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Wide net vs Persistence
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Wide net vs Persistence Just some quick random thoughts to share and perhaps hear opinions from others. I have noticed there appears to be quite a few single guys and couples who throw out this wide net. When I say wide net they copy and paste from their profile this specific message as in it's not personalized for my profile for sure...just a wide net sent out to who knows how many woman/people. Does this work? I suppose it must because they wouldn't keep doing . Are they playing the odds like this? Hoping enough of those sent out and they might catch one or two fish in this hot fun search sea? I am just curious. So how does this compare to the very persistent guy or couple? Sure it's flattering and very personalized in their messages but if what they are seeking doesn't match my search then I say right in my first message. I feel like this is being real with them, saves them time and mine. I know it comes across as blunt but I personally feel it's better then no reply at all or worse the leading on for however much time only to discover there is no real intention there. Would love to read thoughts from others on . I am curious why some persist in contacting every couple of weeks or days after a very kind polite no thanks is given? Do they think your mind/situation will change? Are they hoping to mmmm wear someone down? I am not sure I would even want to meet and with someone I had to twist their arm to meet LOL...I am serious would be like a bucket of ice water to me. Ok those are my Monday morning thoughts....what are yours? Candy |
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4/22/2019 6:40 am |
Very random thoughts...sorry if it lacks cohesiveness...this was precoffee so what can I say. lol Candy
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The "wide net" may be just an introduction. If contact is returned, the reply may be more specific, or not. Some people handle rejection badly, but a firm but polite "no" ought to do the trick.For the persistent types, perhaps they hope to strike up a friendship - or does their directness leave litle room for interpretation?
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4/22/2019 7:02 am |
I would like first to say you are one of the few women who write back. So thank yo for that. Second I do not get to many replies even when I costomize messages. The new thing is Women give you their KIK number then never respond. Sorry for this but look at your profile pic you look STUNNING so I guess I would keep trying. I think people use the net approach to try to try to find a catch. Thank you again for being one of the few who respond.
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4/22/2019 7:03 am |
who am i to say what is right for you!? personally i contact very few women on dating sites... there has to be more than just a body to interest me. as to replies well since writing on dating sites i have grown elephant skin. therefore if the reply (negative), or they do not reply... it does not change the color of my socks. now of the few that did reply and the fewer still that i met ... it went as well as a lead ball in the ocean. and just as fast! but the thing i found in writing to women is you're wrong id you do. you strike out if you don't  there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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4/22/2019 7:17 am |
My most normal outcome is that nothing comes of my attempts to contact women and I accept that if she does not answer the firsttime then that I am just wrong for her. There is not a lot that I can do unless she decides that she wants to havea conversation however limited as it might be on here, needless to say that I really haven't met anyone unless I completely compromised on what I am interested in and that simply doesn't work. I try to stay positive at least in the writing and treat every message I write as though it were the first one and I am sure that we are a good match. You get jaded when there are so many where just nothing happens. To be honest I would rather that she wrote back and acknowledge that I wrote them but hey are not interested, no reason required, simply declining would be great Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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4/22/2019 7:19 am |
Alot of times there is no contact back after one tries to message. This happens to me 95 % of the time. So persistence is the way i choose. Sometimes it pays off.
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I'm with Raven on this. When I send out a message, I normally say this: "Hello! I'm J, nice to meet you. I happened to see your profile, and after reading it, I wanted to introduce myself and see if we could talk and possibly discuss meeting up. I'd really like the opportunity to see if we could possibly connect and see what happens. Would you be interested?" And if someone contacts me back, I then tailor my response based on their reply, ask them some questions to sort of verify that they are not a bot or a fake. Once I have a gut feeling that person is indeed real (because lets face it, there are a lot of frauds, fakes and scammers on this site) I can then discuss meeting up at a place and going from there. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent 
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4/22/2019 3:42 pm |
Wow some great responses and information. I tried to answer each of you but I don't see where my responses went...hopefully to each person. Thanks for helping me see this from the different perspectives shown. Candy
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I presume they're just blanket mailing, in the hope that something sticks. What works for me, are customized notes that refer specifically to the person's profile. It helps when you read them ... no? 📖😊📚 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Hey Darlin, ..........They’re just bombing around hoping that One of you Gracious Ladies will thro him a Mercy Fuck,.........It’s amazing how some people are so socially stunted and tremendously pathetic to think a line like that is going to work!......... Sinfully Yours, backpocket13
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