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Threesome thoughts for first-times (and any couple who might draw from this)
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Threesome thoughts for first-times (and any couple who might draw from this) Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies people have, and yet still hold an air of mystery and taboo. A threesome isn’t something you should ever feel obliged to do. That said, there’s a lot to be said for the occasional flirtation and the sensory/potent sensitivies and discoveries with an additional guest/menage a trois. So long as you are in a valuing relationship with your primary partner and the threesome is consenting and boundaries set and understood there is no reason why the occasional playmate can’t enhance a couple’s sex life. What's more is what can hurt a relationship is much more about the recipes for disaster of other preoccupations/buzzkills that spoil the fruit of adult bonding. Also people believe they are dramatically less polished/well turned out than the their peers due to societal/media glamours/body shame. Again, there's assholes out there too! ;~> I was flirted with the other day and it just broke me open! Having more than one partner at a time – especially when they’re both pleasing you – is one of the ultimate eliminators of shame and enhancers of confidence. It's nothing like porno movies, more about feeling more in control, more yourselves, less withdrawn from the world - more loving and in-tune all around. Sex is supposed to be fun and naughty. Threesomes are *very* fun and spicy! There is no laid out plan or specific goal, but the usual feedback is that it strengthens relationships, that it opens the mind';s and body's ears and eyes to each other at deep levels. People invariably say they learned to embrace the moment to get the most out of life and have no regrets but that they didn't really get this before, and how pushing boundaries and breaking outside their comfort zone.is surprisingly liberating. Tips: Discuss your terms. Meet first in a neutral location to see if you fancy this prospect. Don't pair off with the other, or use a threesome to make primary partner a third wheel. Even if you’re intensely enjoying one person more than the other don't leave someone out of the fun. BE aware of this other partner... Make sure everyone is included – even if you’re simply rubbing their chest while your mouth and privates are busy doing other things. Your partner wants you to feel uninhibited, trusts you, wants you to let loose, If partner feels a bad vibe, remember that they may see things you don't in the heat of the moment, but also can be wrong.... communicate!.This other is not always a friend or relationship potential. Save the afterglow cuddle time/pillow-talk for your primary partner. Even Polyamory triads begin with discrimination time to suss things out. Meet afterwards to see how everyone is doing (and see if you want to do it again!). Take things slow and communicate honestly with an open mind and heart. |
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well said...
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Not here to teach anything , but new for us again! I feel it doesn't hurt to go over basics...
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