of this blog,Posts dated 2/13/2013 3:53 pm And 2/13/2013 5:20 pm
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I see the DG mafia got to you yesterday pal. The person who posted the original message had his profile deleted as well. I guess some people don't like getting called out when they act like a selfish bitch. Oh well. It will have no impact on the continuation of the blog. Just serves to reinforce what I have been posting. "They" are actually my inadvertent alliesIt did take a lie to do it. I was accused of "Misbehavior in "another persons" blog"
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An open letter to pal You have numerous times in this blog invited a moderator for DG to come forward and comment. I think this may be a futile act, since you appear to have your mind made up about us and what we’re capable of. I know you’ve quoted us from various message board posts and postings in our moderator’s room. I’ve seen my own posts mentioned in here more than once. But what I think you (and others) fail to realize is that there is very little context provided regarding the statements you have chosen to post. There is a lot of detail that is left out. You fill in what details are missing, but they are colored to suit your needs. You paint us all to be villains. I admit, if I didn’t know the situations or wasn’t one of those you quote, I may grow to despise these faceless people you are persecuting. But you don’t include any background on a number of the situations you’ve cut and pasted to here. The beauty of cut-and-paste is that everything you put there is true, but you also get to choose the parts you show. I’ve been a moderator in DG for almost two years now and a senior mod for a year at least. I will not try to waste my breath and say we are perfect. I know of so many things we’ve decided to do that can easily be viewed as the wrong move. We are human, and are flawed beings at best. We’ve all made mistakes or snap judgments in our tenure as mods, and you are no exception. There was a member of a room that was banned (by you) because he invited someone to view his cam. You saw that and immediately banned the person. but as I said above, it all goes back to context. For this particular instance, a member invited another member to view their cam in order to show off their new fireplace, which they were discussing in the room just prior to the invite. I won’t rehash any other bans. I wanted to simply make a point that there can always be more to a story, and I urge your viewers to consider the point of view from which you are venting, and that it may be rooted in truth, but its not necessarily complete. I will say this, and you can take this however you want. You are sitting here making claims against DG, and by doing so you are casting a wide net of blame across an overall nice group of people. DG has been the one place on this site I call home. If anyone has ever come to me with a problem, I have done whatever I can do fix it. And I do so within the rules. You continually imply that we pick and choose which rules we enforce, and we do what we want with the power we have. How about you consider this? A dear friend of mine was banned from DG (by a male senior mod) for pulling a member to another room. He’d been a member of the site for awhile and knew our rules, but forgot for a moment(as this act is permissible in other rooms). The Sr.mod who banned him could have let it slide, since he was a regular and it could be viewed as a simple mistake. Even more, as a moderator myself, I could have easily gone and reversed the ban on him. But since it is against our rules to reverse someone else’s ban, I couldn’t. See, we don’t pick and choose what rules we enforce or follow. I’m not saying this is a 100% occurrence, but I’d like to think we try. We have certain protocols in place for a reason. DG didn’t happen overnight. We’ve had things happen in the room that have caused us to adjust rules to prevent further problems. I can’t speak for everyone, but I try to follow the rules which I was taught in the beginning of my role as a mod. I also try to correct and assist other moderators when I see them interpreting a rule incorrectly or too harshly. I recall more than one occasion that I had to give you a gentle reminder that your interpretation of a rule was a little too strict. A couple of your friends have, in confidence, mentioned you as having a “zero-tolerance” policy for people. That kind of mind set removes all context of a situation, and we were seeing it causing problems. Pal, you like to mention month-to-month the number of members we have been losing. I would like to go back and see what our numbers were during the last couple months of your time with us. To put it plainly, you yourself were costing us some of our regular members. Maybe not enough to cause a decline in our room’s activities, but enough to where people were noticeably absent when you were around. You are angry, and from the story you tell, you have a right to be. But you attack us, making us out to coldhearted and calculated. You don’t tell others how we discussed your situation for several weeks before removing you as a moderator. You don’t show how we battled with what to do for sake of the room, or how it pained us at the final decision. And how, even when a decision was made to remove you (and the final decision had been for a probational period, not forever, but you also don’t share that.) some of us were uneasy with that choice, but felt it best for the sake of the room’s integrity. If I can be honest, your situation wasn’t handled properly once the decision was made. There were errors in the way you were treated, and also with former mod Superstud. His case is different, and I wont go into here. (Some of it is context, another part of it communication, and a larger chunk as manuipulation). I was a part of the decision-making process, but I was not involved in how it was handled. I truly wish I had been, because I think the circumstances could have been explained better and maybe delivered with more tact. I can’t fix how all that played out. I have seen how certain issues were handled and have been handled since, and have grimaced at the language and tone used to express a point. When a chasm of hurt develops and a war of words begins, its hard to fix the damage. Apologies are not enough to mend wounded pride and burned bridges sometimes. We are not innocent by any means, but we have become victims as well over the course of time. A dear friend of mine has been hurt with words attacking her because of her physical features. The war of words has made personal attacks against some people I call family for no other reason than the fact they also moderate the room I love. If there is one reason for which I will ban without guilt, it is the blatant disrespect and unfounded slandering of someone. We tend to get backlash for our actions, it comes with the territory. But one of your “supporters” on this blog has attacked others because she was wronged by the room owner. I was attacked on my IM service by another person who was “wronged” by the room. At 4am. I’ve been called a joke for having loyalty to the room. This came from a person I did not particularly care for, then or now, but was cordial with for the sake of other people who did. I never wronged him, and I was harassed and called a fool and a bitch by people for my simple association with the room. Who’s making snap judgments there? Our room itself has been attacked by other people, in more harsh ways than a ranting blog. Former members sometimes, other times from rooms that wish to make theirs more popular than ours. I can’t say whether other members in charge have ever acted in a way to destroy a room, but I know ours has been a target for multiple parties since long before I was a member. Perhaps we’ve jumped the gun on some situations, but when you are always looking for an attack, it can affect the choices you make. Emotion colored a lot of the events of the last year, and maybe it blinded us some. Maybe hyped up betrayals and having to choose sides and loyalties has made us jaded and put us on the defense too long. We’ve spent so much time defending what we love, we’ve failed to see that what we loved and what we have now might just be two different things. I think, at its core, the DG of old still exists. We still try to be a friendly room, we still try to keep it a safe place for fun and roleplay. For as long as I remain a Sr. Mod, I will be working to restore the room to its former glory and keep it as the room I fell in love with and call home. I am not the room owner, I am not any other moderator but me. I don’t know the actions others have taken when im not around. I can’t fix damage done by others, I can’t take back what was said and done. I also cannot say that I am blind to mistakes that occur, but any attempt at fixing things always takes time. Maybe with time, the people we have hurt with decisions we’ve made will forgive. I can’t make one person forgive another, but hopefully with time I can help make people see the room for its members, and not judge it on past actions of its leaders. To a person I once called friend, I can’t imagine that this single letter will change your viewpoint or halt your tirade of persecutions against DG or its moderators. But if you truly keep things on your thread in their entirety, and unaltered, maybe it will give balance to what has seemed to be a one-sided fight. I would like to go on record with anyone here who supports you that I sincerely feel ashamed that some people feel they were treated unfairly. It has never been our expressed intent to do so. some may be victims who were wronged because we were holding the reigns too tightly while others tried to take us down. Others may have simply been mistakes of newer moderators who didn’t know something clearly. Maybe a few were personal… I’m not going to try and say that it doesn’t happen. But that is the exception, not the rule. i'm not trying to make excuses in any way for anything that has happened. what would be the point? many would view it as a lie anyhow. all I can do is add details to create a better picture of "why" something happening. I think anyone who's going to judge us needs to have as much information as possible. Please recognize that we, the moderators of Daddy’s Girls, are people who do the best we can with what information we have to keep a safe environment for our membership. The outcome of our actions may not be favorable to all involved, but there is no way to avoid it sometimes. There is always another side to someone’s argument. This is just the thoughts of one moderator. I speak for no one but myself, but I speak with my experience and whatever weight my integrity may hold in this virtual world of ours.
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Very well written. Thank you for taking the time to respond. Lets let the viewers read and compare, then make up their own minds. Again thank you for sharing
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Hey Pal! I have read and reread Travie's open letter to you. I wish she had went into my "case". The details of what they did to me has never been discussed. After I was banned without explanation. I IM'd Her and asked if she was having trouble getting into DG.She replied to me "WHY DID YOU SEND EVERYONE A COPY OF OUR MEETING? NOT, did you do this? or were you in the room when we were having a senior mod meeting? She and the other senior mods had already decided I was guilty and that was the end of that situation. She is the ONLY one that spoke to me after I was banned, the rest of them totally snubbed me, and that was to bluntly accuse me and demand an explanation as to why I did it over a month had passed when I got an "apology" from the room owner. From the room owner: supa, I am sorry, but, this is what, we have observed....you have attended, our last 3 senior mod meetings and only once, when I called you out, did you even apologize! We will allow you in DG & KR, (just not as a Mod) provided, you guarantee, not to speak about it, no drama....sorry everyone, was an Adult Dating zone issue.....we had no choice after everything was copied and pasted to other people. It looked very bad as you appeared half way through our SR. meeting! Then wouldn't leave! We had no choice but to assume it was you!! I hear a word, you talked shit? You are done, otherwise enjoy the group as a member. We will un ban you tonight. Call me dense, but to me that sounded like they thought not only was I guilty of what they accused of originally, But they found more crap I was guilty of. But out of the goodness of their hearts they would ALLOW me to come back provided I kept my mouth shut about how shitty they treated me. However that wasn't good enough for them, They had the gall to threaten me with "you talk shit and you are done". I was so pissed I had to wait for a long while to cool down before I replied to THAT apology. I just sat back and bided my time and listened to the grape vine and it came to my attention that it was said that I was banned just as a PRECAUTION!!!!!! A precaution to what I never heard. But Not one of the Mods ever came to me and talked to me about what they did to me,out of everything they did to me THAT is the one thing that Made me lose all respect I had for them. I did receive another email from the room owner a few months later: It has only been recently that it has come to our attention and to Kittens that you were being totally honest and did nothing wrong. You have my and Kittens deepest apologizies, I am so sorry for what happened!! It looked so bad for you, from our side, and someone, somehow, your profile entered the room, and less than an hour later, the chat from that particular senior mod meeting was splattered all over the threads. Please forgive us! Thanks for your dedication and support. Your ban to both rooms has been lifted, if you care to visit us again. Our deepest apologizes, Bob and Kitten Notice the big change in their attitudes, BUT they never asked me to come back as a mod.That tells me that altough the apology looks sincere, it wasn't. These events are all water under the bridge and I have moved on. To me DG and KR are just letters of the alphabet. I do find it very sad that my so called friends from DG and KR would turn on me so sudddenly and viciously merely because of a computer glitch. With friends like that who needs enemies?
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Hey Pal! I have read and reread Travie's open letter to you. I wish she had went into my "case". The details of what they did to me has never been discussed. After I was banned without explanation. I IM'd Her and asked if she was having trouble getting into DG.She replied to me "WHY DID YOU SEND EVERYONE A COPY OF OUR MEETING? NOT, did you do this? or were you in the room when we were having a senior mod meeting? She and the other senior mods had already decided I was guilty and that was the end of that situation. She is the ONLY one that spoke to me after I was banned, the rest of them totally snubbed me, and that was to bluntly accuse me and demand an explanation as to why I did it over a month had passed when I got an "apology" from the room owner. From the room owner: supa, I am sorry, but, this is what, we have observed....you have attended, our last 3 senior mod meetings and only once, when I called you out, did you even apologize! We will allow you in DG & KR, (just not as a Mod) provided, you guarantee, not to speak about it, no drama....sorry everyone, was an Adult Dating zone issue.....we had no choice after everything was copied and pasted to other people. It looked very bad as you appeared half way through our SR. meeting! Then wouldn't leave! We had no choice but to assume it was you!! I hear a word, you talked shit? You are done, otherwise enjoy the group as a member. We will un ban you tonight. Call me dense, but to me that sounded like they thought not only was I guilty of what they accused of originally, But they found more crap I was guilty of. But out of the goodness of their hearts they would ALLOW me to come back provided I kept my mouth shut about how shitty they treated me. However that wasn't good enough for them, They had the gall to threaten me with "you talk shit and you are done". I was so pissed I had to wait for a long while to cool down before I replied to THAT apology. I just sat back and bided my time and listened to the grape vine and it came to my attention that it was said that I was banned just as a PRECAUTION!!!!!! A precaution to what I never heard. But Not one of the Mods ever came to me and talked to me about what they did to me,out of everything they did to me THAT is the one thing that Made me lose all respect I had for them. I did receive another email from the room owner a few months later: It has only been recently that it has come to our attention and to Kittens that you were being totally honest and did nothing wrong. You have my and Kittens deepest apologizies, I am so sorry for what happened!! It looked so bad for you, from our side, and someone, somehow, your profile entered the room, and less than an hour later, the chat from that particular senior mod meeting was splattered all over the threads. Please forgive us! Thanks for your dedication and support. Your ban to both rooms has been lifted, if you care to visit us again. Our deepest apologizes, Bob and Kitten Notice the big change in their attitudes, BUT they never asked me to come back as a mod.That tells me that altough the apology looks sincere, it wasn't. These events are all water under the bridge and I have moved on. To me DG and KR are just letters of the alphabet. I do find it very sad that my so called friends from DG and KR would turn on me so sudddenly and viciously merely because of a computer glitch. With friends like that who needs enemies?
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Not sure what the "violation" was here,,Room Rules clearly state that using the Site IM is allowed Senior Moderator,,,, 1/30/2013 4:09 pm,,, Banned ******** entered the room and said hey, anyone up for some roleplay action ιιιιιι IM me... [8:45¡PM] then left the room tried to Im to warn but didnt respond For more bans, please visit Best of the Best
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