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Valentine's Day Bash or Bust?
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Valentine's Day Bash or Bust? So this year I went off to the desert with "geekcouple*," friends from last year's desert adventure and some newer Adult Dating zone friends passionplayers96. I did NOT invite the guy, with whom I launched the experiment in "the lifestyle" last spring, the one who just wasn't that into me (See previous posts where I rant a bit about what a DICKHOLE he is. He chose the title "Partner in Crime," (PIC)). Here's my report: Honestly, I've had a little less joy since I enjoyed hanging out with the PIC and we got along quite well together. But, overall, I'm happier with this experience than I was in most group sex events with him. Even as a believer in polyamory (the idea that we can love and be connected to more than one person), being with him in the sex party environment was often HORRIBLE for me. This PIC was willing, in concept (in advance when we discussed it), to provide the attention and appreciation I requested. However, the minute there was another naked woman in the room, he was focused solely on how soon his mouth or his dick would be attached to her. I would be entirely forgotten and, since I was always aware of him and enjoyed being attached to his body, it made me miserable to observe his avid interest in other women. I have chosen to abandon swinging with him as I am committed to "No more suffering." Talking to the two couples as we swam in the backyard pool yesterday morning, they both said in essence, "What makes 'this' (the lifestyle/swinging/hobby) work is a strong relationship." I had to agree. I didn't have much of a relationship with the PIC beyond an agreement to go to swinger events together, and, honestly, I wanted a lot more than that. However, my little doggie Kasidie and I are quite bonded. She's happy to go wherever I go. She nudges me with her nose, and I pet her, giving us both a hit of oxytocin, the bonding hormone. See how cute she is!  Geekcouple (*their profile name from the swinger site which has the same name as my dog) brought their Sparky and both dogs got along great in the house we shared together. So, what did we five-some do? We went to the big Valentine's Day Bash yesterday at Sea Mountain Inn and then played around in our shared airbnb home this morning and now the local couple, who are returnees for Year 2, and I have a date with yet another couple with whom we connected via the website which we've found to be much more couple-friendly than this one. (Same name as my dog.) And, I have another date one-on-one later in the evening, thanks to Adult Dating zone. Do I feel lonely? Just a little. It's a challenge to be un-partnered at Valentine's Day because it's such a couple's thing. But, yanno, it's a lot better to enjoy the company of sexy friends (and my doggie) than feeling regularly rejected and unloved by someone with whom one spends time. So, how was your Valentine's Day? A great loving bash or total bust? {=}{=}{=} Angie aka BiPolyBabe69 |
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To live the life we want can be hard .\ Chin up and keep peddling. There you go That's all and none of it tragic.
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It sounds like polyamory could work as long the other person doesn't follow follow suit. Using more than all the road!
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Hi Poly, I'll call later on today. My day was the subject of my post today, but I also posted in the middle of my hellacious day with high school aged teens at the shopping center. Let's just say that I would rather have been having sex with someone than the trials I had yesterday...and yet, it was kind of bitter-sweet trying to get everyone on the same page and deal with 6 teens different emotions... Good post, and I'm glad you had more fun than I did! Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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Well I'm glad you're day was somewhat enjoyable. My day was uneventful... it's never been a big deal for me, with or without a partner. Now Steak and Sex day...  Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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You mean as long as the other person doesn't have other lovers?
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