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Bisexually BiASSed  

HotBtm4Top1 52M/44F
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3/12/2014 10:01 am
Bisexually BiASSed
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rogerred1 38M
558 posts
3/12/2014 10:41 am

 Just dont bother about those ass holes...just be proud and happy of what you are...am happy and proud to be bisexual....if someone doesnt approve of my lifestyle it doesnt bother me and I really dont care of what others think and if they approve of me or not...and the ones that have no problem with me being bisexual lots of love hugs and kisses to them....


Lynn1812 54M
4928 posts
3/12/2014 12:49 pm

 While sexual fetishes come and go from the sublime to the extreme, one wall of separation is more often than any other, a matter of absolute separation... yes or no. And that one separation is heterosexual or homosexual.

Being bi, you may not realize this, but to the average heterosexual person, bisexuality is not just another kinky fetish like a costume or a toy or a role playing game. It is an acceptance of a major paradigm shift, and that is to like people of the same sex or not. Most people have a solid wall of separation on that issue.

By offering yourself as a bi male (even as part of a couple) to a heterosexual male, you are inviting them to engage in homosexual sex... something that is likely OFF limits.

It's not bigotry that make man not want to engage in homosexual sex. Its a matter of sexual preference that you need to understand before you go getting all offended.


Travel_Couple69 58M
1604 posts
3/12/2014 12:51 pm

 There are certainly societal aspects that lean against bi men/cples with bi males in the lifestyle and on this site. We have seen profiles where folks emblazon in bold caps no bi males. We have seen blogs/group postings where the rational was everything from ass r**e to std, etc, and we have seen some profiles where they are so ardently homophobic, they go much further and derogatory than needed when a simple not interested in bi males would suffice. But we cant agree that its a huge problem or we wouldnt be on this site.

We have noted an uptick in more "aggressive/complaining" group/blog postings...we are assuming that everyone is getting a little testy due to the long winter...cuz having read your profile, you use all the same tactics you lament here, against single straight males...and we've seen a few blogs where they lament all the attitude towards them.


Travel_Couple69 58M
1604 posts
3/12/2014 1:22 pm
    Quoting Lynn1812:
    While sexual fetishes come and go from the sublime to the extreme, one wall of separation is more often than any other, a matter of absolute separation... yes or no. And that one separation is heterosexual or homosexual.

    Being bi, you may not realize this, but to the average heterosexual person, bisexuality is not just another kinky fetish like a costume or a toy or a role playing game. It is an acceptance of a major paradigm shift, and that is to like people of the same sex or not. Most people have a solid wall of separation on that issue.

    By offering yourself as a bi male (even as part of a couple) to a heterosexual male, you are inviting them to engage in homosexual sex... something that is likely OFF limits.

    It's not bigotry that make man not want to engage in homosexual sex. Its a matter of sexual preference that you need to understand before you go getting all offended.
Very nicely written point! Though we disagree. But we enjoy succinct, articulate discussions.

Firstly you have to contrast bi men over bi women. Do you really believe the average couple with a straight female would exclude another couple with a bi female? Do you believe the average male would exclude a bi female? Do you really feel that bi women are not more socially accepted than bi males?

Also, do you really believe the average straight male, whom is contacted by a couple with a bi male whom make it clear from the start there will be no bi male contact, would pass on the opportunity for a couple?

Absolutely agree that bigotry is not rampant in all situations where it comes to exclusion of bi males, but having said that, the exclusion that does happen is not always done out of the enlightenment one would expect out of the swingers community.

Your position that the very inclusion of a bi male is a precursor to expectation of bisex with another male makes us ask how does one correlate behavioral action with sexuality? Can a bi male not engage in a sexual scenario in which there will be no male male contact? Is said bi male not able to control his lust? If we were to expand on your point, you are saying that a soft swap couple should not trust a full swap couple as by definition the full swap couple with overt their sexuality and comfort level upon the soft swap...or is it only bi males that have these issues?

By definition, if one assumes a behavioral action solely based on race, religion, or sexuality, is that person not considered a bigot?


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