Female Ejaculation - ALL women are capable of it!
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Posted:Apr 9, 2009 4:55 pm
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Female Ejaculation-
Did you know that ALL women are capable of it?
It's True!
You may have heard of female ejaculation, or you may not even know what it is, as many people do not. Female ejaculation is not only very real, it is something that ALL women can achieve, and is a very basic female sexual response that has remained a mystery until recently.
All women can learn to ejaculate as much as two cups of fluid and spray it across the length of a room! Oh sure, there are a lot of myths out there regarding this exquisite female sexual response. Some claim the whole premise of female ejaculation is untrue, others claim only "special" women are capable and still others try and tell you ridiculous techniques based on myths such as suggesting that women should tighten their Kegel (vaginal wall) muscles to make it happen.
These types of statements are simply untrue. While women have differences in their genitalia (just as men do) all women are capable of squirting these lovely orgasmic juices with the right techniques. It is no different than all men being capable of ejaculating no matter the size or shape of their penis. The only reason that most people do not know about or understand how to achieve female ejaculation is from the sheer lack of understanding women’s sexuality.
When I first heard about female ejaculation I was in my late twenties. Being a sexually knowledgeable and adventurous woman as well as a psychotherapist specializing in sexual issues, I was shocked that I had never heard about it, let alone done it.
I personally discovered female ejaculation after having a very open and enlightening discussion with a girlfriend, whom told me that she did the "wildest thing" when she had an orgasm (and sometimes just when she was sexually aroused). I of course was very intrigued about this, and ended up asking her a lot of questions about how it happened for her. I then went to the Internet to find out more, and was met with a great deal of inaccurate, conflicting information about female ejaculation. What was a chick to do? I wanted to know more about it, and most importantly at the time, I wanted to know if I could do it too. I began a mission of researching through medical journals, interviews with physicians, sex therapists and my who came to me for psychotherapy.
After all my research, and developing a few theories of my own, I decided that I simply had to try to see if I could do it. I am happy to say that I did it during my first attempt through masturbating. It was so simple! There were a few things that I learned and did in preparation that made it possible and there are a lot of things I learned along the way which turned into a 150 page book and 90 minute video! For the sake of keeping this article and not a book, let me give you a quick overview of how female ejaculation occurs so that you get a general idea of how all of this works. First let's get the myths out of the way and review what is true and untrue about it.
The Myths & Truth About Female Ejaculation-
THE MYTHS-
1) Female ejaculation does not exist.
2) Only rare women can achieve female ejaculation.
3) Kegel exercise is the key to achieving female ejaculation.
4) Only women with prominent G-Spots can achieve female ejaculation.
5) Female ejaculation can only be achieved through G-Spot orgasms.
6) Gynecologists are educated about this issue and provide women with correct information.
7) Women can only excrete a drop or two of female ejaculate, and if it is more (especially in the amounts that some women claim 1-2 cups) then it would be urine.
 Female ejaculation is or becomes urinary incontinence.
9) Women who have given birth are the only women capable of female ejaculation.
10) There is only one way to achieve female ejaculation.
1) Female ejaculation comes from the Skenes/Paraurethral glands (also known as the G-Spot).
2) Women do not realize that they can ejaculate because they are missing the cues of when they can do it.
3) There are specific techniques that can be taught to a woman to teach her how to do it and how to hold it if she does not wish to ejaculate.
4) Women can ejaculate without having a G-Spot orgasm and for that matter without having an orgasm at all!
5) Women can increase the amount of fluid they ejaculate by following specific steps.
6) Women can ejaculate multiple times within a short period.
7) Female ejaculation is not urine, is much like the consistency of water, is clear in color, and usually smells like nothing or has a slight sweet scent.
OBGYNs and other physicians often misunderstand or even misdiagnose female ejaculation.
You may be wondering "If all women are capable, then why is it that many women have never done it?" This is a very good question, and is easily explained. Let's begin with reviewing some basic information about the female anatomy to better understand how this works.
Where Does Female Ejaculation Come From?
Female ejaculation is a fluid that is pushed out of the urethra (pee-hole- just like urine) however, unlike urine it comes from the Paraurethral/Skenes glands (located under and making up the G-Spot) during sexual arousal.
How Is Female Ejaculate Different Than Regular Cum?
There are two types of female cum that can be excreted during sexual arousal. They are clinically termed as urethral and vaginal ejaculation fluids. The one most commonly seen in our culture is vaginal ejaculate, which lubricates the vaginal walls and oozes out during sexual arousal. You probably have noticed it is milky and ranges in its thickness and odor based on a woman’s diet, overall health and the phase she is experiencing within her menstrual cycle.
Urethral ejaculate is what we are referring to when describing female ejaculation and is less common. It is the watery ejaculate that sprays or gushes out and is the one that is generally less known about. Again, this is not because only a few, special women are capable, but rather due to lack of understanding of women's sexual health issues in this culture.
What Is In The Fluid?
Let me get the biggest myth out of the way- IT IS NOT URINE. Upon testing the liquid, scientists have found that it contains levels of glucose (sugar), and an enzyme (prostatic acid phosphatase), which is characteristic of a major component in semen. It is similar to the prostate fluid within male ejaculation but without the sperm. There are also two other substances contained in the fluid, commonly found in urine (urea and creatinine), which are found in trace amounts. It is a unique substance, and unlike the heavier and thicker fluid that you would typically see when a woman is "wet" or has had an orgasm.
How Much Ejaculate Comes Out?
Most women can gush as much as 1.5 - 2 cups of the fluid when ejaculating. However this can be affected by how hydrated a woman is, how much she pushes while ejaculating, and other factors.
Why Don't Most Women Know About It Or Do It?
Female ejaculation is not difficult; its techniques are just not known about by many. Because women typically don't know about the elusive reasons they are not doing it, they are usually sabotaging their chances for gushing female ejaculate when they are having an orgasm.
One of the main reasons that women do not know they can do it is because women will often feel like they need to urinate when they are ready to expel the ejaculate and because they think that urine will come out, which it will not, they hold back. You see the G-Spot (Skenes Glands) fill up with the female ejaculate fluid and this puts pressure on the urethra (pee-tube) thus, making it feel like she has to urinate when in actuality she could ejaculate if she simply pushed instead of holding back.
There are sure-fire methods, techniques and ways to achieve it as well as overcome inhibitors, yet the issue of holding back for fear of urinating is a big factor for many women. The ejaculation techniques that I have begun training thousands of women and their partners have been quite effective and not only allow for amazing ejaculations but will also intensify any type (women are capable of eight) of orgasm to mind blowing levels. Are There Health Problems For Women Who Do It?
No, in fact that is one of the reasons I am so passionate about teaching women and their partners about female ejaculation because unlike what many think, there is nothing abnormal or unhealthy about it. Did you know that thousands of women each year are told that a normal female sexual response such as female ejaculation is a medical problem (incontinence, which it is not) or something that they should be ashamed of as they are thought to be maliciously urinating on their partner(s)?
Because women can gush as much as two cups of ejaculate, many people think that it must be urine. Often women who do not know what is happening (and there are many) are embarrassed, confused and find it to be of great concern. It does not help that most health practitioners are not informed about it as many women are being told they require surgery and/or psychotherapy for this normal female sexual response!
If there is one thing that I can stress, it is that female ejaculation is not only visually erotic, but it feels incredible to do it. The kind of sexual release that a woman feels from this powerful gush is like no other.
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Shejaculation: Or How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love The Gush
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Posted:Aug 20, 2008 5:28 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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Post from Jezebel:
http://Adult Dating zone.com
When I first heard about female ejaculation, I thought it was a bullshit myth invented by women who accidentally pee during sex, and onehttp supported by fetishists who wanted to believe in it – until it happened to me. I was 25 and had been having sex for about 8 years (not consistently, I should say). I have no idea why my body chose that moment – in the middle of a reverse cowgirl with some dude I'd just met a few hours before – to bust out its new parlor trick; in fact, there were a lot of things that confused me about what happened, like, "Where did that fluid come from and what is it? Is there something wrong with me? How did this happen? And why did it feel good?" (Warning: There's a medical diagram after the jump that's NSFW.)
So here's the story: I met a dude who was visiting from Ireland at a bar. We went back to the place he was staying, and pretty much started having sex right away. I was on top of him – my back to his face – for a few minutes, rubbing myself with my fingers when I started to orgasm. I started to contract really hard and then all of a sudden, I felt all this fluid rushing out of me. It were as though his dick were a pin and popped a water balloon resting on the front wall of my vagina. At first I was gripped with fear, and thought I'd ruptured some sort of cyst. But there was no pain at all.
Then I could hear the guy behind me start laughing through his moans, adding, "Alright! I didn't know you were one of those." Obviously, neither had I.
In the years since, squirting (sometimes called gushing) has become a part of my sex life, although there is no predictability to it. I can't squirt on command, although there are better chances of it happening if some kind of penetration is going on. Sometimes the stuff squirts out in a split stream, sometimes it gushes wildly, sometimes it just falls out, and one time, when a dude was finger-banging me, it shot up in the air, and arched. The amount of fluid expelled also varies widely. Sometimes it's about a tablespoon or two, sometimes it can be up to a cup or two. It's actually a pain in the ass because it's just a big mess.
As for the fluid, it's not really piss. Here's an explanation from Wikipedia:
While current information offers no solid information about the source of the fluid, chemical analysis performed on the fluid has revealed that while it sometimes contains at least traces of urine, it regularly contains chemical markers unique to the prostate (whether male or female).While I do believe that most girls in squirting fetish pornos are just pissing (since, like I said, it doesn't seem possible to do on command), I know that what comes out of me is not pee. I live my life perpetually suffering between either mild dehydration or a UTI, meaning that my piss is (ab)normally cloudy, stinky, and dark. The stuff that comes out of me when I squirt doesn't smell like that, and it dries white on my sheets.
So where is this stuff coming from then? No one knows for certain, but the likely answer is the Skene's gland, which is located on the upper wall of the vagina, around the lower end of the urethra, and is said to also be the biological mechanism behind G-spot orgasms. It drains near the urethral opening. Check it out:
The first time I saw that diagram I was like, "Ahhh! More holes!?"
The Skene's gland thing would explain why penetration is needed for me to squirt: According to a study at the University of Italy, Skene's glands have "a highly variable anatomy, and in some extreme cases they appear to be missing entirely. If Skene's glands are the cause of female ejaculation and G-spot-orgasms, this may explain the observed absence of these phenomena in many women."
This, of course, would explain why some women believe female ejaculation is real (it is) and why no one should feel less sexually accomplished if it's never happened to them (it isn't something everyone can do). I'm still not entirely sure why it even happened to me; the best I can come up with is that as I grow older and more experienced, I'm just getting better at getting off. I definitely have way better orgasms now at 28 than I did at 18. It's just that now I have to have a towel on hand.
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You may be a Swinger if...
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Posted:Jun 30, 2008 5:36 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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100 Signs You May Be A Swinger
1. You are wearing wristbands in most of your vacation photos.
2. Half of the numbers on your cellphone are listed only by screen names.
3. You are running out of reasons to tell your coworkers why you can't go out with them this weekend.
4. You have over 100,000 frequent flyer miles on Air Jamaica.
5. You know most of your friends' names only as couples (Rich and Joy, Frank and Jen) but you don't know their last names.
6. You go to a convention with three huge suitcases, yet are wearing
the same outfit when you return as you did when you left.
7. You had already seen pictures of your friends naked before you ever met them in person.
8. You position the computer screen in your home office in such a way that your can't possibly sneak up on you.
9. You can't remember the last time you had pubic hair.
10. Before traveling somewhere on business or to visit relatives you look up couples in the area.
11. You worry about explaining to the neighbors why 10 couples show up on a Saturday night carrying over night bags and don't leave until
Sunday afternoon...
12. You never open your garage door until you're in the car with the doors closed.
13. Your gynecologist wonders why you're asking for birth control when he knows that your husband has had a vasectomy.
14. Your hot tub has never had a bathing suit worn in it.
15. Your sex toy collection costs more than your china set.
16. Your wife has a shirt that says: "I Like Girls Too."
17. You have a strippers pole in the middle of your den.
18. You giggle at the golf course when someone asks if they can join your foursome.
19. The last thing you typically do at a party is search for your wife's thong.
20. You've hugged your friends goodnight while naked.
21. You hear the word "Playmate" and your first thought is not "Playboy"
22. The word "slut" has become a term of endearment.
23. You carry lube as often as lipstick.
24. Your choice in new carpeting is heavily based on which type won't give you rug burns.
25. You've taken your Liberator with you to a dinner party.
26. The term Vanilla isn't just a flavor to you anymore.
27. You have a full-length mirror in your bedroom... On your ceiling.
28. You are constantly encouraging your to spend the weekend at friends' houses.
29. You don't think twice about wearing a short skirt, high heels and fishnets when there is three feet of snow on the ground.
30. Your wedding reception has an after party.
31. You go to Las Vegas, but never gamble or leave the hotel.
32. You panic when your friend's digital camera goes missing.
33. You've invited friends over and watched porn.
34. You've invited friends over and made porn.
35. You've watched someone do a tequila shot off of your wife's bare ass.
36. Your friends know what brand of condom you prefer.
37. You wake up in the morning and find that half of the clothes on the floor don't fit you or your wife.
38. Your think it's normal for adults to have sleepovers.
39. A hot tub is considered a necessity not a luxury.
40. You believe in "Unicorns"... Because you've actually ridden one. (I'm a "Unicorn" bi the way)
41. You leave the at home when you go to the toy store.
42. You've taken photos of yourself with your head out of frame; And it was on purpose.
43. You can't decide which of your three naughty schoolgirl outfits you should wear this weekend.
44. You always keep a supply of condoms, lube and clean hand towels by your bed... And your guest bed... And your couch in the living room.
45. The employees fight to take your order at the One Hour Photo.
46. You frequently use the term "Friends of friends" when explaining how you know certain people.
47. You know which of your outfits looks best under a black light.
48. You have an entire closet devoted just to themed outfits.
49. You place a want ad that reads: "Wanted: Reliable babysitter who is willing to stay till sunrise and doesn't ask any questions."
50. You ask the sales man at the furniture store which type of upholstery best repels semen stains.
51. The staff of Hedonism III sends you birthday cards.
52. You come home with that, "There's Something About Mary" hairstyle.
53. The babysitter wonders why you are always already wearing your full-length coat when she arrives.
54. In the gym shower you're the only guy with shaved balls.
55. You know the most flattering angle at which to photograph your genitals.
56. Half of your vacation photos were taken in your hotel room.
57. You have a free place to stay in almost all the fifty states and several cities in Europe.
58. You've closed your e-mails with "Bi Bi".
59. You can expertly identify the tactile differences between every type of breast implant ever created.
60. On Christmas, there are certain presents that can't be opened in front of your family.
61. You know exactly which of your friends are allergic to latex.
62. Your vanilla friends ask why they are never invited to your parties.
63. The movie "Swingers" was a huge disappointment to you.
64. It's an unwritten law that you can't call any of your friends on Saturday or Sunday until at least 5 p.m. so you don't wake them up.
65. You've become especially good at operating your digital camera with one hand.
66. At your "normal" parties no one can go into the basement because you're afraid someone will notice the sex-swing.
67. You're constantly afraid that visiting relatives will pop-in one of your home videos that you forgot to hide.
68. You make bets with other swinger friends about how long it will take to corrupt your cute vanilla girlfriend.
69. You're in a public place and you swear you hear someone shout your screen name.
70. Before introducing them to your visiting family, you pull your friends aside and say, "OK, here's how we know each other..."
71. You start having withdrawals after two days without internet access.
72. When someone asks where you're staying on your trip to Cancun, you pretend that you can't remember the name of the resort. (I've
done that one recently!)
73. You ask a girlfriend to teach you: "That thing you do with your tongue that my husband enjoys so much."
74. In the middle of sex with your spouse, you ask someone else to take over for a minute while you go to the restroom. (Tag Team!)
75. You are more concerned about a pimple on your privates than on your face.
76. You come back from vacation and you have a tan, but no tan lines.
77. The first thing you do checking into a hotel is to ask for a lot of extra towels.
78. All the men bring their wives to your bachelor party.
79. Making it an early night means getting home before 4 a.m.
80. You've handed out business cards to people, but the cards have nothing to do with your occupation.
81. Your sexual fantasies never last very long... Because they keep coming true!
82. You are hanging around vanilla friends and you absentmindedly squeeze their butts.
83. You erase your computer's browser history and cache every time you leave your office.
84. You buy lap dances for your wife... And vice versa.
85. You own a double-headed dildo.
86. You're still smiling on Monday morning about something you did on Saturday night.
87. You're at the market, and the only things in your basket are condoms, breath mints and Red Bull.
88. On vacation you set aside time to stage a bunch of photos that are acceptable to show to your family.
89. After 25 years, people still ask if you're newlyweds.
90. You've had sex with more people since you've been married than you did when you were single.
91. Going to vanilla bars ranks right up there with a root canal.
92. The only time you go out with your vanilla friends is when you're on your period.
93. Your husband has lipstick on his collar and he smells like another woman's perfume and it brings a smile to your face.
94. On Monday morning you are glad to go back to work so you can get some rest.
95. You spend the whole week before your parents arrive calling all you friends telling them not to call your answering machine while
your parents are in town.
96. You get really tired of not making it to McDonalds before they quit serving breakfast Sunday morning (on your way home from a
party).
97. You have an entire external hard-drive devoted to nothing but, your party photos. (or your website photos!)
98. Your spouse is having an orgasm, while you are busy in the other room discussing the stock market.
99. You spent twice as long on your online profile as you did on your resume.
100. If you are reading this and laughing because many of these describe you... That's a pretty good sign that you are a swinger!
And for all you Wanna Be's.. study this! It's all true!
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More Squirting Facts
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Posted:May 15, 2008 4:52 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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Excerpt:
"Another interesting discovery associated with G-spot research is the
incidence of female ejaculation. In "Female Urethral Expulsions Evoked
by Local Digital Stimulation of the G-Spot: Differences in the
Response patterns," an article in the Journal of Sex Research by Milan
Zaviacic and his colleagues at Comenius University in Bratislava, this
phenomena was studied in some depth. The study was conducted with
twenty-seven women; a G-spot was found in all, and ten of them
experienced episodes of feminine ejaculation. The accepted theory is
that the G-spot is analogous to the prostate and associated glands, as
it seems to produce a fluid chemically similar to male seminal fluid.
This phenomenon is one that many women mistake for urinary
incontinence, although the fluid released is actually quite different
from urine. This is not an uncommon occurrence, as is shown in "Female
Ejaculation: Perceived Origins, the Grafenberg Spot/Area, and Sexual
Responsiveness," an article in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
According to the introduction, forty percent of the participants in an
anonymous mail survey of 2350 women (with a fifty-five percent
response rate) reported experiences of ejaculation (Darling, Davidson,
Conway-Welch 29)."
From the prestigious Q&A service of the Columbia University "Go Ask Alice":
"This sounds like a G-spot phenomenon accompanied by female
ejaculation. With a woman who is lying on her back and has her legs
spread apart, the G-spot can be located by putting your fingers inside
of her between 10 and 2 o'clock, as if her vulva were the face of a
clock, with 12 at the top. Move your fingers deeper inside and curl
them back so that they are touching and pressing against the top of
her vagina or the "back door" of the clitoris. The G-spot swells from
the size of a dime to the size of a quarter and fills with fluid that
is NOT urine or vaginal fluid, which spurts out of the urtethra (not
the vagina) when a woman orgasms."
(http://Adult Dating zone.com )
"Now researchers believe that female cum is produced by the Skene's
glands, which are located in a woman's urethra and are made of tissue
that's similar in composition to a man's prostate gland. These
researchers point to chemical analysis of female ejaculate that
reveals the presence of high levels of prostatic acid phosphatase (a
chemical secreted by the prostate gland and found in semen). This
would seem to indicate that a woman's ejaculation is similar in
composition to semen (only without the sperm, of course)."
(http://Adult Dating zone.com )
From women's Barnard College newsletter The Well-Woman:
"Recent studies suggest that anywhere from ten to forty percent of
females can ejaculate (although the latest research indicates the
possibility that all women produce female ejaculate, even if they are
not aware of it), however women do not necessarily ejaculate every
time they have an orgasm, and the amount of fluid they secrete can
range from as little as a few drops, to nearly fifteen ounces (almost
two cups). The fluid itself is produced in the paraurethral (“near the
urethra” glands, also known as “Skene’s Glands,” and sometimes
colloquially referred to as the “female prostate”. The largest of
these glands (there may be as many as thirty or more) are located near
the urethral orifice, and may in some cases open into the vulva, but
the exact quantity, size, and placement of these glands varies from
woman to woman. During sexual arousal, the paraurethral glands fill
with a liquid that is a blend of proteins similar to those found in
male seminal fluid."
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Squirting 101.. A re-post from another Squirter
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Posted:Apr 15, 2008 4:50 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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Yes... squirting, female ejaculation is a real thing... not just urban legend... it's really the Nectar of Goddesses, sugar water...
This is a question with 2 bigger parts:
The woman and her lover, normally a man so it'll be 'he' here.
I start with him.
So:
1. Can you hook your lady's mind? Are you able to excite her from distance? And keep her hot for a long time...
2. Are your arms strong? Any cramps? Fingers trimmed and tidy?
3. Are you ok with toys? Or as a real man, no toys needed?
4. Do you like to give head sometimes as foreplay? Or do you prefer BJs?
5. Do you love sex? Watch often porn?
6. Do you like to read? Even books? And manuals?
Then her.
1. When having sex, how long you are THERE? The whole session? Only when you fake your orgasm? Or do you think about shopping list, laundry, ?
2. Do you masturbate? Have you seen your pussy?
3. Do you like to give BJs? Are you clean enough to enjoy his tongue?
4. Are you multi-orgasmic?
5. Did your parents enjoy sex?
6. Do you like to get hot text messages, mails and calls from your partner during the day?
7. You have often sex with your partner even if you are not interested in having sex??
8. Do you drink a lot of water?
Well... those are a bit tricky questions...
So some answers...
1. Orgasms happen in the mind... squirting even more!!! Your lady must be mentally there with you.. And often it helps if she's really excited... kept warm all day... fully ready when the time comes..
2. It's good to know where the g-spot is. And how to tease the clit. Either when having solo sex or then with the partner. But she should be already quite excited when you start to look for it... and it might take a long time... So strong gentle hands and fingers would be fine
3. And toys might be helpful too.. I like g-spot vibrators, even with a lover. They don't take anything away from his manhood, he is still the Man..
4. If you like to make your lady squirt, her pleasure is No 1. Full stop.
Giving head to her might be even the main course, not just an appetizer sometimes. Some women need both clit and g-spot stimulation, don't underestimate that...
If you prefer BJ's and want to empty your bags quickly, you are not the guy who'll make your lady squirt.
5. Normally porn has NOTHING to do with squirting!! Often fake. And to squirt, half an hour deep throat is really not needed... nor sex with your whole family...
But of course, healthy appetite and interest in sex is always welcomed
6. On this site, would help if you'd read the profiles... and then the squirting e-book...
1. The same as male 1.
2. The same as male 2. Would help if you know your body, you have no bigger hang ups, you enjoy sex...
3. If you love to give BJ's that fine! It has nothing to do with squirting - or not squirting. But if you think you are not clean enough, that'll be a problem... that's a big obstacle in your mind.
4. Seems that many squirters are multi-orgasmic, guess no real study made, just some talks in the squirting group.
5. The past is part of the present. If you got either positive or negative attitude towards sex at home, it might follow you - unless you do something to change it!!!
6. Back to the mental part... the question No 1...
7. Aijaijai.. you might be in trouble... again that mental part... If you're not FULLY THERE, you can't reach that high you need...
8. Water is one basic physical thing in squirting, you can't squirt if you have no extra liquid to produce it!!!
This is not the full truth but perhaps gives you some idea of squirting.
Squirting is not fast food, it's really slow food... might take weeks, months, even years to squirt or make your loved one to squirt.
Be prepared... as it's really worth it...
And really good if you learn it together... makes it more special
Squirters are not rare species, it's often just a question of impatient lovers who don't respect the female body and sexuality...
Most women are potential squirters... so.. do your best to give this ultimate pleasure for both of you...
Check for more info this group:
SQUIRTING
Practise, practise, practise...
And relax, relax, relax...
Enjoy... even if no squirting directly, the way to reach the goal is also very pleasant
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Truth about How to teach a woman to squirt
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Posted:Mar 13, 2008 5:52 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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Learning to Squirt....
Let's start with a little History
If you were to refer to literature over the last 50 years you would be lead to believe that females have only been able to ejaculate since about 1980. Of course, this is absurd, and just shows how "the experts" can be wrong for decades on just about anything. Many knew the experts were wrong, but had little success in convincing anyone. Needless to say this lead to many problems, needless surgery (to fix the poor women who would ejaculate), expensive counseling (got to find out what happened when they were to cause this "problem"), and in some cases divorce. "The G Spot" by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John D. Perry, has dozens of letters from women who went though various personal tragedies because they would ejaculate during lovemaking. Doctors, gynecologists, and psychiatrists invariably told them they were peeing and needed either surgery or psychotherapy.
Newsweek published an article entitled "Just How the Sexes Differ" in May of 1981. One of the major difference was listed was that men ejaculate, but women do not. However, Aristotle wrote about female ejaculation, and Galen knew about it in the second century. The female prostate, which generates the fluid, which is ejaculated, was described in some detail by De Graaf in his "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs of Women". (1) "... during the sexual act it discharges to lubricate the tract so copiously that it even flows outside the pudenda. This is the matter which may have been taken to be actual female semen." He describes the fluid as "rushing out" with "impetus" and "in one gush." (2)
The medical community was finally awakened in 1980 when Perry and Whipple showed a film of a female ejaculating to the SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sex). Martin Weisberg, M.D., a gynecologist at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia responded, "Bull ... I spend half my waking hours examining, cutting apart, putting together, removing, or rearranging female reproductive organs. There is no female prostrate, and women don't ejaculate."
Yet after seeing the film and witnessing the event in person he changed his tune: "The vulva and vagina were normal with no abnormal masses or spots. The urethra was normal. Everything was normal. She then had her partner stimulate her by inserting two fingers into the vagina and stroking along the urethra lengthwise. To our amazement, the area began to swell. It eventually became a firm one by two cm oval area distinctly different from the rest of the vagina. In a few moments the subject seemed to perform a Valsalva maneuver (bearing down as if starting to defecate) and seconds later several cc's of milky fluid shot out the urethra. The material analysis described in the paper (Perry & Whipple's) is correct, its composition was closest to prostatic fluid".
Fluid Characteristics
The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the look, smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The taste varies, depending on the time of the month and diet, and possibly other factors, such as amount of stimulation received prior to ejaculating or time since the last ejaculation. It can vary from an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or a combination of these tastes.
Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most definitely not urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee during an orgasm unless there is a weak pubococcygeus muscle. This is very important, and it is important for the female and her partner to both understand this. The pubococcygeus muscle contracts when terminating a stream of urine, and is the muscle which contracts during orgasm. This contraction helps prevent retrograde ejaculation (ejaculation back into the bladder), and of course prevents the bladder from draining during orgasm.
Problems Women have Ejaculating
I think there are two major problems women face that prevents them from the immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation. They are the female's mental attitude, and their partner’s inability or unwillingness to spend the time and effort during lovemaking and to learn the necessary techniques. We will address both of these problems and the solutions here.
The ejaculation is done through the urethra. This is the same tube that is used for urination. It is located outside the vagina, between it and the clitoris. The fluid is water like, and non- lubricating. In no way does ejaculation improve the chances of conceiving, it offers no lubrication, and is dumped outside of the vagina. The only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing the best orgasm's. Often ejaculation takes place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm (yes there are two type of orgasms, clitoral and vaginal, but often orgasm is a combination of the two), giving the female extreme pleasure, sort of a triple whammy. Sometimes after ejaculation, the female will virtually pass out from the intense feelings.
It can be argued that since the only reason that females can and do ejaculate is for pleasure, then there should be no reason for them to not do so, and as often as they please. It is one of the safer sex acts, since in most cases it can be triggered with fingers alone. Ejaculating from intercourse is more difficult, especially when performed from the missionary position, but still possible.
Preparation Recommendations for the Woman's Partner
Wash hands well. Trim fingernails. Make sure that the thumb, and first two finger nails do not extend past the fingertips. Trimming them as far back as possible would be best. Make sure that there is no dirt or crud under the fingernails.
Place a towel on the bed. A surprising amount of fluid can be released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male it can be like a water cannon instead of a water pistol.
Have some K&Y Jelly handy. At some point, additional lubrication may be necessary, even if she is having heavy orgasms and climaxes.
Set aside enough time. The first successful ejaculation may take from 10 minutes to over an hour.
It may be wise to exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for several days prior to this exercise. The motions necessary can become quite tiring after a while if you are not in good physical shape.
Before beginning the first time, discuss it. Let her know that you are striving to give her an ejaculation. That female ejaculation is perfectly normal, and a wonderful experience for both of you. Convince her that there is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. Explain that just prior to ejaculation, she most likely will feel like she is about to pee. This is a difficult point for many women, as they will immediately draw back. Convince her that it is normally impossible to pee during an orgasm, and that the feeling is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate.
Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra will initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to pass. In other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should go ahead and pee. Only it really won't be pee, it will be an ejaculation, and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her that this is something quite different. Once she knows the feeling, she will be able to push it out once it starts, with astounding results. It is best for the partner to be sitting between her legs at this time, else she may overshoot the towel or even wet the far wall.
Once she has ejaculated, rejoice with her. Don't make fun, or a joke. If you do it may be the last time she will be able to ejaculate, at least in your presence. Unlike a man, this is not the end. You can continue, and she may well have multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further stimulation.
Technique
Start slow. Use typical foreplay. You may want to start with her on her back. Stimulate the clitoris. This can be done with a moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing cunnilingus while rubbing her breasts with your hands can be quite stimulating for her. At any rate, continue clitoral stimulation until she is lubricated. At this point slide two fingers into her vagina. Allow them to move along the front wall of the vagina. You should encounter an area about 2 inches in, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.
Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient.
Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in- out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Watch her reactions.
Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her. When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go for it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words. She may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable with both you, and the idea of ejaculation.
This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond much better. With the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina.
The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.
Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had.
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Kelly's version of how to make a Woman Squirt
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Posted:Feb 20, 2008 12:25 pm
Last Updated:Aug 20, 2008 7:36 pm
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Okay, firstly let me get this straight; everyone is going to be different in how they are designed both physically and mentally so results will vary.
1. The woman must WANT this to happen 100% for herself and NOT just for her man.
2. The woman must be ready to take her sexuality to a new and different level of just cumming clitorially ONLY.
3. The woman should do some research with either both books and/or videos to see that it is a natural state to ejaculate and not a "magic trick" for show.
4. The woman must be ready mentally to know that she will NOT be in control when she squirts/ejaculates and will let herself go completely.
5. The woman must be somewhat confident and understanding of her body and her sensations.
6. The man must be 100% supportive of his partner with her wanting to squirt.
7. The man not put pressure of ANY kind on her to produce a firehose effect..or a porn star projection.
8. The man must LISTEN to his woman and not assume anything that only she knows and understands about her body.
9. The man should not assume that sticking his fingers in her HARD on her G-spot will produce a squirt. This may work for some but not ALL ( I don't do well with that technique myself)
10. The man should be there for the woman and do whatever SHE wants you to do to make her feel comfortable so she can relax enough to 'feel' the sensation of squirting.
Okay, so enough of the rules. Next is the actual preparation.
Firstly, for this to happen, the woman should be HORNY AS HELL....watch some porn flicks/youporn to get her going and a glass of wine maybe too! Dim the lights, put on some candles, no phones, no interruptions! This may take 5 minutes or 2 hours depending on how you approach it and how she feel comfortable and ready. I would recommend a couple of towels underneath her while she is on her back. Legs up in the air with bent knees is a comfortable position. I use a vibrator on my clit to really get me going and even a CURVED dildo (especially made for squirting at your local sex shop) to get me ready.
Once your woman is feeling that PEE sensation she is getting close! Do NOT rush her, let her play with herself unless she asks you to help. First time squirters almost always learn on their own (though I did have the help of a eager hottie!) It happens when she feels like she has to pee but! then she MUST relax relax relax that muscles she is seizing and LET IT ALL GO WHILE BEARING DOWN. This is the KEY. Bearing down while stimulating the clit and the g spot has the better chance to connect and produce the wetness you are looking for. Don't worry if it's not a projector shot - if you bear down while feeling the peeing sensation you are NOT peeing, you are SQUIRTING!!!! The first time is so exciting - everyone is both shocked and ecstatic! If you are nervous about peeing then I would recommend going the bathroom BEFORE you start this.
So, that my two cents with how I see it. I believe woman are supposed to squirt (ejaculate) like men but because of repression over the years women have inadvertently suppressed their natural urge to come this way as it is such a vulnerable act to be in and there are those out there (the non free lovers) who feel a woman is there for a man's pleasure and not hers. Not my kind of people! lol
Anyways, hope this helps. I would love for all women to experience the incredible feeling of ejaculating. I misunderstood it like many women that it was a trick of the sorts and well, kinda 'weird'!!! Now, I LOVE IT and I know my partners do too!!! My wish is that we all understood it as a natural, beautiful occurrence that brings double the pleasure of a clitoral cum.
Good luck to all of you who are thinking about doing it. You WILL NOT REGRET IT.
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Do you perfer to Play at Parties??
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Posted:Feb 14, 2008 6:02 am
Last Updated:Feb 19, 2008 12:31 pm
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Just wondered if most couples that love to play do so more at Swng parties or one on one? We perfer parties where there are at least 5 couples as we never have to worry if each couple gets along. It's so tuff to find a solid match with only one other couple.
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Tampa Swing Clubs
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Posted:Jan 20, 2008 4:30 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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Are we blessed or what to have the most openly sexually open clubs in the country.... but are we under attack by the election season? We are so sick of others trying to take away our rights to choose what we do. What's your thoughts.. we for one are sick of the crap.!
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Is Tampa Florida a Swingers Paridise??
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Posted:Dec 16, 2007 6:19 pm
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2009 12:01 pm
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We seem to be having the best times of our lives living here in Florida. I keep hearing other places in the country are tuff to hook up with other couples. Can this really be...?? Let's here your thoughts..!
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Do other guys like the Squirt
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Posted:Nov 1, 2007 12:49 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 11:1 pm
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Just wondering how many other guys like to taste their ladies Squirt? Not Piss... Squirt..!
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