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Swallows  Back in the day the Soviets used to call women trained by the KGB in seduction swallows (there as an actual school for this). The pun doesn't work in Russian, so that can't be what they were thinking, but still it makes a point. Swallow or spit? In the end it is up to her, and should be, but strictly from a male point of view I have a few things to add to the equation FYI if you will. There is an old line, that there is no such thing as a bad blowjob, and while it's partially true, it just ain't so. There are frustrating, unsatisfactory, disappointing, and even boring blowjobs, and it has less to do with technique than enthusiasm. I would rather have a sincere awkward first time blowjob than a mechanical 'get it over with because you have to' one by the finest fellatrix who ever lived. Swallowing is a bit more complex, but not from the man's end. Most men don't want to cum in a woman's mouth, on her face, or on her tits as an act of humiliation, that isn't the point. Most of us aren't that deep. The reason we like women to swallow is a sign of acceptance, a sign they want us as much as we want them. There is an element of ego for both sexes involved in sex, and any kind of rejection can upset the fine balance. Oral sex is an act that deepens the bond between two people as much as intercourse, and part of that acceptance and intensity is swallowing his cum and not spitting as if he did something disgusting (there is a variation called snowballing where he cums in your mouth and you hold it and pass it to him in a kiss --- equivalent to letting him kiss you when he emerges from cunnilingus dripping with your arousal --- something else many women draw the line at). I've been snowballed a few times so I know what it tastes like (it's a good way to subtly let your guy know he needs to do something about it --- pineapple juice works wonders), and granted it is an acquired taste, but it's one women should consider acquiring, at least in an ongoing relationship. I understand why many women don't like it, I'm only suggesting that if you find a way to accept his cum there are benefits for you both (this applies for men too, if you are too fastidious for oral sex just masturbate, don't bother a woman). In defense of men, most women today rightfully expect and want oral sex, and while women don't ejaculate in quite the same way as men (no matter how hard they squirt it isn't half way down your throat when it happens and right on your taste buds),if a man is doing it anywhere near right he is up in your business more than the most intimate blowjob ever given. To even perform good oral sex on a woman your face is going to be covered in her. If you run your tongue up inside of her your nose is actually going to be in her, and even if you only flick her clit with your tongue a considerable about of her fluids are apt to run down your chin, throat, and chest not counting what you swallow. I've emerged from oral sex at the point the woman said I was glazed like a donut with her fluids. I love going down on a woman, and there are times I can be satisfied with that alone if I give her a strong enough orgasm, but there needs to be a little tit for tat, and if he's practically snorkeling down there you need to consider how you would feel if he suddenly pulled away when you reached the crisis, or if he ran out of the room and gargled before the last spasms stopped. That's how spitting feels to many men, and quickly withdrawing before he even cums feels even more like rejection. Guys have been trained to say we don't care. Truth is, a lot of guys don't because they've convinced themselves it doesn't matter, but we're just parroting what we have been conditioned to say in the hope of getting any oral sex at all. We care just as much as you care about completed oral sex. I am not suggesting any woman ever do anything she is not comfortable with, I am only suggesting that women take into account that<b> performing oral </font></b>sex to completion on a man isn't all that much different than what you want him to do for you, and if either of you are uncomfortable it's an issue you need to deal with as best you can. Sex isn't as simple and uncomplicated for men as women have been led to think (by some men admittedly). Ego, body issues, acceptance, rejection, and anxiety are just as much a part of his sexual landscape as yours no matter how cocky he acts trying to convince you otherwise. Men need to try and understand how their partner feels and what she needs, and to be willing to expand their horizons in order to fulfill those needs, but that street runs both ways, and what most men want from oral sex is less about skill than knowing they are desired. And just a final note to think about. I've been<b> performing oral </font></b>sex on women since my first experience when I was 13, and they've been returning the favor as long. From all those encounters I've never once in any way peed in a woman's mouth when I had an orgasm. I can't say the same for the women involved, and I never said a thing, never stopped suddenly, never left her hanging, never acted disgusted, stopped to spit, or ran out of the room to gargle. I've had partners start their period in the middle and I didn't leave them hanging. My point is only that neither sex has a monopoly on the more awkward and less pristine elements of sex. Both need to be open and learn to accept what happens. It does matter to men if you swallow or not just as it matters to you. No one is saying you have to do it, just asking that you think about it in relation to the act as a whole. It should be a gift, not a duty or a chore. In sex boundaries need be flexible. However much we deny it, we're just as insecure as you are and we need to be accepted and wanted just as much --- not that we'll ever admit it.   Lust brings you together, love keeps you there, sex keeps the mechanism lubricated.  |
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Ha! Good one. I've never had any issues with kissing someone who's covered in my juices (if I can call it that). I actually like it, and find it quite a turn on  I also swallow, well, mostly, and mainly with the bf and a selected partner, and like it very much too. And yes, pineapple juice and a diet free from red meat, garlic and onions is greatly appreciated  Good points
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