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Blogs > bipolybabe69 > "..yes I said yes I will Yes."

Hurray! A moment of understanding!  

bipolybabe69 62F
404 posts
6/21/2016 9:20 am
Hurray! A moment of understanding!

I was truly afraid to check my email on this site this morning because I had tried so many times and in so many ways to communicate with a guy in his 30s that, in order to get laid, he needed to seduce my mind.

He understood that to mean that he needed to write to me all about himself!

I tried once more and was kind of insulting:

"Ask a question that actually interests you. Go read my profile. Go read my blog.

Or, go look up '36 Questions to Have Anyone Fall in Love with You' and ask me any of those you'd actually like to know (and that you're willing to reveal about yourself).

Quit being such a lazy ass motha fucka. Because men who do not put in any effort do not get laid."

This is the guy who would send me messages every couple days that said, either "Hey babe" or "Wanna get dp'd?"

This morning, as I made coffee, I despaired over whether my words and my request would EVER be understood. I wondered why I bothered. And, finally, I got a genuine response:

"I work well over 12 hours a day and I am by no means lazy, I am just divorced, in the ruts and horny, what can I say? lol"

That, at least, was honest. Then he asked me an interesting question about the role that love and affection play in my life. Because, as Mark Twain wrote, "If I had more time I would have written you a shorter letter," he got a much longer response than I'm sure he wanted.

To summarize, lots of love, affection and sex. Just not all connected. Except in the case of two or three couples, (sex friends) with whom I feel mutual affection, appreciation and attraction.

I think I'd like to find partner(s) with whom those things would be connected, but I'm not really sure since, well, I recognize I have intimacy issues. I fear getting close. It's only if I let people in, really let them in to my heart, that I get hurt. There, I did the homework from the recent workshop on being the kind of partner one seeks. What I came up with was a need to be vulnerable, which means telling the truth even if it's scary.

Now, I give myself permission to skip the boring coaching call this week and go dancing with my dentist instead!

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BiPolyBabe69

Han54boat 71M
11637 posts
6/21/2016 10:58 am

 The next largest sex organ is skin.
Being open is scary even for me because of rejection.

Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
6/21/2016 12:38 pm

 'Hey Babe!"or "Want to get dp'd?"Constant requests from a person whose I Q
rivals room temperature?His honesty comes off as proficient at knitting wool
and as for his instant intellect with such a profound question.I would venture a guess that he is without air conditioning.

Coaching the indolent seems rather far removed from a die hard stand on having a mind seduced.
Using more than all the road!


bipolybabe69 replies on 6/22/2016 10:56 am:
I agree that "coaching the indolent" is not what I want to be doing! However, I have not encountered many locally who understand seduction.

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