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The fuck buddy told me he loves me
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The fuck buddy told me he loves me it's happened more than once... I'm giving one of my [famous? lol] blow jobs and he tells me he loves me. now, i know people say all kinds of things during the heat of the moment... so i let it roll off the first time he did it. the second time he dd it, he tried to follow it up with "and i'm not just saying that because you-" but i went back to blowing him so i wouldn't have to hear it. the third time was last night and i hadn't even really gotten into the blow job... i was just doing my preliminary licking and teasing when he said "I love you". again, i let it go... but i can't help but wonder "how many times do i let him say it before i actually think he means it?" background: we've been fucking for 5 years... through 2 girlfriends and his current love interest, and 3 moves (putting him almost literally in my back yard). It's super convenient to fuck him either on my lunch break or after work (and whenever else, since he's right down the street!). Normally any side piece declaring love would immediately get dropped. i'm married and i don't have the time or the ability to have a romantic relationship with anyone... but i'm just so spoiled by the amazing sex and the fact that he's super close and convenient. what's a girl to do? *EDIT* The Husband knows about the fuck buddy - I'm not sneaking around. |
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guess that is like having your cake and eating it too, you like what you are doing and are very comfortable with the arrangement
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Hmmm....over 5 yrs and he keeps moving closer. Seems like he means it....even if it comes out unconsciously on his part. Time to put a little distance in this relationship (figuratively speaking) in my opinion. No sex is worth threatening a marriage (hence why dirty deeds should be done on business travel etc). I dont know you and havent chatted with you so not aware if your hubby knows or allows your play?
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just go with it and maybe he ll stop saying it
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I had a guy who was great in bed that did the same thing. The first time I ignored it. The second time he was filling me with his cum, which I also let go. Finally, we were laying in bed and he said it again. Then I felt I needed to address it. I explained that I was flattered that he felt that way about me but I was interested strictly for sex. I did not want an emotional attachment. I am married to a wonderful man who spoils and pampers me and most importantly, allows me to do as I wish with my vagina. I will never change my marital status and betray his trust in me He told me he was very upset and thought the great sex we had been having was indicative of me looking for another man to replace my husband. I was shocked and reminded him that I had told him repeatedly that I was not interested in a replacement. He said the fact he had said he loved me twice before and I didn't correct him, he thought I loved him too. I was shocked. I went home to hubby that night and told him the entire scenario. We discussed it and I thought it was best to end things. So I called him and set up a time to meet him for lunch the next day. I met him for lunch and quietly explained that we would have to stop seeing each other because he had developed feelings that I could not reciprocate with him. He disagreed and promised he would not say he loved me anymore but couldn't guarantee he wouldn't try to steal me away from my husband. I explained again that things were over between us. He stood up and got very angry. He threw his drink on the floor, loudly called me a whore and walked out. I felt so embarrassed. My new rule is the first time a guy says "I love you" will also be the last time. I think this is good advice.
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I think it's very possible he has feelings for you after a 5 year "thing". Perhaps as quite a few on here have suggested, at the very least have a conversation with him, let him know where you stand and go from there. If you feel he's for real about this, it may be time to let it go. It could just wind up getting awkward if he keeps saying it, and that wouldn't be much fun. Good luck  Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL
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I think in most long term affairs there is an attachment of sorts. Most of us even if we feel it would never say it as we know how it is supposed to work. I don't think there is any going back from where you are and even if you straighten him out he still will feel the same. All this can make for a mess departure. Cut him loose now. Waiting will not make it any better. My two cents There you go That's all and none of it tragic.
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1 post 10/25/2017 12:50 pm |
Talk tto him. He doesn't get it find a new buddy
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Dump him immediately.
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Maybe see him less frequently and see how he reacts. Good luck. Maybe you could use a stand-in? 
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Here's a question nobody brought up: how do you feel about him? If you're open to a poly relationship and he could potentially move in, and it's been 5 years, AND the sex is great, why can't you love him back? Could make the sex even that much greater.
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Bite it just once to see if he still says it....lololololol
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Say, "I like things the way they are, don't you?" He will answer, "Yes, but.." and that's when you say..in your sweet sexy voice, "Then let's just keep it simple". That should get your point across without losing the sex. 
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