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joy, sex, life, and lament  

need4freedom 62M  
35 posts
2/6/2016 6:22 am
joy, sex, life, and lament

joy, sex, life, and lament. is it odd they tend to follow one another as certainly as the seasons? and by lament i don't necessarily mean hearts broken in shards, altho' that can be one's feelings when all goes wrong. i'm referring more to the long, slow graduation of decline; when friendship and trust grow while desire, that burning hunger to dance most erotic, to please til our lover is sated and spent, wanes to a mere flicker when once roared an open fire.
we sense the loss viscerally, standing in stark contrast to earlier times. even having adored a woman, how is it the hill of passion we so eagerly crested, eyes wide like explorers of a new land, falls tragically into the sedate realm of comfy and too bulky housecoats, and morose netflix choices?
we can push back at its meandering journey. make play dates - share with others - take a lover - but there it stands in the corner, a shadow of its former self, sad and diminished in each other's imaginations.
perhaps some know the secrets to forever pushing time from the equation and retain eros' arrows. yet in my limited purview, even those long term, seemingly happy couples no longer wear that shining flicker in their shared gaze. having settled for comfort over passion, i suspect they are set in their roles, while hungry and a bit barren in their loins.
so pardon my melancholy, but this being a venue of the erotic and ribald, perhaps those who've succeeded in breaking the cycle can weigh in with their tips of the trade, educating those of us forever relegated to the slow lane.
ah well, we always have lust to appease our instincts, even if after so many beds we've forgotten the colours.

sunligth56 57M
1113 posts
2/6/2016 6:42 am

 good


Seraphim13 109M/53F
726 posts
6/16/2016 10:04 am

 I would replace - joy, sex, life, and lament for Love, Lust, Faith and Dreams... Can you see the bright side...?!


need4freedom 62M  
102 posts
6/16/2016 12:30 pm

 lol - i usually do. but while love conquers all (it truly is the most wondrous sensation of all) we can remain the brightest of souls, and yet......
let me go peek at your blog (and if being truthful, the lovely graphics as well) and seek out some wit and wisdom that will aid in a desire to really, really conquering all.


need4freedom 62M  
102 posts
7/13/2019 7:36 am

 thanks for your wise words Ladyv. my condolences for your losses.
truthfully i find the eros easy - a man can learn his lover's triggers quite quick. yet i still struggle, after all these years, with sharing vulnerability while retaining my rather dominant side. which may be essential - albeit i believe easier for women who long to submit to her lover's strength.


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