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Women and equality (not really)
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Women and equality (not really) I tend to amuse myself considering the conflicting aspects of the male and female roles in America. You will hear discussions of this to no end, I am sure of that. Most of them focus on the need to eliminate distinctions or that female equality must reach a higher point. I am sure most people will not take the time to read this, let alone consider it with any substantial thought. Thanks to those of you who do. I find it to be a topic that gets very little focus... the lack of equality for men and the aspect of privilege, attributed to, but that is not really there for most males. So, I will start with that issue. I hear all the time about this and that type of privilege. I find that most people who say such things are completely oblivious to reality, yet it is becoming more common for the general population to buy into such propaganda. I will say right now, if you want to give your point and don't actually address something I said, I will ban you and immediately delete your rambling. Otherwise, I am open to fair and legitimate discussion. The other night of writing on here got me thinking about some things, which aren't on my mind too often. When you end up with someone talking down to you or trying to be rude, you tend to lose focus and sight of the situation in the moment of being caught off guard and angry. What I find, however, is that women easily tell men things that are vastly inappropriate and hypocritical. I was basically told that I was asking for it and that I had it coming. It was my own fault and not the other party involved, if I was mistreated, used, or whatever consequence... this of course, is because I am male and clearly a typical man trying to lie and use women. How are you going to use that argument as a woman? I find it to be a fairly common view that women share, when they easily justify aggressive and abusive interactions with men. Yet, even in less severity, it is still the same support of you were asking for it. It is no different than saying you must have been a , you should not have dressed that way, you should have been careful where you went or judged the situation better. How about some of you think before you start crossing those gray areas. The more that I hear women say these things, the more I start to think that I shouldn't have any sympathy for any issue a woman suffers. It starts to seem like equality would balance more properly for men to stop caring and treat women with the same harsh reality that other men endure from us. I find it said also that there is no reason to deal with one specific woman and not play the field a little. If one treats you very badly on here, just find another and keep moving on. Perhaps, women do not understand that there are only like 10-20 to chose from at any given point. It isn't like it is for you guys. We have to give it a go with those few women and hope they aren't out to play games. I find though that a lot of issues are never truly seen in perspective. I watch every week locally. There older women go into the nearby college aged bar. They hit on all the guys and are well known for the perverted actions, yet this is completely accepted. It is fine for one of them to get a guy drunk and lure him into a bad choice. Yet, where is the male counterpart? If he managed to take one of the home, he is in jail now. If he hit on them too much, he is banned from the bar. He certainly isn't called Milf and given some leeway. He is viewed as a bad person. Yet, over and over, women do not see the privilege in their own lives. You take for granted that you can look anyone in the eyes that you want. You can look at whatever you like all day long. If a guy looks over at a woman, he is clearly checking her out. If his attention is unwanted, it is just assumed that it should be met with ignorance and abrasive reaction, even if he is just innocently looking that way. Frankly, a guy can't even have a conversation freely. As much as women say they don't want attention or that situations should not be sexualized, this is not something that carries over to men. If you are approaching a woman for any reason, and you are not seen as her type or attractive, you are instantly considered unwanted and given no respect. It doesn't matter why you were being friendly or if you needed help with something. Far be it that a guy gets out of shape a little. It is just considered that he is no longer sexually desirable. He should know better. He should submit to a monk like existence. There is no Big Beautiful Man. He is seen as a disgusting creature and openly treated with disrespect. No one is running ads or working socially to make him feel accepted or proud of himself. It has gotten so bad in this country that a man can get 20 lbs over weight and be treated poorly by women who are 50 lbs over weight. They still look down upon him because the balance of power has shifted that far. Yet, those women know that men are much easier, so it is no big deal for them. Meanwhile, it is guys who are held to the image of perfection that women claim haunts them. We are expected to all have thick hair. You show me a woman with thinning hair, someone will take sympathy and pay for her to get made normal and beautiful. Yet, there the ads run constantly to get men to try to conform. All hours of the night, there are the ads telling man what ways they have failed. They need more hair, better bodies, better erections, goals and schooling, more money... It is never good enough to just be you and proud. Even if the fool has told himself this is true, everyone else will quickly point out the fallacy in that the next day, as he opens his door to the world. He certainly must be successful. I find that you don't even get points for that anymore. It means nothing to a woman that you have a good job, house, stability, or no debt. That means nothing to them. The first thing they consider is penis size and does he have a cute face. That is because they no longer need stability or care about the men. Women do not have to work. It is simply a luxury to them. Yet, you surely say now, but women do not get paid fairly to men. They are not equal in the work force. What world are you living in?!? Those numbers are set up specifically to make the issue look like something it is not. They do not take into account pound for pound comparisons. First off, many women use more sick days and put in less hours. As a guy, I don't get sick days and far be it that I want some vacation. I have to max out my work, as my personal life doesn't matter. A guy isn't expected to miss work or slack for any reason. I have years of experience. I have worked since I was 12. Of course, I am considered first for a job. I didn't have social time or get to enjoy just being me. I was busy making myself a worker, as that is how a man is defined. We don't get to be beautiful or respected for being the gender we happen to be at birth. Yet, the stats never really consider low income jobs. You want to see inequality, it isn't even in the same ballpark. I watch a waitress bring in $200 a night in a bar or restaurant. If she is pretty, people throw money at her. They just want her to succeed, yet women accept this without question. They are not complaining of how unfair it is when they are getting something are they? Where is the guy at in this? Some rare exceptions are competing, the rest of us are in the kitchen. It isn't because we have less people skills. Even if a guy got out onto the floor, no one wants to look at him. They aren't going to tip such a guy, as they came to look at a pretty girl. So, even with more work done, he is going to have a quarter of the income. Far be it that a guy wants to make money some easier way. I just recently saw this whole free the nipple crap. You know why it is an issue? It isn't because men have some privilege. It is capitalism and the free market. Naked women are worth something. It is the industry that doesn't want them giving it away, it isn't men, but we are spoon fed that lie too. If I could take off my shirt and get money thrown at me, you better bet people would be angry when I did it. That is how it works. Yet, no one wants to correct that issue. No one thinks much of women using sex for power or control, especially on this site. You see women complaining all day long when they don't get their way. Most of them are like spoiled brats, yet far be it that a man sees through that and doesn't respect her. Let's say though that I want equality at the lower incomes. I want to strip for money too. It is easy to do that as a woman. What do I have to do? I just show up and take some clothes off. I need no formal skills for a dive, yet I make what a man makes for 10 hours of hard labor. Then, I<b> whine </font></b>about how I was treated or viewed. He isn't sympathized with for slowing dying or trading his life for labor. Yet, I would still have to be ripped and the top of the crop to get a job stripping. You don't really see that with most women do you? You walk into the club, if it isn't a top billed place, where you see women who are average to below. If the guy equivalent for at a party, you know he is going home alone. Yet, there they are making a living off of it. So, most people would say, this is just how the world is. Stop complaining about it. I can accept that. I guess that most people force that issue. They want the world to be that way. Yet, why can't we accept that the other standards don't change either then? Why isn't it OK to objectify women? Why can't I treat only men with respect and refuse to do business with a woman? Why do I have to accept one reality because it helped her, yet reject the other too? Far be it that you want to get into the issue of marriage or . It is her body right? The second she is pregnant, it is suddenly her choice and her pregnancy. He isn't given any say or respect. Then, everyone wants to turn around and hold him accountable. He needs to man up. He needs to pay his share. Sure, she can kill the at her will, as long as it isn't born yet. She can not tell him that he has a . It is her body and her thing, yet he needs to own up to it. That is just one more case of women wanting only the positive end of equality. It is only a shared experience when it suites her. Far be it that you then decide to separate or get bills in your name. A man can't treat a woman like property, but he sure owes all of her expenses like he owns her. He can't separate himself from that. If she decides to leave, even though she wasn't your pet or property, it is considered that you had provided for her entirely. Often, except rare cases, you have to pay for her to leave. You have to compensate her for being a lazy piece of shit and not working. I don't see any rights lawyers attacking these laws in the courts. You want equality or to call men out on the way we act and treat you, then maybe you look to balance all the issues. Beyond that, I sure hope they had no in the marriage. He gets just about zero rights. Where was that attitude when he was held accountable to raise the and be in the life? Where was that view when he could have walked away to start with or let her deal with it alone? Suddenly, she is the only one fit to raise the alone. No judge or lawyer will give the man custody over an equally fit mother. So, why the hell is he viewed and expected to have equal responsibility in the first place? If she doesn't have enough money on her own, he simply has to pay to supplement her income. If she doesn't have time to work or for childcare, he has to pay for it. He has to provide for her food and entire life, yet nothing assures that any of it is used appropriately. Yet, there he is paying all his own bills too and trying to provide for the during his custody with no supplemented income. What do you hear constantly of married men? You can't even admit that you are married. For a woman, it is cool. No man is going to complain. Yet, the guy is told to get a divorce first or change his life. Like it is so easy. Like he can just put himself into that position and lose half of everything he worked to gain in life. He certainly doesn't have the right to just be happy and meet someone. Yet, she can go out. No one is going to judge that. She should be liberated and explore her desires, he isn't making her happy. Speaking of making someone happy. That isn't really a female problem is it? If a guy does not get her off, he is the one to blame. If she doesn't get him hard or he loses interest, he is the one to blame. Women really aren't expected to be good at sex. Most of them are not. You are really lucky to find a woman who knows what she is doing, yet men have to always be somehow like a professional. It isn't good enough to just be there is it? Yet, far be it, you want that from a woman or talk down about her lack of ability publicly, as is done to shame men. So, these are just a few of my issues. I could go on all night. My point ultimately is that no one considers female privilege. On here, I see how women just want to feel pretty and want to be sexy still. Yet, I hear all day long how guys need to accept what they can get. They aren't sexy or shouldn't feel they deserve anything. There is certainly no pat on the back for having a cock out or gold membership for showing some skin. He certainly isn't logging in with 20 chances a night to get laid. I ask you then, does it someone feel better for him? Is this the issue? Is he somehow getting 40 orgasms out of it? For the price and effort, is he getting some sex slave that sees to his every need and makes him feel complete? I do not get where this idea started to unfold. Somehow sex for a woman should be easy and free, even though she gets way more out of it. Yet, men are easy. They won't change and women don't want that either. So, please stop complaining when that bites you in the ass. When those guys want to just fuck and don't want to play your games, accept that this is your place and don't complain. Accept the good with the bad. Stop asking for more, when you already have it fairly good. |
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