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what is love?  

jetsandmets 62M
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6/6/2015 2:56 pm
what is love?

Remember that Haddaway song "What Is Love?" (Baby Don't Hurt Me) from the early 90's, popularized by the hilarious Saturday Night Live skit with Jim Carrey, Chris Kattan, and Will Ferrell? While the skit's pretty funny, the words are true; most of us have no idea what love really is.

From jeffgoins.myadventures.orgYesterday, I blogged about the difference between lust and love and that some of our deepest desires are often masked by the world's cheap imitations of what God wants to give us. The differences between lust and love are worth noting.

What is love, exactly? Love is a tricky word with lots of different meanings (depending on whom you ask). However, I remember when I loved evil, when I delighted in lusting after women and even satiating some of those desires. And I remember wanting more. I remember never being satisfied.

Lust is cruel. It inevitably leaves you hurting and yet still wanting more. It feeds you and starves you at the same time. It seems to cost you nothing at first, sounding cheap and easily accessible, but in the end costs you everything you hold dear. Just ask someone who has committed adultery.

Love is kind, as the Apostle Paul would say. It's often slower than lust, gradually wearing down the hardest of hearts over time. It ultimately satisfies you in the most beautiful way, but it can be hard. It isn't always easy, but it's something that is strengthened over time.

Whereas lust will eventually leave you feeling exhausted and broken, love will energize and ultimately build you up. And that's probably the main difference - lust is a service offered for the taking, but love is an opportunity for two people to build something together.

I'm eternally grateful that God saved me from my lusts and gave me a wonderful wife and partner to build a life together.

What is love to you?
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dearone611 64F

6/6/2015 5:22 pm

 I feel compelled to chime in on this one. Without sounding judgmental, it looks like you were once a "bad" boy. Glad you are over that and hope that those you hurt have forgiven you and you have also forgiven yourself. Glad to know you now have a life partner. I have to disagree with you that being lustful is a bad thing.

Since you brought God into this discussion, I have to remind you that His word says there are different kinds of love. This tells me that He recognizes that we, humans, have our own perceptions of love.

I looked up the definition of love and contrasted it with lust. Here is what I found: Love is a strong feeling of affection for another; a tender passionate affection that makes you take pleasure in the happiness of another person - could be a child, a friend, a pet, heck - all of humanity, a spouse, etc. Lust is stimulated by closeness and a strong feelings of intimacy. While lust is animalistic in nature (due to the fact that the attraction is merely physical and sexual in nature), in no way is it destructive to the person feeling it or the person receiving it unless it manifests in a forceful nature. So lusting after your wife or vice versa, is perfectly fine. Says this goddess.

Now here is a question I have for you is: Lust is sinful in whose eyes?

I believe that if there is a mutual agreement for lust, that's just two people allowing their animalistic instincts to take over their beings for an instant, or as long as they can handle it. This platform allows for such interactions to occur in cyberspace or in person as the parties involved deem it necessary.

To me, lust brings out the best in me. Like most people on here, I idealize then search. Once I think I have found a compatible partner, we discuss the terms - NSA, ongoing friendship, etc. From there, we satisfy each other's fantasies and send each other home happy. Except for a little soreness, no one is hurt.

Let me add that as a good Christian I pray for my friends - whatever their needs are .


MANjcouplehot4u 51M/51F

6/30/2015 11:46 pm

 Love is a real long lasting emotion. Lust is short lived and exciting. Both are amazing sensations. Lust is easy to find than love.


MANjcouplehot4u 51M/51F

6/30/2015 11:51 pm

 Love is not finding someone to live with its finding someone you can't live without. I believe that love is finding a best friend lover and partner to share your life and dreams with. And lust gives you that immediate high than most of us sexual beings desire more than anything else. Lust is selfish and love is selfless. Stay sexy


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